Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
Life should be fun. Always trying to improve in some way or
another. I just completed my Focus 3 life training. My contract
with myself is this: I am a loyal, bold, passionate, generous man.
If you haven't been thru Focus that won't mean much to you, but I
put it out there just in case you have. Plus the fact I'm proud of
it. Live for truth, create integrity.
Anyway, I have lots of friends and yes, some are girls so when you
see them on my profile rest assured they are dear friends and
nothing else. We talk about everything. No holds barred and no
I don't have very many pictures of me in the professional mode so
you'll have to deal with my 'out on the town' pics.
I'll trust you until you give me a reason not to. Having said that,
trust is everything.
I'm definitely not the controlling type. I try to stay
versatile...the guy that can do a formal, classy, sporting, get
crazy and all kinds of other events. I even shape my wardrobe
I'm looking for the one I can't do without. When I say that I'm not
talking about "what you can do for me, cooking etc..." but rather,
"who you are both mentally and physically". Someone who knows me
and all my good traits as well as the bad ones and can accept me
for who I am. I know you're thinking 'how can this guy possibly
have any bad traits', but it's true, I do. That was a joke :-) but
for real it's got to be the right girl. I'm in no hurry to settle
down with anyone unless we have a bulletproof
connection/relationship. This may sound totally gay, but I love
seeing the 70 ish year old couple, that's been together forever,
holding hands and looking so happy. That's where I want to be when
I'm that age. Easy, right?
What rings my bell is a girl who's:
• rich on personality and spirit
• light hearted
• cute. Yes ladies, physical attraction is a player. I wish it
wasn't like that for me, but it is and I've come to grips with
• affectionate-physical touch and words of affirmation
• can talk about anything and is not easily offended-I say that
because my friends and I sometimes have no filter
• strong and confident enough to trust even though you may have
been burned before. We've all been burned, but in my opinion, when
you let it take away your ability to trust you've given your power
away, and surrendered to the one(s) who've hurt you
• opens doors for me and likes to buy me chocolates and
Ok, so I was kidding on the last bullet point, but the rest of it
is exactly what I'm looking for :-)
Those were the basics. If you want to read more here you go:
I've been a software developer for years. I've recently taken a job
as a technical business analyst at a company very close to me in
I have friends I go out and do things with. They're important to
me. We all have our own ideas about what type of relationship we
want and mine is one where I want to take you out with my friends
and you want to take me along with yours too. Take note: you don't
have to include me in your fun time, but WANT to...Are you the type
that wouldn't mind coming out with or meeting up with us?
I also enjoy the quiet evenings. Like I say, I have several pics of
me out with friends, but that's only because people don't pull out
their phones and start taking shots when I'm sitting at home doing
I love kids, but don't have any of my own. I'm very close to my
niece and two nephews. They're 12, 10 and 8.
My friends and family are important to me and our get togethers
usually involve a few cocktails :-).
I'm not going to list all the things I like to do here because we
don't have to be exactly alike. It's the core things that
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
I've been a mainframe/SQL server developer for years. I'm not the
smartest man on the planet :), but my best skills are the ability
to bridge the gap from technical to people who are non technical.
You know, explain it in ways that regular people can understand.
I've recently taken a job as a business analyst at a company very
close to my house in Lee's Summit.
I have no kids. I'm very, very close to my niece and two nephews.
They're 12, 9 and 7. I love kids and enjoy their company, so if you
have kids it's no problem...actually I consider it a plus for me.
If I was 20-30 I'd say that I wanted to have my own kids, but at 42
I'm thinking I don't want to be 60+ when they graduate from high
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
This question is trying to get me to brag about myself :)
Whatever, here we go. I'm good at relating with people, always
searching for truth, disciplining kids w/ love not anger, working
out 3 to 5 times a week, drinking beer w/ friends, used to be good
at playing drums but haven't played in awhile, making you laugh,
playing golf, spinning negative to positive, having FUN,
learning-technology fascinates me so always learning about that but
also other things. I bought some tools and am getting sort of good
at home maintenance...there are some other things but that's what
I'll start with.
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
As long as you're a good person you can do anything in front of me:
Cus, smoke, vent, drink or whatever else you want to do :)
I do a fairly good job of disarming people. I try to ask a couple
of questions, listen to what they say, and more importantly watch
their reactions/gestures, then take my best shot at putting myself
in their shoes...feel what they feel type thing. Usually after that
we're good to go :)
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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Music is a big part of my life. I haven't played in years so I
don't consider myself a musician anymore, but I love to listen and
find all kinds of good music. As long as it moves my mind in some
way I'll like it...doesn't matter which genre.
Movies-I typically find myself interested in action/adventure or
comedy. I don't really go to the theatres though. I'm more of a
watch a DVD at home with a glass of wine type of guy :)
Food-Love it all.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
Truth: There isn't anything that I can NEVER do without. Here is my
list of what I don't want to do without
Niece and nephews
Spike and Brody-puppy wuppies
Friends-No offense, but mine are the best in the world
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
Ways to get better...at EVERYTHING :)
The past, the future, and connecting the dots between the two.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Either going out with friends, or having friends over. I have lots
of divorced friends, both male and female, coincidentally their
parenting schedules are synced up so if they have kids we'll
usually get together at someone's house and let the kids burn off
energy together. If it's a 'no kid' weekend we usually go out
somewhere so the parents can burn off energy together :)
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
Sometimes I pee in the shower.
You should message me if
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