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30 Milford, CT Man


I’m looking for

  • Women
  • Ages 18–30
  • Near me
  • Who are single
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating, casual sex

My Details

Last Online
Feb 26
5′ 7″ (1.70m)
Body Type
Strictly anything
Trying to quit
Other, and laughing about it
Cancer, and it’s fun to think about
Graduated from university
Art / Music / Writing
Rather not say
Strictly monogamous
Doesn’t have kids, but might want them
Likes dogs and likes cats
English (Fluently), Chinese (Okay), Spanish (Okay), Tagalog (Poorly), Vietnamese (Poorly)

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My self-summary
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I am a writer with a Bachelor's degree in English from Boston University. In due time, I plan on returning to school to get my Master's. Fields I am considering include but not limited to: counseling, creative writing, and a M.S.W. My personality type is best indicated as an INFJ. Obviously. =)

I've worked a lot of entry level jobs my whole life. Making wonderful use of my English degree, I've been turning wrenches in a major retail business for the prior three years since February 2011. ; )
What I’m doing with my life
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I am a freelance writer and unfortunately, I am living at home, but to take care of my parents though. In the Chinese generation, it's customary for the eldest son to take care of their parents in old age. However, my older brother doesn't get along with my parents that well, so it has fallen on me by default. =P

I am living in my hometown. I just finished an autobiography called, "Could've Been Crazy." Look it up. ;-) Exclusively on Some hobbies and goals I have include: Japanese animation, an eclectic taste in music, cars, personal fitness. I can be creative enough in the culinary arts, and I would love to learn martial arts.

I've noticed there have always been a lot of things I am interested in pursuing, but everything in life is so money-oriented I've realized. It brings a tear to my eye. ; )
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
I'm really good at contemplating deep thoughts, finding metaphors and meanings in typically meaningless life occurrences, and discovering inspirational encouragement. Also, I have some expertise in automotive maintenance.

Being an INFJ, I am very intuitive about how my friends and other people feel. At one point in my life I began to earnestly believe that I had extra-sensory perception (there's a long story that goes with that: that's like a fifth date story). ;-)
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
To quote an outdated anti-drug commercial, "My style, my style: nobody can have my style."

I have also been told I have nice eyes. Apparently my eyes are windows to my troubled soul? Was that deep? XD

In larger groups of friends especially if there are people I haven't met yet in said group, I can be a bit reserved, but that's only because I'm analyzing the social dynamics of the situation, their style, etc. Ha-ha, does that sound weird? ; )
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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My favorite book would have to be an inspirational memoir by Jennings Michael Burch entitled They Caged The Animals At Night. I appreciate so many movies that it is difficult to decide on just one. Personally, I don't watch much television at the moment, which has its pros and cons. ; ) As I typed in an earlier field: I have a very diverse preference in music. Ethnic food of all types are pleasing for me.

My favorite movie...if I HAD to pick, then Finding Forrester - it's a writer-type kind of movie. OR Dragon: The Bruce Lee Story.

Favorite show, which I coincidentally downloaded, has to be How I Met Your Mother. Basically: I am Ted except my name is Tony. XD

I honestly like Pop and R&B music the best. Basically, songs one can sing along to. I hate being the only one singing though. ^_^

My Mom is part Vietnamese so I've grown up eating Pho every now and then.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
1. A computer with access to the internet and a word processor.
2. An electronic cigarette to continue my successful rehabilitation from an unhealthy cigarette addiction.
3. Society.
4. A personal vehicle.
5. A big and comfortable bed.
6. Coffee.
7. The inability to count. =P
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
Myself and worrying about the people I care about: apparently, I am a bit of a narcissist and a worrier. I spend a lot of time contemplating about the future and my hidden potential, so to write. ;-)

As silly as this sounds for a guy to say, I think about settling down, my future kids if any, and a perfect wedding (I know, right?). XD
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
I try to spend as much time with my friends as possible from a small city in New England.

I try to stay in touch with my contacts in California, Vegas, and various parts of New England including the greater Boston area.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
Hmm...I would have to plead the 5th on this one: I am somewhat of a "closed" book at the moment. :-)

Somewhat private: I am merely trying to make my profile longer to fill the 1,000 word suggestion on OkCupid. ; )

I know it only says one, but last but not least is that I have somewhat long hair now that doesn't look anything like those other older pictures I have uploaded. Until I find some good photos, please feel free to ask if you are really curious and can't wait until in person. =P I just can't upload them here because they are so sexy that it will slow down and possibly stop the website from loading with all that internet traffic.
You should message me if
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You will message me after you have read these words and realize how caring and considerate a man with an INFJ personality as myself can be. XD