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47 Berkeley, CA Man


I’m looking for

  • Straight women only
  • Ages 30–48
  • Near me
  • Who are single
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating

My Details

Last Online
Online now!
5′ 9″ (1.75m)
Body Type
Mostly anything
Agnosticism, and somewhat serious about it
Leo, but it doesn’t matter
Graduated from university
Science / Engineering
Relationship Status
Relationship Type
Strictly monogamous
Doesn’t have kids, but might want them
Likes dogs and likes cats
English (Fluently), Japanese (Okay), Chinese (Poorly), Spanish (Poorly)

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My self-summary
Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
Full Disclosure:
I like my life and I'm looking to share life with the right person. In fact, I'm happier now than I've ever been. The last 10 years have been really good in large part due to my being single which allowed me to find my healthy and happy place. I have lived in other countries and done things I could have never accomplished in my situation prior to 2004. I would like to have someone special. It just seems to be an either or situation for me. Fantastic life or relationship. I'm hoping there is someone who I can share both those things with. If you think that could happen for both of us, then let's give it a try.
The Snapshot:
I'm outgoing, social, but often a solo traveler, live alone, self sufficient, and independent. I enjoy my own company, but relish social interaction too. I've always been a different, an outsider unconvinced of the merits of conforming to group norms and conventions. This was especially true in the three high schools I attended (we moved a lot) and the military (post high school-pre-college).

Post college:
Living abroad honed and reinforced my self reliance. I spent almost a 2 years working , traveling, and living abroad. I have learned to understand very different ways of seeing the world without needing to judge them. I also became more sensative to the fact that people get upset when you present ideas that challenge their world view, so these days tend to seek out those who share my mine and hold my tongue around those who don’t. I guess this also came moving every few years as a kid, changing schools, always being the new guy who unwittingly upsets the pecking order.

I seem to make a few close friends in each place I live. I greatly value those friends I can still keep in touch with, especially the kind where it seems like we just talked yesterday even if we haven't. I believe that a positive attitude in life can change your outlook, but don't buy into gurus or self-help books because they cling to flawed logic and make leaps of faith without regard for evidence based thought, much less the scientific method.

The present:
I moved to Berkeley in 2013 to get the best job I've ever had and I love the bay area, feels like I've been looking for this place my entire life. I enjoy the varied cultures, languages, new places to see and things to do that the bay area offers in spades. I’m forever curious about the world. I want to know everything…. Yes, everything. I come from a small town, but prefer the excitement of city living. I have broad musical tastes, an eclectic and far flung group of friends, and love a good adventure or just chilling at the part or the beach. I get along well with most people, even the ones I don't really like. I hold a mixture of traditional and progressive beliefs, for instance I am pro equality for women and same-sex couples, but I don't kiss on the first date and will open doors for you as a romantic gesture.

Have you seen this person? Because she's awesome..
I'm looking for a partner in adventure, a co-conspirator for world domination (maybe just our little corner of it), someone to spoil with my cooking, who likes my nerdy side, and wants to show me new ways of looking at the world. She is generally confident, happy with herself even though she might be looking to improve on some things. She is fearless, able to roll with the moment, has a good sense of humor, not uptight, and would have fun playing cars against humanity knowing full well that it's just politically incorrect irreverent fun.
I have always loved storms. I once watched lightning make the night sky like day for a full 30 seconds from the 2nd story of the house we lived in. Amazing. I also remember a time when I watched heat lightning dance across the valley from the porch of the same house. If you would consider this a good time then we have something in common. If it frightens you then I'm not the one for you.
What I’m doing with my life
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2009-2011, I lived in China teaching science classes in college prep schools and volunteered teaching English in a kindergarten on the weekends. The kindergarten was the best thing I did there because it was fun and I learned some Chinese too. I am proud to say my photo is on the school book bags with my kids. I taught in Japan for a short time too. but enjoyed China the most. I loved the work and interacting with bright young minds, but after doing this for 2 years I was ready for the next phase. The bad air and occasional food poisoning contributed to moving on. Since then, I've been at Lawrence Berkeley National Lab doing semiconductor research on the beamline and find it interesting and challenging. I'm exploring Oakland and Berkeley, doing a bit of gardening on the weekends. I have tomatoes, cucumbers, and strawberries.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Finding the up-side in any situation.
Fixing anything: carpentry, plumbing, electrical, mechanical, computers, scientific instruments, star-drive on your space ship.
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
People usually say I look like someone familiar. I have one of those faces. Got Kevin Bacon a lot in my teens and 20's.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Help your potential matches find common interests.
I realize theis section is large, but who knows. You might just find something you like..

Recent playlists include: a ;ot of New Retro such as Lazerhawk, Trever Something, and Dynatron, Capsule, as well as Boards of Canada for the last 10 years. Other stuff seing rotation: Black Moth Super Rainbow, Daft Punk, Royksopp, Massive Attack, The 1975, The Pillows, Andreya Triana, Bonobo, The Shins, Elvis Costello, Roxy Music, Handsome Boy Modeling School, Amon Tobin, Air, The Books, Mum, Queens of the Stone Age, Chip Tunes/8 bit Prophet, TV on the Radio, She Wants Revenge, Shantel, Metric, Steam Powered Giraffe.

Here are some favorites... (AUTHOR: Book) WILLIAM GIBSON: Monalisa Overdrive and The Difference Engine. HARUKI MURAKAMI: The Wind-Up Bird Chronicle, A Wild Sheep Chase. TIM POWERS: The Anubis Gates. FRANK HERBERT: Dune, ANN & JEFF VANDERMEER: Steampunk. GEORGE ORWELL: 1984 or Animal Farm. JOHN STEINBECK: Cannery Row, The Pearl. RICHARD PRESTON: The Hot Zone, LAURIE GARRET: The Coming Plague, WILLIAM GOLDING W. MEITCKE: The Lord of The Flies, BILL WATERSON: Calvin and Hobbes, SHEL SILVERSTEIN: Where the Sidewalk Ends, RICHARD BACH: Jonathon Livingston Seagull

Some favorites are The Matrix and other works by the Wachowski's, Clerks, Mall Rats, Dogma, Princess Mononoke, Drop Dead Fred, Blade Runner, Donnie Darko, Spirited Away, Scott Pilgrim Versus the World, Groundhog Day, The Dark Crystal, Altered States, Dr. Strangelove, A Christmas Story, Ferris Bueller's Day Off, Better Off Dead, Office Space, Montepython, Couching Tiger Hidden Dragon, Fight Club, Kill Bill, K-Pax, 2001: A Space Odyssey, The Fifth Element, The Princess Bride, Nightmare before Christmas, Amelie, The Secret of Roan Inish, Nausicaa, American Beauty, Repo-Man, Shawshank Redemption, Pay it Forward, The Jerk, This is Spinal Tap, The Green Mile, A Clockwork Orange, Gattaca, Lemony Snicket's A Series of Unfortunate Events, 12 Monkeys, Army of Darkness, Inside Job, An Inconvenient Truth, Hotel Rwanda, (and other documentaries), Cowboy Beebop, Ghost in the Shell, 5 cm per Second..
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
A project or something to do
Living near the ocean
Good music
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
-I've been really fascinated by the "tiny house" movement and all the clever space saving furniture people come up with. (I have begun to put some of that into my place. I have always been a builder/tinkerer and have plans to try building a float cabin someday. I lived on a boat in college and loved it.)
-How I can solarize my yard and install an aquaponics system. -What I'm building next, deep thoughts about how to improve the world because it's a mess...
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Working on some project, watching the sunset from the veranda outside my office or at the beach swimming, hanging out with friends, going for a motorcycle ride...
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
It's the internet. You must be kidding..
You should message me if
Offer a few tips to help matches win you over.
You read all/most of what I wrote and it resonates with If you. If you skipped the Book/Music section I can't blame you. Bonus points if you are a nerd and would like to attend a comic book/scifi/anime convention with me. You are kind, intelligent, interesting, funny, approachable, and are looking for the same. You are progressive, but not easily offended. PC Nazis need not apply. You are agnostic/atheist/not religious. Bonus if you know that the Food Babe is a quack, know why vaccines are effective.

You should NOT message me if you are Christian, think that jealousy is OK in a relationship, or if your profile says you're Straight, but you answered this ....

Q) Have you ever had a sexual encounter with someone of the same sex?
A) No, but I would like to.

Seriously? You're over 30 and haven't sorted that out yet?