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Tonbo

37 M Indianapolis, IN

My Details

Last Online
Jul 30
Orientation
Straight
Ethnicity
White
Height
5′ 10″ (1.78m)
Body Type
A little extra
Diet
Mostly anything
Smokes
No
Drinks
Socially
Drugs
Never
Religion
Agnosticism, but not too serious about it
Sign
Taurus, but it doesn’t matter
Education
Graduated from university
Job
Administration
Income
$30,000–$40,000
Relationship Status
Open relationship
Relationship Type
Offspring
Doesn’t have kids
Pets
Likes dogs and likes cats
Speaks
English (Fluently), Japanese (Okay), Spanish (Poorly)

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My self-summary
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My self-summary... You know, we spend our entire lives trying to figure out who we are, is this space really enough to do that quest justice?

First and foremost, I'm polyamorous, and so is my primary partner. That doesn't mean that I'm looking for someone to see both my girlfriend and myself; we're separate people, and maintain separate relationships (and the key word there is relationships). There have been occasions where they have intersected, but those are the exceptions to the rule. If you aren't ok with that, then I'm not the guy for you.

If you can't tell already, I'm not normal. I look at the world from a strange vantage point. I suppose you'd say that I love to study human nature; it's been a lifelong study. I enjoy observational humor and wordplay a lot. (Honestly, I think that the Marx Brothers are comedic geniuses. But, then again, I also think South Park is genius social satire.)

I love new experiences, for the most part. I tend to deal with the world on my own terms, but end up having some wild times. I've taught overseas for two years, hitchhiked through northern Japan, had a drink with pro wrestlers, subtitled Japanese animation, and worked in quite a few fields before I ended up where I am now. My true passion lies in cooking and writing though.

Though I tend to act a bit differently from time to time, anyone who's near to me knows that I don't try to be anything that I'm not. I simply am who I am. Of course, this happens to mean that I'm incredibly geeky, a bit bookwormish, and a hopeless dreamer with a twisted sense of humor.

In fact, I'd probably describe my humor as what would happen when South Park, Family Guy and Monty Python all fused into a single sense of humor. In fact, many times I vault over the line of good taste without realizing it. It still gets laughs, mind you, but it does make for some awkward pauses at times.

I'm a geek and a nerd. You can find me with my nose in a book or a video game quite often. As most people could tell you, I can geek out quite often and have been known to ramble on about little known facts (nerding out) often as well.

I'm not really looking for much. Someone to hang out with from time to time and play video games, watch movies with, and generally pal around with. I'm of the firm belief that anyone that you date should also be a friend. So, start with friend stuff and let things go where they go. :)
What I’m doing with my life
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Getting ready to start a new career, playing hard at life, and just trying to make every day memorable. When I die, I'm going to look back on my life and say, "Man, I had a fun time!"

And the hair's short again! Got an interview for an excellent job, so I though I should look the part of the professional male.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
I'm proficient at a lot of things, but as for really good at something? I'd probably say that my best skill lies in cooking. I enjoy it a lot, but usually only when I have people to cook for. Cooking for myself isn't much fun, unless I'm experimenting with a new recipe that I've come up with.

I've also been told that I'm good at writing. I once had a professor tell me that I should keep all of my columns that I'd write for her journalism class and put them all out as a book of funny columns someday.

I'm really good at being a geek. There are days when I've been known to just goof off and play video games all day. (Of course, it's balanced out by the days when I sit around and read...)
The first things people usually notice about me
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More than likely, whatever facial hair I'm sporting that day. Or maybe it's my eyes. I used to get told that I could win Best Eyes in Indiana. It could even be my glasses, as they are a cool shade of metallic blue. Depending on my mood, it could even my my goofy grin.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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Books.. I love a good book. Just as long as it's a good book, I'll read it. My favorite authors would have to be Terry Pratchett, Jim Butcher, Douglas Adams, Brian Lumley, George R. R. Martin and Frank Peretti. I read tons of books. In fact, I devour them. I spend every lunch hour and both breaks at work reading.

Movies... I collect movies and I love watching them, good or bad. As for my favorite movies, I'd probably say that The Seven Samurai, One Crazy Summer, They Live, Evil Dead 2 and Ted all rank high up there. And for a wonderfully bad movie that doesn't even take itself seriously? Cheerleader Ninjas.

TV shows... Well, I tend to watch How I Met Your Mother, The Simpsons, Community, The Blacklist, South Park and Game of Thrones. But my favorite show? Supernatural hands down.

Music... I tend to listen to music while I work on projects at work. Basically, I listen to Pandora. Though I have it set on a Village People station, the music that plays on it varies from Minibosses to NOFX to Reel Big Fish to Frank Sinatra to Offspring to Peter Gabriel. It's a bit random, but tons of fun to jam out to.

Foods... I enjoy cooking. So long as it isn't cooked fish, I'll eat it, or at least try it (and I'm always looking for a new meat to add to the ever growing list of meats that I've tried).

I believe George Burns said it best with, "Happiness? A good cigar, a good meal, and a good woman - or a bad woman; it depends on how much happiness you can handle."
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
I'm going to go ahead and assume that food and water are givens on this. And I won't mention my glasses, as I just identify those or contacts as just another part of me.

Ok, the six are (in no particular order); love, friends, family, books, games and someplace to cook.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
Usually, just whatever pops into my mind. I've been known to suddenly drop everything and start researching something just because it interests me at the time. Topics have been known to include (but haven't been limited to): chemistry, cold fusion, video games, script ideas, history of chili, theories on time and space, and so on.

I also get into silly moods and begin thinking about some oddball things. As I lived in a village that reprocessed nuclear fuel (and was in the running for an experimental nuclear fusion reactor), I firmly expect my superpowers to kick in any day now.

In recent times, I've taken to carry a notebook with me to jot down ideas to expand upon later. I've also been thinking about learning some programming to try to develop one of my many ideas into an actual video game. It just seems like the time.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
It's really exciting. Are you ready for it? Mostly I just end up sitting around with the girlfriend, perhaps a few friends. We might watch movies, we might play some games.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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I finally have a couple streaks of grey/white in my beard. Part of me has secretly been waiting for this to happen for years, as I think it makes a beard look slightly more distinguished.

I also can be quite socially awkward. At times, I say something that I intend to be humorous, only to find out that nobody else was thinking along the same lines I was. I also tend to have odd transitions. I'm much better with the written word than I am with the spoken.

I suppose I should also say that if you happen to see that I've visited your profile, but didn't message, take heart; most of the time I don't message someone until they message me first. It's a bit rare that I take that first step. I never quite know how someone is going to react to the poly thing.

In the end, I suppose I'm an open book. If you have a question, feel free to ask!
I’m looking for
  • Girls who like guys
  • Ages 21–50
  • Near me
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating
You should message me if
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You feel like having a good chuckle. Or if you just want to talk. If you have questions about Japanese or Japan. Or if *hypnotic eyes* you will message me... you will message me... *cough* Now, where was I?

Also, if you spontaneously start humming or singing the theme to any of the Katamari Damashii (Katamari Damacy in English) games, you should message me. If you read a lot of books, you should message me. If you just have an awesome personality with a great sense of humor, you should message me. If you embody all of the above, why have you not messaged me yet? Did you NOT see the hypnotic eyes?

And I'm always happy to have a good conversation with someone, so feel free to drop me a message!