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TomorrowsTooSoon

37 M Redding, CA

I’m looking for

  • Women who like men
  • Ages 21–35
  • Near me
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating

My Details

Last Online
Oct 23
Orientation
Straight
Ethnicity
White
Height
5′ 10″ (1.78m)
Body Type
Athletic
Diet
Mostly anything
Smokes
No
Drinks
Socially
Drugs
Never
Religion
Atheism, and very serious about it
Sign
Leo, but it doesn’t matter
Education
Dropped out of university
Job
Technology
Income
$80,000–$100,000
Relationship Status
Open relationship
Relationship Type
Mostly non-monogamous
Offspring
Doesn’t have kids
Pets
Has cats
Speaks
English (Fluently), Spanish (Poorly), C++ (Fluently)

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My self-summary
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I am a forerunner of the growing breed of computer geek that has reasonable social skills and likes active outdoor sports including bicycling, kayaking, snowboarding, roller blading, and rock climbing, plus training in two sword fighting styles and shotokan karate.

Add to that acting in stage and film productions, plus I do nature and portrait photography and even model every rare once in a while. For several years I was in our local Rocky Horror Picture Show which I helped to found.

Occasionally I get my nerd on and host PC gaming LAN parties (mostly FPS/RTS for those in the know), or play some RPGs (D&D, Shadowrun, White Wolf stuff).
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
As my details say, I skipped (dropped out of) university and went straight to work in the San Francisco bay area working with computers. I expect to be a software developer (aka programmer) for as long as my mind stays healthy. I love it. Early 2012, I also became COO for our company. It sounds more impressive than it is, we're pretty small, but it is nice for the resume.

Besides work, I am also very active in martial arts. Among other things, I teach a free weekly class in sword fighting (picture the movies Gladiator and Braveheart).
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Honestly, I'd have to say I'm good at whatever I put my mind to. The first things that come to mind are computers, martial arts, rock climbing, roller blading, bicycling/biking, snowboarding, hiking, backpacking... etc. ;)
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
I'm pretty certain my long blonde hair catches everyone's eyes first. Depending on how recently I had it trimmed, it falls in long straight lines to between the small of my back and just shy of my belt line.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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When the day is done, I like to just chill and read a good sci-fi or fantasy novel or kick back watching a movie. I generally don't go for stupid or low-brow humor, but a higher quality comedy or an action or adventure flick is great.

I love to read! Mostly I am interested in science fiction and medieval fantasy novels, though occasionally I'll read something else. I have enjoyed a great many books, but some key authors are Larry Nivan, Isaac Asimov, Ursula Le Guin, Anne McCaffrey, Greg Bear, Orson Scott Card, Peter Hamilton, and I have enjoyed Margaret Weis, Tracy Hickman and Piers Anthony in the past, though lately their writing has not been as appealing. I'd like to do some writing some time, too, but I never make the time. One of these years, I'll do nanowrimo.

I have a number of movies and a bit ago started with NetFlix which has been awesome for the instant play! Favorites include Star Wars, Hackers, Fifth Element, The Professional (aka Leon), Princess Bride, Almost Famous, Moulin Rouge, Across the Universe, So I Married an Axe Murderer, Gladiator, The Crow, MirrorMask, Boondock Saints, American Pop, Ghost in the Shell, Asoka, and several more.

As for music, I am very much into rock, metal, and alternative including the industrial, goth and darkwave sub-genres, plus trance and electronica are really good, too, especially as more background-type tunes. Specific favorites are Metallica, Garbage, NIN, Rob Zombie, Metric, Evanescence, TATU, Depeche Mode, Type-O-Negative, Cruxshadows, Stabbing Westward, Nirvana, Ladytron, Aerosmith and U2, just to name a few. My preferred dancing style is basically a form of interpretive free style martial arts to a good techno beat. Or head banging. ;D

I'm a little picky with food. Given the chance, I remove any larger chunks of onions and tomatoes out of my food. I really enjoy meat of most kinds and preparations, but I'm trying to be more ecologically-aware, so I'm open to alternatives. Ethnically, my favorites include Indian, Thai, Japanese, Chinese, Italian and American. Mmmm... steak, lasagna, pizza and curry - YUMMY! (not all at the same time, of course)
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
Could never do without? Stupid question. However, for the science of OKC, let's list a few things I like most. Computers, driving fast, martial arts, good health, flirting, and the outdoors i.e. nature.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
There are so very many things that I would do and change if I only had the time and power to do so. We mortals are but twinkling glimmers in the grand scheme of things, short-lived ember sparks rising from the bonfire of humanity into the ashy sky of tomorrow.

Sometimes I just ponder humanity, all our achievements, and all that we have yet to accomplish. I would love to be immortal, to be able to see the changes in our world and society as time slips by. There is no doubt in my mind that star systems, worlds, and amazing technologies and discoveries await us and I want to be there to witness it and live it. I am a dreamer but rooted in reality.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
I can be a geek, but I am also thoroughly into getting out and having a good time.

Weekends are my time to play hard. When the snow is good, I head for the snow park to snowboard or ski. I would like to get back to backpacking at least once or twice each summer, and I always at least go car camping. I bought a kayak in 2007 and in 2008 I bought a Kawasaki Ninja ZX-6 motorcycle. Then there are the special martial arts training, sparring, and sword fighting events.

When I'm not heading out of town, its nice to catch a movie or just hang out at my place or a friend's. I'll catch a live band occasionally, and I like karaoke, but I'm really not into the bar scene (expensive drinks and too loud to communicate), but I do like goth clubs. Too bad Redding sucks for the club scene.

I helped form a Rocky Horror Picture Show / RHPS cast, My Favorite Obsession, here in the Redding/Red Bluff area in 2004. It took up a lot of my time, and we had a good 7 year run before things died off.

p.s. First the blog/journal sections disappear, now the "Hey, I'm bored and looking for something fun to do" is gone from the mobile app. What's up, OKC?
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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"The most important thing I ever learned was just to love and be loved in return" (Moulin Rouge)

Polyamory: the state or practice of having more than one open romantic relationship at a time. (Mirriam-Webster)
(See Loving More at LoveMore.com for more)

I am polyamorous ("poly") by nature. I am married to sa_briel (she hasn't bothered to update her profile in a while). I tell my wife everything.

We belong to no one but our selves, and should be free to share our companionship with whomever we connect with. I have tried monogamy, and it can work for me in the short term, but ultimately there are just too many wonderful, unique people in the world. Total honesty is key, which applies to all relationship styles and is something we all must work at, both in telling and receiving.

If you are open to these ideas, or would like to know more about my thoughts, I hope you'll message me. :)

p.s. A real confession: I have some photos with my guitar... but honestly, I can't play more than a few chords (yet). Some day, maybe I'll make more time for it. ~sigh~
You should message me if
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Tell me what you like about my profile. Hell, tell me what you DON'T like about my profile. ;)

If you're in Portland and are wondering why I browsed through your profile or messaged you, it's because I will be moving up there in January 2015. ;D

I'm a very active guy as I have indicated. Health and fitness are important to me. You'll have to be at least somewhat in shape to keep up. If you're into outdoors sports like the above, we've got some good starter material. ;)

It would be great if you were open to the idea of polyamory (but not required if you're just looking for an activities friend). I am looking for folks of like mind for fun, adventure, and hopefully more. See "The most private thing I'm willing to admit here" above.

Last, I'm generally very open and live-and-let-live, but the more religion that I am confronted with, the more atheist I become. It's a logic and rationalist thing.

With all that said, feel free to message me if you feel we have something in common, or even if you just like my profile. I'll try to respond in kind. :)

p.s. Although I have the best of intentions, history has shown that I am not so very good at long distance, so though I am happy to correspond, there are often large gaps as daily life intervenes. :(