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42 M Bloomingdale, IL

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6′ 2″ (1.88m)
Body Type
Mostly anything
Catholicism, and somewhat serious about it
Sagittarius, but it doesn’t matter
Relationship Status
Relationship Type
Strictly monogamous
Doesn’t have kids, but wants them
Likes dogs
English (Fluently)

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My self-summary
"Opinions. - Most people are nothing and are considered nothing until they have dressed themselves up in general convictions and public opinions - in accordance with the tailor philosophy: clothes make people. Of the exceptional person, however, it must be said: only he that wears it makes the costume; here opinions cease to be public and become something other than masks, finery, and disguises."
~ Friedrich Nietzsche, Seventy-Five Aphorisms from Five Volumes, Mixed Opinions and Maxims (1879)

Summarize myself? Seriously? To what length should I limit such a novel? My family is still figuring me out, and they have known me my entire life! *Chuckles*

In all sincerity, I am a wholly unique man. The only way to summarize myself in a manner which is brief and let's you know the essence of who I am is to say that you will never meet another person like me so long as you live. That is neither for the better or the worse, nor indifference.

I've lived an interesting life, and in many respects a very amazing life. I've seen much and I've done much and I've interacted with an extraordinarily diverse group of people throughout that entire time. I've always striven to become the best me that I can possibly be, and I have no regrets of the choices I've made throughout my journey thus far.

Life isn't always easy, but to quote Confucius, "No matter where you go ~ there you are." Life isn't about the destination, it's not about a finish line, there's no first, second or third prize..... it's about the journey. The journey is absolutely incredible, when it's not taken for granted. Money & stuff are so grossly over-emphasized. 100 years from now, no one will remember how much money you have, nor how much stuff you have...... time is the only important value...... what you do with your time, who you share your time with.....

The only life wasted is one which wasted time, squandered it as though it was an entitlement. Time is not promised.... time is not guaranteed. Most people I see suffering in unfulfilling relationships are doing so because they take spending time together for granted.... wasting it bickering and arguing over trivial things of trivial significance.... and for what? Time is all that we have to give, and all that we have to share. Time is priceless.

To share one's time is to share one's love, for what greater value can we offer to another than our time and our attention?
What I’m doing with my life
I just relocated back to Bloomingdale..... where I grew up. In many ways, I feel like I'm finally "home." My career is progressing well, and now I've just one principle goal in life left to attain ~ to meet the woman with whom I'll start a family with; share life's adventures with; be best friends with..... I'm ultimately seeking a wife. You know, for better or worse, in sickness & in health, until death do us part.....

I don't want a "girlfriend" or an activity buddy. I want a woman who wants to start and raise a family together. Who doesn't see me as nothing more than the "man she comes home to" ~ but instead, the man she goes out with. If hanging out with your girlfriends is more important than spending time with me..... don't let me keep you waiting. Enjoy life and the best of luck to you.
I’m really good at
In truth, there isn't much I'm not good at when I put my mind and heart into it. When I took the ASVAB entrance exam for the Army, I scored in the 98th percentile - in the top 2% of the population. Even the army admitted that there simply wasn't anything I didn't qualify for. I went on to be the Distinguished Honor Graduate of my advanced training class, and was at the top of my class in every training I underwent throughout my army career.

I write poetry as a hobby, I study history for fun..... I'm a firm believer, based upon all I have seen throughout my life, that a person should continuously strive to become the best "person" that they can become. There's always something to be learned ~ and the day we stop learning is the day we start dying. I've seen it too many times to have any doubts, the moment a person believes that there's nothing left that they need to learn, they start eroding both mentally and physically.
The first things people usually notice about me
I've always been able to look out over crowds, but having been playing basketball throughout my youth, I never really felt I was "that" tall..... until I just saw the statistics, and realized that less than 4% of the U.S. population is 6'2" or taller...... I'd always thought it odd when women met me for the first time and were surprised by how tall I am. I'm 6'2" tall - and I always felt I was pretty normal in height (you get that perception when you've spent a lot of time around people who were 6'5" and taller).

Having seen the actual statistics, I get it now..... my height is what many women notice first.

Then it's usually my blue eyes, my smile, and my relaxed demeanor - and the ease with which I can discuss or talk about any topic. (I don't mean that I know everything about everything - but that I don't get "embarassed" or uneasy about any topics).
The six things I could never do without
Forget about the necessities of survival; I've done that list before, and it just seems a bit "blah" for lack of a better term.

After 42 years, there pretty much isn't anything that "I could never do without."

To offer up another popular Army quote..... "I've been doing so much, for so long, with so little; I am now qualified to do anything with nothing."
I spend a lot of time thinking about
What I think about changes any given moment. In terms of important things that I ponder over..... right now I wonder how I ended up being a 42 year old man who has yet to have children..... more specifically, why I have yet to meet the woman with whom I'll have children and share my life with.

Then I realize that I have moved twelve times, lived in two different countries and four different states in the past twenty years..... yeah, that likely had something to do with it. I wouldn't trade a single moment of my past for anything. Perhaps it precluded me from attaining one of my goals prior to now; but I accomplished the vast majority of all my other goals during that time.

In short, I won't look back over my life thirty years from now and have any regrets. I've lived life, thus far, on MY terms ~ and I'll continue living life on my own terms. Life is too short to "compromise" away one's hopes and dreams. I have only one dream left to attain..... to be a husband and father ~ of 27 kids! JUST KIDDING!!!! I want more than one child..... as I grew up an only child, and it kind of sucked. Three would be my ideal..... I really don't have any requirements in that..... I want at least one son and one daughter.
On a typical Friday night I am
There is no typical Friday for me. I despise anything resembling "routine." I thrive on variety.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
Why I'm still single.....

Growing up, I just wanted to get away and explore the world a bit. So after I got bored with college, I enlisted in the Army. My first stop was Ft. Bliss in El Paso, TX ~ and let's just say that at the time, Juarez Mexico was quite a fun place to hang out. After about a year I met a woman from El Paso who I thought I could settle down with and share my life with, and then I was deployed to South Korea for 14 months. That's when I discovered that the woman I thought I could settle down with had no intentions of being faithful to me. So, upon returning from Korea, we divorced.

I grew up in Bloomingdale, IL. Since then I have lived in Florida - twice, Texas, New Mexico, Korea - twice, Wisconsin - twice, and various places in Illinois. I cannot even list all of the places I have been to through the years. I have met several women through the years who would have been absolutely perfect for me..... but they simply didn't feel the same way in return. It is what it is. If I had the answers, I would have been married and settled down for some time now..... but meeting someone who wants to do so has proven to be quite a challenge. Moving and travelling around so much has probably played the largest role in that.

So about 2-1/2 years ago, I received a career opportunity which has brought me back to the greater Chicago area. I initially settled in McHenry due to the location I was working at, but now my responsibilities have shifted to our corporate offices, which has opened up the door for me to return "home" to where I grew up. Friends and family have long since moved away from there, but it still feels like home to me.

I've passed the point of waiting to find someone to settle down with..... so now I'm just settling down. I'm returning home, and I'm not leaving again. So, in all honesty, the woman who wants to settle down with me is going to have to want to settle down here.

That's not to say that I do not still like taking vacations and travelling..... but I'm not moving anywhere else in the world again. Which means that those who want to move to warmer climates..... I'm seriously not the man you want to choose. I hate the heat. Seriously, this winter was exactly like the winters I grew up with.... and I LOVED IT! And now I am sooooo waiting for the spring.... and that's just it - I love having all four seasons. I love the changing seasons and the changing weather.

Having travelled all over the world, this is where I want to live. This is where I want to be settled down at. This is where I would love to raise a family.
I’m looking for
  • Girls who like guys
  • Ages 21–45
  • Near me
  • Who are single
  • For long-term dating
You should message me if
To Quote Walt Whitman:
"That you are here - that life exists and identity,
That the powerful play goes on, and you may contribute a verse."
~ from 'O Me! O Life!' - Leaves of Grass (1892)

Don't settle for ordinary by waiting for somebody else to make the first move. One must sieze their own opportunities and take their own chances..... the knight in shining armor is always rescuing the damsel in distress, or pursuing the king's queen...... look for the man in the dirty, dented armor ~ for he has waged battle and survived.