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Last online
Today – 9:31am
Relationship Type
Mostly monogamous
5' 8" (1.72m)
Body Type
Agnosticism and it’s important
Post grad
Doesn’t have kids but wants them
English (Fluently), German (Fluently), C++ (Somewhat)
My self-summary
Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
Newsflash: my current travel location: South Africa, 2 weeks until November 14, starting (and ending) in Cape town (I´ll be there initially until 4th) - care to join/meet me or do you have suggestions for interesting places to visit?


If you know of any interesting places to visit (especially at or near my current or next planned holiday destination, see below in the "What I’m doing with my life"-section) or want to have a chat/drink with me please drop me a line, I'd love to hear from you!


is a work in progress - just mail me if you are curious.
I´ll update the profile as soon as I get around to it :)

According to the Carl Jung and Isabel Briggs-Myers typology personality test ( I´m a Mastermind - INTJ (56% Introverte, 75% Intuitive, 12% Thinking, 44% Judging).
According to the David Keirsey & Marilyn Bates "Temperament sorter" ( I´m an Inspector - ISTJ (9% I to E, 53% N to S, 62% F to T, and 37% J to P).


Observations about OkC:

- there is a built-in limit of 20001 questions that can be answered. I put in a support ticket regarding this bug but got no answer... seems like support tickets here go into the wastebin like everywhere else...
- OkC´s math is pretty screwed up: someone had publicly answered 193 questions, but at the same time has answered 192 questions in total...
- So many OkC-users visit the same location or do the same thing - all without ever meeting in person! (So many pictures have as location or caption: "Uploaded with the NEW OkCupid XYZ app!")
- Some OkC users are crazy... and OkC has some crazy rules, too... I had a pic with the slogan "It´s OK to be just friends. With benefits!" - and it was flagged inappropriate and removed! WTF?
And it seems some overweight American women are afraid of seeing non-frontal nudity on an adult dating site that is accessible only to 18+-people. Yeah, I might corrupt their innocence ;)
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
Croatia this year was fine - spent a week at a resort near Umag, improved my diving skills (did the PADI "deep dive" and "drysuit dive" specialties). And of course I had a lot of time to relax and read books!

This February/March I toured North Island of New Zealand, started out in Auckland, bought a tent and made my way up to Cape Reinga.
From there I slowly drove South, got a bit of local history and admired the longboat at the Waitangi treaty site, dipped my head under water for diving at the HMNZS Canterbury wreck (great dive, though the dive company´s boat missed the tide and couldn´t pass a bridge on the way to the dive site and we had to wait 2 hours until we were finally on our way), visited Rotorua with its hot water/mud-holes and had my first horseback ride (really cool, and I want to do it again (and properly leran to ride), but I still have the feeling the horse knew better than me what to do and where to go)!
After that I went via Lake Waikaremoana to Wellington, to visit friends at each place, and also to put the 4WD to good use (yay! but try finding a carwash that has a high pressure water hose to get rid of all the dirt in the wheelhubs...). I also had another visit to Zealandia and Te papa (both are nice to visit more than once).
Then I hit the road again, went via The 309 road (with the impressive, playful The Waterworks to the north of Coromandel peninsula (of course I did the touristy thing and visited the hot water beach on the way up, too, but it was too overcrowded to my liking). I had planned on diving at the Coromandel, but the local dive operators were all fully booked, so I headed back to Auckland to spend the last couple of days exploring the area - the Volvo ocean race boats were in town, visited the hippos at the Zoo and burnt my feet at the black sand of Karekare beach.

Last November I visited Australia (again, I can´t get enough of it, and I love to explore it from coast to coast), this time I toured Western Australia . Started in Perth, drove up to Coral bay, then turned east and visited beautiful Karijini national park - Hammersley gorge was very nice, but the other gorges were great for walking and swimming, too, would have liked to climb if I had some gear with me ;). Then I headed into the goldfields, down to Kalgoorlie-Boulder (the super pit is astonishing and huuuge!), then took Australia´s longest straight (146km straight road!) into the Nullarbor plain. The flatness was impressive, but not much to do - so I headed back West, climbed Cloucester tree (56m into the treetop of an Eucalyptus tree) and did a treetop walk (a bit less impressive, but nice nonetheless), visited as a contrast program a cave and went diving off Buselton jetty (saw a lot of small creatures, large schools of puffer fish, some Kormorans diving along). I also took a dive at the HMAS Swan - a very nice wreck dive from 6 to 30m, with very competent and nice guides from Busselton dive shed.

past ^----v future

Newsflash: my next travel destination: South Africa, 2 weeks starting 30th October - care to join/meet me or do you have suggestions for interesting places to visit?

Currently I´m in my professional training in Germany, which will take another year - and then I´ll probably start to learn something new (I like knowledge!) - or move to another country, preferably where it´s a bit warmer...

Once a year I travel to faraway destinations for a few weeks - last year I went to Australia (as I did the year before, the country is simply too large to explore on one trip), this year I visited New Zealand... now I´m looking for ideas and places to go next - do you want to join me or have suggestions for places to visit? My next planned vacation is in November 2015... and I have no Idea where to go yet!

So far I have on my "travel bucket list":
- New Zaland: diving at the Coromandel and Poor knights island, skydiving... and getting a residency permit and a job ;)
- Australia: diving at the West coast (Exmouth Navy pier, Ningaloo reef and surroundings) and another visit to the Great barrier reef (planned for 2020), the "Whispering wall" (SA), re-visit of Kangaroo Island (SA), Kings gorge (NT), Litchfield national park (NT).

Around Whitsunday I´m headed to Croatia nearly every year to meet friends for a reunion and relaxation at the beach, also enjoying the local cuisine... mmmh, Pršut, Paški sir and a glass of red wine...

Other than that, reading - I can totally immerse myself into a good book or the Internet (the largest book of all), so much that I ignore everything around me - and yes, that might include you, unless you´d be standing there in full latex dress and a whip :D

And since you´re reading this: I´m looking for
- activity partners / friends: jogging, climbing (I have only indoor experience but would like to expand), diving, going to English movies, sailing, enjoying a good discussion (the most interesting one I had for a long time was with my brother about the different ways to separate the water from a pot of noodles... so yes, I like nerdy stuff and technology) ...
- short- or long-term-partners (up to marriage/children)
- casual sex: ONS, FwB... only safe, sane and consensual. While I might try nearly everything at least once, I do know my limits. Or as Dan Savage would put it: GGG
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
everything I set my mind to!

Doing everything else before I get down to do the important things I don´t like to do - really, I do, but I typically get my work done in the last moment, I just need a bit pressure before I start an unpleasant task (like filling out these boxes...)
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
My accent - since I have recently moved to Halle(Saale), Germany, and they totally like the Austrian accent I still have (and intend to keep)

My smile - I do have it even if I have to deal with a difficult "customer" at 5 in the morning and they have paged me out of bed unnecessarily; well, at that time it might be a bit strained ;)

That I walk with a speed others use for jogging (I do slow down if I don´t have a destination to get to or if I´m taking a romantic stroll around the countryside with someone)

A nice tan all over during summertime

More into listening than talking, initially quite shy

Dry, sometimes black humor sprinkled with a bit of sarcasm - I give as well as I can take.

If you´d like to add to this list feel free to do so after you´ve met me :)
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Help your potential matches find common interests.
Books: I´ve read and liked nearly all from Karl May, Douglas Adams, Terry Pratchett, Agatha Christie, Sherlock Holmes and others by Sir Arthur Conan Doyle, "The Jungle book" by Rudyard Kipling, Paulo Coelho, Umberto Eco, J. R. R. Tolkien; Master and Commander, Harry Potter; books about strange maps and mapmaking, "Measure of All Things" by Ken Alder, science history,... but basically every book I get my hands on and that captivates me after reading a few pages - recently these were some detective stories placed in France, Germany and Venice

Movies: anything starring Hugh Grant, Bill Murray, Robin Williams, Alfred Dorfer, Josef Hader, Roland Düringer or by the members of Monty Python, As good as it gets, Ice age, Luxo Jr., Lost in translation, The Breakfast Club, Flight of the navigator, Master and Commander, Harry Potter, LOTR, ...

Shows: Penn & Teller, ScienceBusters, Amateur Transplants ... oh, you mean Broadway shows? Well, only Cats comes to my mind

Series: Star Trek - TNG, Burn Notice, The IT crowd, House, MD, BBC-Documentaries (especially those with Brian Cox), ...
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
Assuming that the things in Maslow's "hierarchy of needs" have been taken care of (and yes, friendship and family is already included there):

- a good knife or multi-tool like a Leatherman
- challenges
- books
- the internet
- sex, be it vanilla or kinky
- hot showers (especially in the morning to wake me up)
- warm weather and sun
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
how to meet someone - since I´m very shy and hesitant to make the first step. Also I´m pretty bad at picking up subtle "hints" - I prefer partners who tell me that they like me and what they would like me to do. Unfortunately I haven´t found a way to change this, yet. But I´ll continue thinking about it...

G: Das größte Sexualorgan ist das menschliche Gehirn... glauben viele net, is aber so.
P: Das heißt: Sex findet - nicht nur beim Oralverkehr - im wesentlichen im Kopf statt?
G: Ja.
(ScienceBusters: Univ.-Lektor Werner Gruber / Martin Puntigam)
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
Bi-curious/heteroflexible switch, meaning I´d be willing to explore a same-sex-relationship (but prefer women) and change between being dominant or submissive, depending on our mood (lately more dominant, but that might change again...)
Other than that I´m a bit into BDSM (especially the bondage-part of it), latex and oral sex.

If you consider getting into a relationship with me: that´s sorta my package. If you consider me as just a "normal" activity partner I won´t bother you with this part of my personality.

Update: currently *not* looking for male partners for sex-related activity
You should message me if
Offer a few tips to help matches win you over.
you made it this far and
want to know more about me,
want to meet me, or you
would just like someone to talk/write to...

If you know where to find more like this:
Thanks to benthor for providing me with this:

I´ll answer as soon as I can, promise!

Hint: If I seem to be stalking your profile or gave you 4 or 5 stars, it probably means that I'd like to hear from you - I´m just too shy to drop you a line if you don´t show a little bit of interest (like doing the same things mentioned above). Thanks!

Cheers, Tom

Please *do not* write me if your profile is full of religious remarks and mentions one god or another every second word!

Also, I will not pay your oil field workers, your rent or your airline tickets... these are your responsibilities, not mine, so don´t bother asking.