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44 Halle, Germany Man


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  • Ages 24–41
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  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating, casual sex

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Last online
Today – 4:02am
5′ 8″ (1.72m)
Body type
Mostly anything
Agnosticism, and somewhat serious about it
Aquarius, but it doesn’t matter
Graduated from med school
Mostly monogamous
Doesn’t have kids, but wants them
Dislikes dogs and dislikes cats
English (Fluently), German (Fluently), C++ (Poorly)

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My self-summary
Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
If you know of any interesting places to visit (especially at or near my current or next planned holiday destination, see below in the "What I’m doing with my life"-section) or want to have a chat/drink with me please drop me a line, I'd love to hear from you!


is a work in progress - just mail me if you are curious.
I´ll update the profile as soon as I get around to it :)

According to the Carl Jung and Isabel Briggs-Myers typology personality test ( I´m a Mastermind - INTJ (56% Introverte, 75% Intuitive, 12% Thinking, 44% Judging).
According to the David Keirsey & Marilyn Bates "Temperament sorter" ( I´m an Inspector - ISTJ (9% I to E, 53% N to S, 62% F to T, and 37% J to P).

When answering the questions here at OkC I just got the message:
"Wow, you answered ALL THE THINGS! Why not go find a match? — Staff Robot" - seems like I finally managed to accomplish this goal, now let´s move on to the next... :D
Update: why am I still finding unanswered questions while browsing other peoples profiles? OkC still tells me that I have answered all questions...
Update: Seems OKC has a built-in limit of 20001 questions that can be answered. I put in a support ticket regarding this bug but got no answer... seems like support tickets here go into the wastebin like everywhere else...

How come someone here on OKC
- has publicly answered 193 questions, but at the same time
- has answered 192 questions ?
Somehow OKC´s math is pretty screwed up...

Why visit so many OkC-users the same location or do the same thing without ever meeting in person? So many pictures have as location or caption: "Uploaded with the NEW OkCupid XYZCrap app!" :/

Some OkC users are crazy... and OkC has some crazy rules, too... I had a pic with the slogan "It´s OK to be just friends. With benefits!" - and it was flagged inappropriate and removed! WTF?
And it seems some overweight American women are afraid of seeing non-frontal nudity on an adult dating site that is accessible only to 18+-people. Yeah, it might corrupt their innocence ;)
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
At the moment touring the North island of New Zealand, winding my way down to Wellington after a visit to Cape Reinga - would love to meet up with any locals and I´m open for tips regarding highlights/must-see-places/have-done-things, please drop me a line if you have any suggestions!

Thanks, Tom


In November I visited Australia (again, I can´t get enough of it, and I love to explore it from coast to coast), this time I toured Western Australia]]. Started in [Perth, drove up to Coral bay, then turned east and visited beautiful Karijini national park - Hammersley gorge was very nice, but the other gorges were great for walking and swimming, too, would have liked to climb if I had some gear with me ;). Then I headed into the goldfields, down to Kalgoorlie-Boulder (the super pit is astonishing), the took Australia´s longest straight (146km straight road!) into the Nullarbor plain. The flatness was impressive, but not much to do - so I headed west, climbed Cloucester tree (56m into the treetop of an Eucalyptus tree) and did a treetop walk (a bit less impressive, but nice nonetheless), visited as a contrast program a cave and went diving off Buselton jetty (saw a lot of small creatures, large schools of puffer fish, some Kormorans diving along). I also took a dive at the HMAS Swan - a very nice wreck dive from 6 to 30m, with very competent and nice guides from Busselton dive shed.

Croatia this year was nice - spent a week with nice company at a resort near Umag, learned inline skating and made some dives to visit the local population of lobsters, congers and pen mussels - and many others. And of course we had ample opportunity to sample the local cuisine!

In February 2014 I visited New Zealand - did a trip from Auckland up to Cape Reinga where I saw a manta ray, then southwards to visit the Weitangi treaty grounds, Tutukaka to take surf lessons, then on to see glowworms and do blackwater rafting at Weitomo caves. Then I headed south on the Forgotten world highway to Wellington, where I participated in a one-week field training which combined technical training and living in primitive conditions to simulate a post-disaster situation. Just at the end of my holiday I met a lovely person (thanks to OKC!) and we had a blast day at Zealandia - talking while hiking and viewing endemic birds, wetas and lizards! And on my last day there I even saw a group of whales in Wellington harbor!

In January I spent 2 weeks skiing in Austria, something I hadn´t done for a long time. I even tried my hand at snowboarding - and being an avid skier, it´s slowly starting to become enjoyable to me, something I couldn´t imagine beforehand. But learning snowboarding is something for masochists - you have wet clothes and muscles you hadn´t thought you possess are aching all over the body - yay! ;)

past ^----v future

Currently I´m in my professional training in Germany, which will take another 1 year - and then I´ll probably start to learn something new (I like knowledge!) - or move to another country, preferably where it´s a bit warmer...

Once a year I travel to faraway destinations for a few weeks - last year I went to Australia (as I did the year before, the country is simply too large to explore on one trip).
In February 2015 I have planned another trip to New Zealand - to explore the North island, to dive and visit friends - do you want to join me or have suggestions for places to visit?

Around Whitsunday I´m headed to Croatia nearly every year to meet friends for a reunion and relaxation at the beach, also enjoying the local cuisine... mmmh, Pršut, Paški sir and a glass of red wine...

Other than that, reading - I can totally immerse myself into a good book or the Internet (the largest book of all), so much that I ignore everything around me - and yes, that might include you, unless you´d be standing there in full latex dress and a whip :D

And since you´re reading this: I´m looking for
- activity partners / friends: jogging, climbing (I have only indoor experience but would like to expand), diving, going to English movies, sailing, enjoying a good discussion ...
- short- or long-term-partners (up to marriage/children)
- casual sex: ONS, FwB... only safe, sane and consensual. While I might try nearly everything at least once, I do know my limits. Or as Dan Savage would put it: GGG
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
everything I set my mind to!

Doing everything else before I get down to do the important things I don´t like to do - really, I do, but I typically get my work done in the last moment, I just need a bit pressure before I start an unpleasant task (like filling out these boxes...)
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
My accent - since I have recently moved to Halle(Saale), Germany, and they totally like the Austrian accent I still have (and intend to keep)

My smile - I do have it even if I have to deal with a difficult "customer" at 5 in the morning and they have paged me out of bed unnecessarily; well, at that time it might be a bit strained ;)

That I walk with a speed others use for jogging (I do slow down if I don´t have a destination to get to or if I´m taking a romantic stroll around the countryside with someone)

A nice tan all over during summertime

More into listening than talking, initially quite shy

Dry, sometimes black humor sprinkled with a bit of sarcasm - I give as well as I can take.

If you´d like to add to this list feel free to do so after you´ve met me :)
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Help your potential matches find common interests.
Books: I´ve read and liked nearly all from Karl May, Douglas Adams, Terry Pratchett, Agatha Christie, Sherlock Holmes and others by Sir Arthur Conan Doyle, "The Jungle book" by Rudyard Kipling, Paulo Coelho, Umberto Eco, J. R. R. Tolkien; Master and Commander, Harry Potter; books about strange maps and mapmaking, "Measure of All Things" by Ken Alder, science history,... but basically every book I get my hands on and that captivates me after reading a few pages - recently these were some detective stories placed in France, Germany and Venice

Movies: anything starring Hugh Grant, Bill Murray, Robin Williams, Alfred Dorfer, Josef Hader, Roland Düringer or by the members of Monty Python, As good as it gets, Ice age, Luxo Jr., Lost in translation, The Breakfast Club, Flight of the navigator, Master and Commander, Harry Potter, LOTR, ...

Shows: Penn & Teller, ScienceBusters, Amateur Transplants ... oh, you mean Broadway shows? Well, only Cats comes to my mind

Series: Star Trek - TNG, Burn Notice, The IT crowd, House, MD, BBC-Documentaries (especially those with Brian Cox), ...
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
Assuming that the things in Maslow's "hierarchy of needs" have been taken care of (and yes, friendship and family is already included there):

- a good knife or multi-tool like a Leatherman
- challenges
- books
- the internet
- sex, be it vanilla or kinky
- hot showers (especially in the morning to wake me up)
- warm weather and sun
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
how to meet someone - since I´m very shy and hesitant to make the first step. Also I´m pretty bad at picking up subtle "hints" - I prefer partners who tell me that they like me and what they would like me to do. Unfortunately I haven´t found a way to change this, yet. But I´ll continue thinking about it...

G: Das größte Sexualorgan ist das menschliche Gehirn... glauben viele net, is aber so.
P: Das heißt: Sex findet - nicht nur beim Oralverkehr - im wesentlichen im Kopf statt?
G: Ja.
(ScienceBusters: Univ.-Lektor Werner Gruber / Martin Puntigam)
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
Bi-curious/heteroflexible switch, meaning I´d be willing to explore a same-sex-relationship (but prefer women) and change between being dominant or submissive, depending on our mood.
Other than that I´m a bit into BDSM (especially the bondage-part of it), latex and oral sex.

If you consider getting into a relationship with me: that´s sorta my package. If you consider me as just a "normal" activity partner I won´t bother you with this part of my personality.
You should message me if
Offer a few tips to help matches win you over.
you made it this far and
want to know more about me,
want to meet me, or you
would just like someone to talk/write to...

If you know where to find more like this:
Thanks to benthor for providing me with this:

I´ll answer as soon as I can, promise!

Hint: If I seem to be stalking your profile or gave you 4 or 5 stars, it probably means that I'd like to hear from you - I´m just too shy to drop you a line if you don´t show a little bit of interest (like doing the same things mentioned above). Thanks!

Cheers, Tom

Please *do not* write me if your profile is full of religious remarks and mentions one god or another every second word!