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  • Ages 30-49
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6' 3" (1.91m)
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A little extra
Has kid(s) and doesn’t want more
My self-summary
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So here's the part where I have to try and talk about myself, or rather, try to sell myself to sound more appealing, right? Oy Vey!

A friend of mine recently told me that I am far from simple but rather complex in simple ways and I could agree there. I am a father to two children, currently aged 8 & 10, of whom I share custody with their mother and we do co-parent very well. My kids are my first priority in my life, above everything else, and I would hope you'd understand that some of my time will be devoted to them.

I guess rather than have the typical 'cookie cutter' profile that so many others have "I like to travel, I like to hike, blah blah blah," I'll just share a couple of highlights of mine, and what I'm looking for in your qualities to see if we have a potential match in interests.

* Raised to be a gentleman (don't believe in asking for naked pictures, or treating a woman badly or like an object, especially a stranger on a dating website).
* Divorced for over three years and have done the whole 'casual dating' thing already and am now seeking a potential LTR to develop in a slow fashion with someone I know there's a true connection with. Also believe in the whole 'one woman man, and one man woman concept' too.
* Comfortable with my faith & morals as well as having God in my life. This doesn't mean that you need be, but I have based all 37 years of my life with a set of 'rules' I live by, all while respecting many different views and opinions of others as well.
* An "ISFJ" for those of you know what that means :-)
* Enjoys an occasional hike - like a day out at Hendy Woods State Park, or out at Pt. Reyes, but I'm not an experienced hiker by any means, and I'm good with that.
* Loves life, no really, I mean it - this is it, there's no second chances at this, so why not at least try to enjoy your time here? If you can't do that, then I'm sorry things have come to that point for you.
* Believes in romance/doing nice things for others/showing that I care. I'm a giver and often wear my heart on my sleeve - it's just the way I see things functioning in a healthy relationship.
* Work in what many would describe a more challenging environment (in a jail), and with that comes stress, shift work, random overtime, and just a lot of "blah." So that means on my off time, I make sure there's a clear separation and I enjoy every moment "outside of the walls."
* Have my act together, but will always be a work in progress, and do come with flaws & carry my baggage well (It fits well in the overhead compartment the last time I checked!).

* Know at this point in the game what it is you're looking for in life, have yours mostly together, but are a work in progress, come flawed, and with baggage that carries well.
* Are serious about wanting to get to know someone to see if there is true compatibility and are not simply wanting to add me to a pool of other guys all fighting for your attention and time.
* May or may not have children, but do understand that I do, and have the patience to understand what its like to be a parent and that if we were to get serious, you would not be meeting my kids right away (also means that I'm not ready to pack up and travel the world just yet either :-) ).
* Have a smile that's genuine (you may ask why, but a lot can be said about a person and how they carry their smiles, and honestly a great smile can be such a turn on as well in my opinion).
* Can appreciate the fact that there's more to life than gym/running/biking/hiking/etc...
* Are looking for someone who will push you to be the best "______" (mother/daughter/human) that you possibly can and will have your back as well.
* Don't take yourself too seriously, like to laugh, enjoy humor - even if it's dry at times, and could just picture yourself enjoying spending time with a tall bald guy! :-)
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
Watching the world develop through the eyes of my children and also enjoying the fascination and wonder of everything right along with them & also wishing they'd stop growing so fast!

Currently on a quest to find the best pizza in the world, er, maybe just locally since I won't be traveling the world any time soon. I've found some serious contenders so far!

Also on a quest to find a horror movie that will actually scare me, which seems to be harder and harder to find. I usually turn to the Asian horror movies for this.

Learning to balance a work/social/fatherhood life all while making sure each day counts so I don't wind up like the poor saps in Office Space in the beginning of the movie ha ha.

Learning how to apply the principles my father taught me about being "old fashioned" in today's ever-changing society.

Always on the search for the cheapest price on gas.

Lastly, letting life lead me in new directions, and remaining curious about what my future holds and very optimistic & excited!!!
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Understanding the fact that I enjoy being single, and don't NEED to have a relationship, but also know that it would be nice to share my life with someone who has similar interests to me.

Encouraging people do so "stuff" like retire from a crappy job, leave an abusive ex, persuade someone to buy an iPhone from the Verizon store that I just happened to be walking around in (I had an Android phone on Sprint at the time!), or to simply calm down, and take a deep breath and relax for a moment.

Not trying to sound erotic here or anything, but back massages too - I am really good at giving those.

Showing empathy, and understanding that there's usually a story behind everything and therefore no reason to cast judgement right away.

And the one thing I know I'm NOT really good at is buying wine - I have absolutely no clue, and the one time I actually ventured over to the wine aisle at Safeway, you would have thought I was in a foreign country - I couldn't tell you what the difference is in anything!!
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
It never fails, the first thing that people say when they see me is that I am really tall. I'm only 6 foot 3 but I guess that must be tall huh? People also comment on my smile and say how nice of a smile it is.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Help your potential matches find common interests.
I'm totally into the scary stuff, be it on the small screen or the large screen. Some of my more recent favorites have included:
* The Walking Dead
* The Conjuring
* World War Z
* Under the Dome (Huge King fan!)

And some of my classic favorites include:
* The Fog (the original by John Carpenter)
* Final Destination (the original)
* Flash Forward (was a series on ABC)
* Harpers Island (series on CBS)
* Murder in Small Town X (series on Fox)

As for food, I'm very simple but lately I've been trying many new things from many different ethnicities (again, such a great treat to live in the bay area). But my favorite food still remains a big ass hamburger with onion rings and a great beer to go with it.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
Only six things huh?

* First and foremost would be my children - they are really what makes me, me.

* My family & friends and the support and love they provide in my life.

* My faith & beliefs as well as my connection with God - while I may not be the "church every Sunday" kind of person, I do base my life off of morals and beliefs I've developed all throughout my life.

* My left eye (see my most private thing I'm willing to admit and this will make more sense).

* My understanding/patience/empathy in life. We live in some challenging times and I also have a very challenging job which makes it hard to keep an open mind about society but I remain successful in maintaining that balance.

* A Spotify account - there's a song for everything and for any point in time in my opinion, and I've usually got music playing at any given time. Spotify seems to keep up with my rapid changes in what I want to listen to as my mood changes, plus who likes listening to commercials anymore anyway, right?
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
Spending a lot of time thinking about stuff can be dangerous... stopping to think about the past cam trigger bad memories and thinking about the figure can potentially freak someone out about some random potential future that may or may not happen. I've learned that aside from my kids, it's often better not to think long an hard about things, but rather to simply enjoy the life you have right there in front of you - live in the moment.

~ but ~

I do think a lot about the fact that I am glad Carly Rae's song "Call me maybe" isn't popular anymore! Got so sick to all of the references to that song lol!

I also often think about how I could be more like this guy: because I think it would be awesome to travel the world and simply dance and not give a care about anything while getting the local community involved. Plus, I really like the tune too!

And where I can find a great price on gas!
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Depending on the weekend, I'll either be spending time with my kids trying to keep the peace in my apartment before they want to beat each other up.

Or, I'll be out on my conquest to search for the best pizza on the planet, or maybe walking across the Golden Gate Bridge? Possibly at the bayside trail near SFO watching planes take off and land while taking pictures??

There's always my favorite dive bar (Andresens) in Petaluma too! It really depends on how things end up quite honestly.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
The most private thing that I'm willing to admit is that I am blind in my right eye. I was born that way and know no differently.
You should message me if
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* You actually made it this far by reading this long ass profile!

* If your "enemy" percentage isn't very high - not sure how this site calculates how much percentage an enemy could become to someone else but there must be some secret methods.

* If you're interested in talking to a humorous guy that likes to laugh.

* If you can carry on a decent conversation.

* If your profile doesn't have a picture of your car in it.

* If you're not on probation or parole.

* If you know the difference between their, there, and they're.

* If you don't use netspeak.

* If you liked reading my profile.

* Or, if you know of a good pizza place here in the North Bay that I might find interesting!