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35 Chicago, IL Woman


I’m looking for

  • Men
  • Ages 30–40
  • Near me
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating

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Last online
Yesterday – 7:16am
5′ 5″ (1.65m)
Body type
Mostly anything
Graduated from university
Doesn’t have kids

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My self-summary
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What I’m doing with my life
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Always something new. Mixology school, first successful takeoff & landing, sailing, introductory Italian, Art History 101, swimming, yoga (love you, Moksha) . . . I love learning, academic and experiential. In my not-so-free time I'm employed in higher ed, which I highly recommend for the tuition benefits (but not so much the other compensation :) .

Oh, and back in school AGAIN. Fourth time. Yeah....
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Giving thoughtful presents & the perfect card.

Cultivating new interests (when I dive in, I go deep--like sometimes "research" deep).

Strategizing/planning (details, details, details . . . I'm good at getting you in line.)

Cuddling (don't message me if you are not advanced at snuggling).

Expressing myself in print (not making much of a case for myself here, I realize, but not interested in posturing as super 'quippy & cool'--feels a bit unapproachable to me, sometimes).

Easy to talk to. I find nearly everyone interesting (note to poseurs & ego maniacs: you are fascinating, but I'll only read about you ;) .

Matchmaking: books & the people who will love them.


Loving and appreciating the people in my life; told I'm quite a good friend.
The first things people usually notice about me
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I'm not such a big person. But don't you dare call me 'little'. In my mind, I'm just as big as you are (kinda like that tiny dog that doesn't realize it stands no chance against the Doberman)!
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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Some books that live with me for convenient revisiting: The Sailor from Gibraltar (M. Duras); The English Patient (M. Ondaatje); Space Merchants (Pohl & Kornbluth); Do Androids Dream of Electric Sheep (P.K. Dick); The Awakening (K. Chopin); The Bell Jar & Ariel (S. Plath); The Moviegoer (W. Percy); & box loads more that require much heavy lifting when moving.

Don't spend much time watching television, but old favorites are as follows: Charlie Rose (god, what I'd give to be his water glass--or the guest glass); Keeping Up Appearances (British humor--often superior); Twin Peaks; & BTVS.

Movies: Up for anything and enjoy most, though I'll say I'm happiest with indie films and local theaters. Did my 1st Music Box of Horrors last year--made it 18 hours straight (nope, didn't even 'rest my eyes'). For some reason, the imagery from 'The Beyond' is still stuck. Planning another attempt. As of now, Chucky's in the lineup (original, of course), & he still scares the bejesus outta me. (UPDATE: missed it this year & still ticked)

Radio (which certainly should not be left out): NPR junkie (Sound Opinion, Wait Wait, TAL, Bob Edwards Weekend, Prarie Home Companion--look, I'm a nerd of sorts, & happy that way), but my forever fav is RadioLab (you are men after my own heart, Jad & Robert).

Music: Pretty open here, but my crush for the last 5 years is Joan As Policewoman. Fun fact: Didn't plan on it, but I have a favorite opera! Love Lyric's Next student tixs.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
Family; Friends; Words; Hugs & Kisses; Music; Art.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
When will I ever get to Japan or tour the catacombs at Vatican City? I'll never make it to Katherine's menagerie if haven't even gone to Intuit or the Surgical Museum--& I LIVE HERE!
(UPDATE: Surgical Museum: Check!)

Is it time to go to the grocery???

How can I read all these books before I die? I can't choose!

Has Carly Simon provided for us in her will or will we forever wonder who was that vain?

I smudged my glasses again, already?
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Enjoying my after-yoga-blissed-out glow.

Or, now trying to catch up on my reading for class and meeting my book club's expectations.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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Privacy and the internet are diametrically opposed. Therefore, I'm unable to answer.

Okay, fine. I own both seasons of Pee Wee's Playhouse including the Playhouse Xmas special. It's art, okay. Really. It is. Even PBS agrees:
You should message me if
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You think it's worthwhile to meet women even if they don't end up a 'cupid' match--i.e., you like women as friends, 'cause they're interesting people, just like you.

Don't message me if:

You have never loved an animal.

You don't live in Chicago or somewhere quite nearby.

You don't make mistakes.

You don't know how to apologize.

You like West Side Story (most uncomfortable musical ever).

You don't find this wonderful: