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29 Seattle, WA Man


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  • Ages 21–40
  • Near me
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating

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Last Online
Today – 7:22am
6′ 1″ (1.85m)
Body Type
Mostly anything
When drinking
Atheism, but not too serious about it
Pisces, but it doesn’t matter
Graduated from space camp
Relationship Status
Relationship Type
Strictly non-monogamous
Doesn’t have kids, but wants them
Has dogs and likes cats
English (Fluently)

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My self-summary
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Human, outgoing, polyamorous, queer friendly, heteroflexible, sex-positive, married to CaylaLovely, kinky, engineer, newly in love with reading. Enjoys hiking, backpacking, rock climbing, drinking fine spirits, conversation with strangers, and geeking out on whatever interests you.

Long form:
I'm confident, forward, and open, sometimes a tad immodest. I hold strong beliefs, but try to stay open to hearing the other side.

I've been a member of the Seattle Center for Sex Positive Culture for a couple years or so and have been making inroads to the lovely Seattle kink community. I have a profile on Fetlife, but would rather you ask me for the link than post it here.

I think I'm a hermit at heart who learned how to be outgoing. I drink more then I should, but not too much more. I love to go out and party with friends, but also enjoy a quite night in.

I'm an actual nerd, and avid gamer. I don't mean trendy pseudo-nerd, but actual software engineering, technology loving, must know how everything works, nerd. I promise not to dominate the conversation with stories of my latest digital conquest, unless you're into that kind of thing...
What I’m doing with my life
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I work, a lot, and I love my work. The unfortunate reality is, it can really eat into free time.

I also love to hike, rock climb, build fires in my back yard, and drink whiskey. I'm also convinced that some combination of these is the perfect date.

I'm also pretty passionate about personal growth. Not in the new-age neo-hippy sense, but in the "What don't I like about myself that I can change?" sense.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Being a little bit too honest, over-sharing, solving problems, inventing problems to solve, logic.

Sometimes I seem to be very good at understanding others, but some of you still perplex me.
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
After they notice that I'm tall and thin, I think they noticed that I'm making eye contact with them. I'm afraid this tends to make people uncomfortable.

Beyond that, I'm going to hope they notice my trustworthy face and mischievous smile... but they probably just notice that I've been wearing the same jacket for 6 months.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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I read in binges. Sometimes no books for 9 months, then 1k pages in 3 weeks. When I do find the time to sit down with a book I love it. I'm not going to list all the high-school classics. Sure their good, but everybody loves them.
Dance Dance Dance and Norwegian Wood by Haruki Murakami
The Prophet by Khalil Gibran
Story of O by Pauline Réage
A Heartbreaking Work of Staggering Genius by Dave Eggers
I just finished Angle of Repose by Wallace Stegner and loved it.

I read the first 80 pages of 50 Shades of Grey and thought it was awful.

Movies are easier:
Requiem for a Dream
Die Hard (all of em)
Gladiator (don't judge)
Star Trek (all of them +the series)
Lord of the Rings Trilogy
Dancer in the Dark (but I'll never, ever watch it again)

Music is the easiest, tends to be fluid, and I'd rather talk about what I've been listening to this week instead of my favorites.
Iron and Wine
Of Montreal
Fleet Foxes
The Mountain Goats
Florence + The Machine
Dutchess and the Duke
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
Sex Positive culture
Unlearned knowledge
Kozmo and Toshiro, my corgi pups
New, interesting people
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
Don't ask, it's forbidden to know, what end
the gods have granted to me or you, Leuconoe. Don't play with Babylonian
fortune-telling either. How much better it is to endure whatever will be!
Whether Jupiter has allotted to sink you many more winters or this final one
which even now wears out the Tyrrhenian sea on the rocks placed opposite
— be wise, strain the wine, and scale back your long hopes
to a short period. While we speak, envious time will have fled
Seize the day, trusting as little as possible in the future.

Present day:
lol, YOLO!
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Either at home being a hermit with Star Trek, or out in Ballard or Beltown getting hammered with some friends and coworkers. On an occasional Friday night, I'll be pitching a tent at a trailhead in preparation for an adventure.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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I've already told you more about myself than most people I interact with on a daily basis know. The most private thing in my world is the nature of my relationship with my wife, and our power exchange dynamic. If you know what that means, let's chat.
You should message me if
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You're poly and want to share your experiences, trials, and tribulations.

Or, you're kinky and want my fetlife profile link

Or, you know when the narwhal bacons

Of, you want to discover the best coffee shop in Seattle

Or, you know anything about the Seattle rave scene and will share your knowledge

Or, you simply want to chat about how fucking ridiculous everything is.

I try to respond to every message, simply because I like talking to people. If I keep showing up as viewing your profile, it's probably because I think you're cute. This is also a reasonable reason to message me.

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