Find better matches with our advanced matching system

—% Match
—% Enemy

Tomcat156

43 M Escondido, CA

My Details

Last Online
Jul 22
Orientation
Straight
Ethnicity
White
Height
6′ 3″ (1.91m)
Body Type
Average
Diet
Mostly anything
Smokes
No
Drinks
Socially
Drugs
Never
Religion
Sign
Capricorn, and it’s fun to think about
Education
Working on university
Job
Student
Income
$30,000–$40,000
Relationship Status
Single
Relationship Type
Offspring
Has a kid, and might want more
Pets
Likes dogs and likes cats
Speaks
English

Similar Users

My self-summary
I am looking for someone that can accept me as a whole as I will do the same. I am very open-minded and adventurous. I also believe trust, honesty, and communication are the cornerstone of any relationship and am very open. I am very easy going and caring but can be complex at times. I have a very light side and a pretty dark side. However, I am neither a doormat nor abuser, respectively. I feel that makes me a fairly well rounded and balanced person. However, I am far from perfect and dont expect anyone else to be either. I am experienced and versed enough in this worlds nature to have become a thoroughly jaded cynic yet choose to retain that child-like curiosity about the universe to see a life filled with optimistic opportunities within every possibility. While my feet are firmly planted, I still feel the joyous yearning to always reach for the stars with gleeful abandon. Overall, I am attracted to intelligence, humor, charisma, empathy, and a big heart. I dont expect you to spout string theory in quatrains as long as "Snookie" or a "Kardashian" isn't your role model. I believe one should have a healthy sense of class, grace, and self respect. I have a very wicked sense of humor which can be witty, dry, morbid, or sarcastic depending on subject matter and mood. And while nothing is really sacred, I try not to be crass or gross. I much prefer intelligent humor over your classic middle school fart jokes but I love all kinds (dammit, they are still funny).

There is nothing greater than unconditional love and respect and feel that the process of finding common ground is what quintessentially builds a relationship which makes it all the more fun. Isn't that the whole point of all this anyways? I have loved and lost but am willing to get back out there time and again to do what it takes to find the one with that certain sparkle in their eye. The one that ignites that rush of excitement when the right chemistry is "Snap! Crackle! and Popping!" again. Like my sister says, "Put on your big girl panties and just do it!" And she's absolutely right.

I have been through plenty so I am incredibly hard to frighten. I was a Combat Medic with a specialty as a Medical Photographer in the military which means I did a lot of CSI/Forensics work and have experienced quite a bit. Because photography is one of my deepest passions, outside of my family, I honestly believe in the balance of both function and form in everything. Image is important but substance is paramount for longevity. While I am drawn to beauty and see it in everything, I enjoy exploring the contrasts between the deep weathered and aged textures in abandoned buildings every bit as much as the soft gentle tones of an exquisitely beautiful sunrise. I love the outdoors and appreciate the warm sun on my face on a beautiful San Diego day every bit as much as the occasionaI 3 AM Walmart excursion.
What I’m doing with my life
I finished my degree and officially start school at CSU San Marcos this fall. In the meantime I am spending quality time raising my daughter and enjoying life.
I’m really good at
Photography, Go-Karts, Roller Skating, Computers- Mac and PC, Hiking, Drums, Music- listening, playing, and producing, Art, Film Making, 3d printing, Urban Exploration, Cooking (I like my brains scrambled with feta cheese and and saffron please! Not a fan of liver, chianti, or fava beans), Video Production, Cars, Rocky Horror, Renaissance Festivals, Museums, Astronomy, Astrology, Long walks on short piers, Wasting time on the net when I should be studying, Gaming, COMIC-CON (5 years running), Ping-pong, Pondering the Zombie Apocalypse...
The first things people usually notice about me
My height.... at 6'3 ...I dont exactly "meld" into the crowd
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Books :
Douglas Adams, David Sedaris, E. A. Poe, William Gibson, Kipling, Classic Mythology, Nietze, Hemingway, Complete Idiots Guide to Internet Dating Profile Writing (I havent gotten around to this one yet but Ive heard its fantastic!), anything I get my grubby paws on plus the interwebs. (I literally have 3 tons of books - and yes, I'm using literally correctly)

Music:
Rush, Queen, Styx, The Cult, Smashing Pumpkins, Sisters of Mercy, The Cure, They Might be Giants, Dolly Parton, My Life With The Thrill Kill Kult, Lords of Acid, Muzak versions of Norwegian Black Metal songs, Skrillex covers of Swedish Yodeling classics, Weird Al, Glen Miller, Janis Joplin, Sinatra, Elvis - Presley and Costello, Beastie Boys, Eminem, White Stripes, RHCP, Bjork, Rob Zombie, White Zombie, The Zombies, Florence And the Machine, Portishead, Led Zepplin, Stones, Beatles, Folk, Zamphir, Master of the Pan Flute covers of Metallica songs... Something from just about every genre since the 20's but especially 80's and 90's rock and alternative

TV:
Breaking Bad, Daily Show and Colbert Report, Dexter, Firefly! Homeland, THE WALKING DEAD, Doctor Who- old and new, Top Gear, American Pickers, Through the wormhole with Morgan Freeman, The Universe, Entourage, Gigolos, True Blood, Game of Thrones, The Soup, Shameless, Californication, Conan, Modern Marvels, The Big Bang Theory, Family Guy, Robot Chicken, ATHF, NOTHING with a Kardashian in it(pretty much everything on E!)

Movies:
FAR too many to list individually.... Rocky Horror Picture Show(deserves its own class), Sci-fi, horror, classics, action, snuff, westerns, anime, comedies, tragedies, syfy drivel, all categories represented :P
The six things I could never do without
My daughter...

Love...

wine, women and song... (is that counted as one?)

sex, drugs, and rock n' roll... (minus the drugs now)

Sunrises and sunsets...

My towel...
I spend a lot of time thinking about
unique ways of getting myself into lots of trouble….
On a typical Friday night I am
Doing the same thing we do every night, Pinky... trying to take over the world! But, every other weekend you may find me out teaching my daughter speed skating at the roller rink, exploring the Children's Museum, playing at the Safari Park, launching model rockets, or ruling the galaxy as father and daughter. We alternate that with shopping, getting our nails done, and generalized mayhem whenever posible...
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
Trust me, you would never guess unless I told you ;)
I’m looking for
  • Everybody
  • Ages 25–50
  • Near me
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating, casual sex
You should message me if
You are open minded and feel there could be a real connection between the two of us.

And...

-You want a man that truly understands. Someone that has flown like Icarus upon the dizzying thermals of unbridled and unchained passion with his wings of wood and wax into that blinding Sun of unconditional Love. A survivor of that rocketing plummet from those stratospheric heights to the Marianas-like depths of that ungraceful fall. A returning champion with that intimate knowledge and yet, the Quixote-esque courage, passion, and desire to rebuild those wings. Will you be the one to pass me that hammer and saw?

And...

-You will be honest with me and, most importantly, yourself about what you really want. I know who I am and what I am worth. I am perfectly happy to wait for that someone special that truly deserves me. I do not NEED to share myself with anyone. I want to. Know the difference. I do. I have more to offer than you may ever know. I will lasso the moon and present it on bended knee for the right person. Recap: I am frugal but definitely not cheap. However, I am neither shallow enough or rich enough to want or need to be your "Sugar Daddy" du jour. Move on. Not bitter, just experienced.

And...

-You are not super critical and judgmental of yourself or me. If you have a healthy sense of yourself and find yourself attractive enough mentally, emotionally, and physically to do this with me. And vice versa. I've been close to a LOT of women in my life so I truly do understand. Honestly, I have my quirks and body stuff just like you do so I really do not place a lot of emphasis on looks but please be relatively fit and healthy. Look, I am not sitting here in my briefs by the red phone waiting on pins and needles for the call to go model them, but I am in decent enough shape. I simply ask the same in return. My preference is someone that is nice, caring, and height weight proportionate to boot thats not a neurotic mess if they had 3 extra calories that day.

And...

-Understand what the words "consider" and "possibly" mean and for the love of all thats holy, don't take all the questions and tests here totally seriously. We are both individuals, not wholly the sum of the random 1's and 0's that represent us here.

And MOST IMPORTANTLY...

-You have a great sense of hum-ALL GLORY TO THE HYPNOTOAD!