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37 Madison, WI Man


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  • Ages 26–46
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  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating

My details

Last online
Apr 25
6′ 0″ (1.83m)
Body type
Capricorn, but it doesn’t matter
Graduated from law school
Open relationship
Doesn’t have kids, and doesn’t want any
Has dogs
English (Fluently), German (Poorly)

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My self-summary
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I'm a fairly geeky guy who has very broad interests in learning/knowing as much as I can. I really love learning and exploring new ideas. I am a bit more on the introverted side so I probably get much more of my learning online or by watching it on TV. My curiosity comes with an annoying habit of remembering most everything that I hear, until I'm required to remember the name of a person I just met at a party because people's names often elude me within minutes of learning them.

We're ethically non-monogamous and have found this change to our lifestyle made a couple of years ago to be rewarding. Being able to meet new people has become easier when there isn't underlying concerns about our relationship. As a result I'm continuing efforts to make more friends. If those friendships also have a possibility for romance or some physical fun, I'm down for exploring those opportunities as well.
What I’m doing with my life
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I'm an employment attorney who generally represents employees with more working class jobs, and those who recently lost them. Compared to many of my law school classmates, I don't have the stereotypical lawyer's salary. But, I do get a great deal of satisfaction that I am on the "right" side of many civil rights cases and can feel like I am making a difference in the world.

However, I probably make more of a difference spending time coaching Debate and Speech at a Madison high school. Its great to see kids learn how to express themselves and it guarantees if I really feel like having a political argument, I can drum one up on the spot with no hard feelings in the end.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Remembering things. I've never used a calendar to keep track of important dates and I am usually a desired partner in a triva game (though most people I know generally won't play them with me anymore). I've been a fan of pub trivia when I can fit it in my schedule.

I also enjoy board games for their social elements and the various different forms of thinking they force me to do. Adding people to my circle who just want to play games if fine by me!
The first things people usually notice about me
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For a long time some of my debaters only called me "beardy guy" because they couldn't remeber my name, so I suppose that's a pretty good endorsement that my reddish beard (contrasting with brown hair) is a noticable trait.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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While I ocassionally get into literature or non-fiction, my favorite books are the ones that make me laugh, mostly humorous sci-fi or fantasy. Robert Asprin, Roger Zelanzy, Allen Dean Foster, Tom Holt, A. Lee Martinez all make me happy. This obsession was a result of discovering the Hitchhiker books in junior high and having everything go down hill from there. Now I have a room in my house that has been repurposed as a library, in name, but, in reality, a disaster area caused by lack of sufficient shelves. The problem is made far worse by the storage of an obscene number of board and card games in the same room.

I really love movies but haven't been seeing as many of late. Sci fi and fantasy themed movies generally compete with quirky indie movies for my heart, but I'm also susceptible to the occasional sophomoric comedy.

My musical needs have been met by Pandora recently, which simultaneously reinforces what I liked already and throws me new curveballs. I prefer mostly rock musics as a broad genre but have dedicated Irish punk, indie, and funny music stations. (If there is a standup comedian who sings, I want to be there.) Country and hip-hop/rap I have trouble listening to for extended time. I enjoy classical music, including attending the symphony on occasion) but doomed myself as kid from really enjoying it. I spent about 10 years listening to NPR classical while falling asleep, giving most pieces extreme soporific influence over my brain. I can be listening with great joy one minute and getting jabbed in the ribs to wake up the next.

I love all sorts of food, which is not a great diet plan. If I were pickier I am sure I'd be much better off. Instead I have a dislike for raw tomatoes and baked squash and a can-do attitude for anything else I may not be incredibly enthused about. I have a special fondness for making myself a pan of lasagna.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
Mental stimulation- I fear meditation for the silence and don't have much success when trying to calm my mind.
Interesting new foods- whether I'm attempting to cook or eating out.
Politics- I've been an active progressive all my life and civil rights are dear to me.
Parentheses- My worst writing habit is the over use of this punctuation (and I'm not talking about using them for emoticons).
Deep lasting friendships- Once I solidify a relationship with someone I am very dedicated to them.
A sixth thing to finish this list.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
My burning frustration/hatred for whats going on in WI and nationally and how I often feel I'm not translating that into action nearly enough.

Why I am missing a seemingly obligatory picture of me standing in a high elevation location to put into my OKC profile.

The time spent doing debate with high school kids results in me constantly looking to fully understand fine aspects of trends and themes common in academic thought. The issue of privilege has become huge in debate, which means needing to be able to respond without automatically taking on a racist/bigoted/misogynist position.

Why OKC divides up orientation into fixed categories, leaving no in-between label for me to pick for myself.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Either at a debate/speech tournament or playing games with friends. If either are not an option I'm probably kicking backwith some binge watching off of Netflix or the DVR.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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I have no uvula.
You should message me if
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I seem like someone who would be fun to get to know. I'm quite happy to meet someone to play a game, for the sake of being friends just as much as meeting them for a date.

You want a reply. I don't think I've failed to respond to an opening message from someone on OKC. I'm also very willing to meet up in person with no initial expectations that the person will become a romantic partner or life long friend.