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I’m looking for

  • Men
  • Ages 33-42
  • Near me
  • Who are single
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating

My details

Last online
Nov 23
5' 6" (1.68m)
Body Type
Doesn’t have kids
English (Fluently), German (Somewhat)
My self-summary
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What I’m doing with my life
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Always something new. Mixology school, first successful takeoff & landing, sailing, introductory Italian, Art History 101, swimming, yoga (love you, Moksha) . . . I love learning, academic and experiential. In my not-so-free time I'm employed in higher ed, which I highly recommend for the tuition benefits (but not so much the other compensation :) .
I’m really good at
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Giving thoughtful presents & the perfect card.

Cultivating new interests (when I dive in, I go deep--sometimes "research" deep).

Strategizing/planning (details, details, details . . . I'm good at getting you in line).

Cuddling (don't message me if you are not advanced at snuggling).

Expressing myself in print (not making much of a case for myself here, I realize, but not interested in posturing as super 'quippy & cool'--feels a bit unapproachable to me).

Conversation. I find everyone interesting (note to poseurs & ego maniacs: you are fascinating, but I'll only read about you ;) .

Matchmaking: books & the people who will love them.


Loving and appreciating the people in my life; told I'm quite a good friend.

Overusing parentheses (and no longer feeling self-conscious about it).
The first things people usually notice about me
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I'm not such a big person. But don't dare call me 'little'. In my mind's eye, I'm just as big as you are . . . unless you're 6 foot or above - you people do seem kinda tall up close.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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Some books that live with me for convenient revisiting: The Sailor from Gibraltar (M. Duras); The English Patient (M. Ondaatje); Space Merchants (Pohl & Kornbluth); Do Androids Dream of Electric Sheep (P.K. Dick); The Awakening (K. Chopin); The Bell Jar & Ariel (S. Plath); The Moviegoer (W. Percy); & box loads more that require much heavy lifting when moving.

Don't spend much time watching television, but old favorites are as follows: Charlie Rose (god, what I'd give to be his water glass--or the guest glass); Keeping Up Appearances (British humor--often superior); Twin Peaks; & BTVS.

Movies: Up for anything and enjoy most, though I'll say I'm happiest with indie films and local theaters. Did my 1st Music Box of Horrors in 2012--made it 18 hours straight (nope, didn't even 'rest my eyes'). For some reason, the imagery from 'The Beyond' is still stuck. Planning another attempt. (UPDATE: missed it twice -- but on the 2015 calendar).

Radio: NPR junkie (Sound Opinion, Wait Wait, TAL, Bob Edwards Weekend, Prairie Home Companion--look, I'm a nerd of sorts, & happy that way), but my forever fav is RadioLab (you are men after my own heart, Jad & Robert).

Music: Pretty open here, but my crush for the last few years is Joan As Policewoman. Fun fact: Didn't plan on it, but I have a favorite opera! Love Lyric's Next student tixs.

& I take The New Yorker and Mental Floss (did you know octopuses can run?!?).
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
Family; Friends; Words; Hugs & Kisses; Music; Art.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
Is it time to go to the grocery???

How can I read all these books before I die? I can't choose!

Why is "Hip to Be Square" omitted from Huey Lewis & The News' greatest hits album?

Smudged my glasses again, already?
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Enjoying my after-yoga-blissed-out-glow.

Or, very soon, hope to be enjoying evening pool hours in the setting sun, with cooling temps and a well-disguised glass of wine in hand (shhhh -- libations not allowed on deck).
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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Privacy and the internet . . . .

Okay, fine. I own both seasons of Pee Wee's Playhouse including the Playhouse Xmas special. It's art, okay. Really. It is. Even PBS agrees:

Closeted romantic. Would still like to meet someone special and learn to take care of one another.

Listening to 87.7 MeTV FM makes me smile.

And . . . sometimes I still buy compact discs.
You should message me if
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You think it's worthwhile to meet women even if they don't end up a 'cupid' match--i.e., you like women as friends, 'cause they're interesting people, just like you.

You have loved an animal.

You live in Chicago or somewhere quite nearby.

You make mistakes.

You know how to apologize.

You agree: West Side Story? Most uncomfortable musical ever.

You find this kinda wonderful: