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27 M Palo Alto, CA

My Details

Last Online
Apr 20
5′ 10″ (1.78m)
Body Type
Mostly anything
Other, and laughing about it
Graduated from university
Relationship Status
Seeing Someone
Relationship Type
Doesn’t have kids
Likes dogs and likes cats
English (Fluently), Spanish (Okay), Italian (Poorly)

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My self-summary
Short version:
Absurd, intelligent, bearded open communicator.

Recovering serial monogamist and engineer. Teacher and shy, but passionate fixer of things.

Feedback, empowerment, bicycles, tools, biking, hiking, board games, science, movies, Adventures!, ...

Traveler, burner, fire spinner, attentive lover.

I'm looking for more intimacy in my life.

Again, rambling:

I love people; most people are pretty amazing. I'm energized by people, too, especially intelligent, playful ones who challenge me. But sometimes I'm off in my own head. Or off in a book. And sometimes I'm off in other countries. I'm an adventure/travel addict, as a means to novelty. Seriously, random adventures are necessary. As of this writing, my most recent adventures were a 6-week trip to Peru and a last-minute weekend trip to Santa Barbara for some remote, mountain-top hot springs.

But I digress. Self summary?

I have a great sense of absurdity. I mean humor.

At times, I am a monkey.

Up until last year, I was a serial monogamist, with relationships that last 8-30 months. These days, I have a relationship on a sort of hold, as she lives in Seattle now, and a more regular relationship with a colleague. But I'm enjoying the freedom and honesty afforded by parallel monogamy ("non-monogamous" or "polyamorous" apply, I guess, but parallel monogamy feels more true). I'm idly looking for more intimacy. No rush, so short-term or casual dating in the meantime sounds great, especially because finding that chemistry that clicks seems to take a lot of tries. But if you read my profile and think you might be interested, let me know now. If it seems like something clicks between us, I'd be delighted to go monogamous for a while, as we figure things out. Or not.

I try to communicate clearly and directly. My biggest failures in honesty or forthrightness come when I might hurt someone's feelings. Otherwise, I'm pretty solidly open.

I've been riding bikes a lot recently. I miss long-distance touring, though, as recently I've mostly just been commuting or running errands. Bikes have replaced martial arts and cross country for exercise; I like how much lower-impact it is on my joints than those.

I love feedback. Especially feedback as a means toward growth and self-improvement and growth together. If you don't, you might find me annoying or pedantic; just let me know, and I'll shut the hell up. But yeah, feedback rules, if given with love.

Empowerment also rules. Why do something for someone else when you can teach them to do it for themselves? (I still wish I'd taught my West Oakland neighbor how to adjust her shift-lever after I tightened it up) Teach me things, and I'll teach you things.

My high school teachers insist I'm a "renaissance man"; for now I think jack-of-all-trades is more accurate, and I'll grow into their title when I master one of them.

I spin fire (mostly staff), which finally gave me an excuse to meet my neighbors when I lived in West Oakland. Fire spinning ftw!

As a recovering engineer-turned-schoolteacher (see next answer), I'm not particularly spiritual. I've seen what spirituality can do for people, though, and am down for brief forays. I once cried at a tarot card reading, so I'm not 100% logical.

But most of all, I'm down. Am I down to... dig a ditch? try dancing tango? go to a musical? get drunk and heckle? swim naked? run from Oakland to Berkeley? drive to the mountains and camp out? yes. Whatever it is, I'm probably down. I suppose I draw a line at unnecessary violence. So boxing, I guess I'll pass these days. But yoga or solo t'ai chi or pilates (what is pilates, anyway?), sure, I'm down.

This attitude of downness, if you will, has led to a strangely wide breadth of experiences. Robotics competitions, living in Egypt, Contra Dancing, teaching kids, intense 8+ hour board games, helping throw renegade parties and other desert festivals, riding a bike from Dresden to Budapest and solo from Italy up to Amsterdam, 3 years running at Burning Man (though I'll likely miss this year).

Speaking of Burning Man, that's where I got the name Tinker, as in the professional nomadic fixer. The full story will have to wait, but indeed, I travel and fix stuff. It's a bit of a compulsion. So be careful if you have one of those handyman fantasies. I might just spend all evening actually fixing the sink.
What I’m doing with my life
Yearning for international travel, I've left the world of Engineering desk jobs behind for a while. These days, I teach engineering and design skills to lower, middle, and upper school school students at a private school. Summers are hardly enough travel for me, so I'm aiming to work abroad sometime within the next 2-9 years.

I just moved in to an awesome coop in Palo Alto with a bunch of friends from various parts of my life. Come on over for dinner.
I’m really good at
Teaching - don't hesitate to poke me if I get pedantic, or if you just don't care about whatever it is I'm spouting.
Fixing things - not only am I good at it, it's a compulsion.
Procrastination - maybe I'll finish this answer later...
The first things people usually notice about me
"Holy crap, you're here!" I guess that's people who know me, but I bounce around a lot, so when I drop in on friends I haven't seen in a while, the first thing they notice is that, holy crap, I'm there.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Books: R A Heinlein, R A Salvatore, Everything is Illuminated, The Unbearable Lightness of Being, Transmetropolitan (is so a book), Edward Tufte, Youth in Revolt (didn't like the movie much)

Movies: Everything is Illuminated, V for Vendetta, Monty Python and the Quest for the Holy Grail, Beauty and the Beast (which should be re-made by Tim Burton and Johnny Depp), Amelie, The Princess Bride, Fight Club, The Usual Suspects, Anything by Hiayao Miyazaki (especially My Neighbor Totoro), Casablanca, Pan's Labyrinth, The Big Lebowski

Shows: Six Feet Under, Adventure Time, Parks and Recreation, Doctor David Tennant Who, Initial D, Daria, Firefly, Twin Peaks

Music: stars by things I've been really into recently:
(Pretty lights*, Nero, The Glitch Mob*)
(The Streets, The Notwist, Ratatat*)
(Iron and Wine, The Philospher Kings)
(Eric Clapton, Leo Kottke, John Hiatt*)
(Simon and Garfunkel, James Taylor, Cat Stevens, The Moody Blues, Harry Chapin)
(Manu Chao, Buena Vista Social Club, Gotan Project*)
(Massive Attack, Hotel Costes*, Sigur Ros, Portishead, Blockhead)
(Bela Fleck, "Country Road" - doesn't matter who is playing it, "Man of Constant Sorrow," Glengarry Bhoys)
(Dragon Force, Led Zepelin, Jimi Hendrix, Jefferson Airplane)
(Bach, Mussorgsky*)
(They Might Be Giants, Randy Newman, Tom Lehrer, Kompressor)
(Death Cab for Cutie - Transatlanticism, Modest Mouse - Good News..., MGMT - Kids, The Flaming Lips (pretty much just Yoshimi Battles the Pink Robots))
(Lykke Li, Dido, Regina Spektor, Nellie McCay, Norah Jones, Yael Naim, Amy Winehouse)
(Gram Rabbit*)

Food: that kicks me in the face with flavor. Indian, Thai, Mexican, Ethiopian, aww, now I'm hungry.

Also, Rent, the musical.
The six things I could never do without
Oxygen, Carbohydrates, Proteins, Minerals, Shelter, and Water.


But seriously, travel, friends, novelty, conversation, my hands, and freedom.
On a typical Friday night I am
branching out or staying in. Santa Barbara? Edwardian World's Fair? Getting cozy with some candles? Sleeping off the week? All of these things are possible.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I'm introverted, but sort of self-conscious about it. ("Like every other introvert," says Adam Davis) So sometimes I pretend to be extroverted, and some of those times, I'm not very good at it. (To which Adam replied, "Yeah, man, you can't extrovert any more than I can shut the fuck up in social situations." Thanks, Adam.)
I’m looking for
  • Girls who like guys
  • Ages 20–31
  • Near me
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating, casual sex
You should message me if're down with sharing, communicative experiences and/or relationships that don't involve monogamy. These days I'm in two of those. However, one is married and owns a house in Seattle, so I don't see her but once every few months, if that. The other I see all the time, including at work, so I suppose I'm seeking a small infusion of that spice of life. Feel free to ask me about it.

...or if you might want to get together sometime soon.

I have an 8-4ish, M-F in Hillsborough, near San Mateo, but head back to Palo Alto most evenings. Sunday through Thursday, dinner is at 7 at my coop. Come on by?