I like my life and I'm looking to share life with the right person. In fact, I'm happier now than I've ever been. The last 10 years have been really good in large part due to my being single which allowed me to find my healthy and happy place. I have lived in other countries and done things I could have never accomplished in my situation prior to 2004. I would like to have someone special. It just seems to be an either or situation for me. Fantastic life or relationship. I'm hoping there is someone who I can share both those things with. If you think that could happen for both of us, then let's give it a try.
I'm outgoing, social, but often a solo traveler, live alone, self sufficient, and independent. I enjoy my own company, but relish social interaction too. I've always been a different, an outsider unconvinced of the merits of conforming to group norms and conventions. This was especially true in the three high schools I attended (we moved a lot) and the military (post high school-pre-college).
Living abroad honed and reinforced my self reliance. I spent almost a 2 years working , traveling, and living abroad. I have learned to understand very different ways of seeing the world without needing to judge them. I also became more sensative to the fact that people get upset when you present ideas that challenge their world view, so these days tend to seek out those who share my mine and hold my tongue around those who don’t. I guess this also came moving every few years as a kid, changing schools, always being the new guy who unwittingly upsets the pecking order.
I seem to make a few close friends in each place I live. I greatly value those friends I can still keep in touch with, especially the kind where it seems like we just talked yesterday even if we haven't. I believe that a positive attitude in life can change your outlook, but don't buy into gurus or self-help books because they cling to flawed logic and make leaps of faith without regard for evidence based thought, much less the scientific method.
I moved to Berkeley in 2013 to get the best job I've ever had and I love the bay area, feels like I've been looking for this place my entire life. I enjoy the varied cultures, languages, new places to see and things to do that the bay area offers in spades. I’m forever curious about the world. I want to know everything…. Yes, everything. I come from a small town, but prefer the excitement of city living. I have broad musical tastes, an eclectic and far flung group of friends, and love a good adventure or just chilling at the part or the beach. I get along well with most people, even the ones I don't really like. I hold a mixture of traditional and progressive beliefs, for instance I am pro equality for women and same-sex couples, but I don't kiss on the first date and will open doors for you as a romantic gesture.
Have you seen this person? Because she's awesome..
I'm looking for a partner in adventure, a co-conspirator for world domination (maybe just our little corner of it), someone to spoil with my cooking, who likes my nerdy side, and wants to show me new ways of looking at the world. She is generally confident, happy with herself even though she might be looking to improve on some things. She is fearless, able to roll with the moment, has a good sense of humor, not uptight, and would have fun playing cars against humanity knowing full well that it's just politically incorrect irreverent fun.
I have always loved storms. I once watched lightning make the night sky like day for a full 30 seconds from the 2nd story of the house we lived in. Amazing. I also remember a time when I watched heat lightning dance across the valley from the porch of the same house. If you would consider this a good time then we have something in common. If it frightens you then I'm not the one for you.