Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
Lifelong California boy, recent college graduate, awkward runty
geeky twink with a bad attitude.
I am aromantic, which is a word that means different things to
different people. For me, it means that I experience all
significant relationships as strong friendships which may or may
not include sexy times. It also means that I am sometimes
uncomfortable with certain displays of affection. But I like hugs!
Yes, I care a LOT about anti-racism, economic justice, labor
rights, feminism, healthcare and immigration reform. If you are not
down with my values, I do not have space for you in my life. Unless
you're giving me money (i.e. family or employers), don't expect me
to let any bullshit slide.
Explanations and disclaimers out of the way, I'm quite friendly as
far as misanthropic bastards go. The best way into my heart is long
conversations over beer about anticapitalist discourse and comic
books. Or take me on a long drive along the coast. I've always been
a sucker for the seaside.
PS. I suppose I should mention that I'm kinky? I enjoy a lot of SM
things, and am kind of involved in the BDSM and leather scene. So
feel free to ask me about that. But if that isn't anything you're
into, I'd still love to bond over whatever else we may have in
What I’m doing with my life
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Settling into adulthood. I'm seeking communities where I can share
ideas with other people committed to transformative justice, and
help foster grassroots organizing. Ultimately I hope to find a
career focused around these values, but for now a job is just a
means to an end.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
* organizing things, though you wouldn't know it from the typical
state of my room.
* various kinds of crafting: carpentry, leatherwork, sewing. I even
used to knit
* navigating without GPS
* cooking on a tight budget
* writing, when I get inspired for it
The first things people usually notice about me
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that I'm a runt. XD
Beyond physical appearance, I think people notice that I say
exactly what I mean. Conversation doesn't always come naturally to
me, but I'm not shy about speaking my mind or voicing a dissenting
opinion when warranted. I've also been told that I give
particularly thoughtful compliments.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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I'm a huge Marvel Comics fanboy, currently reading well over a
dozen titles, and especially an X-Men fan. Other comics/graphic
novels I adore are Transmetropolitan and Persepolis.
I do read plenty of text-only books as well. I tend to like fiction
and nonfiction equally well. Many of the books I've loved the most
have been semi-autobiographical novels, including No Great Mischief
by Alistair MacLeod, which unfortunately I lent to a friend who
I tend to watch a lot of goofy scifi action movies, some historical
dramas, and comedies where all the stars are over 50. The only tv
show I'm following at the moment is Game of Thrones.
My musical taste is diverse and complicated, including hip hop,
folk rock, and punk. I'm highly skeptical of indie music.
There are few things I won't eat. Lately my home cooking has been
alternately Mexican (mole, ceviche) and Cajun/Southern (gumbo,
fried catfish and cornbread).
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
my water canteen
a fuzzy sweater
something to read
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
how much the world sucks and I hate everything XD
Really it's a mix of introspection on how I engage with different
aspects of my identity, planning things like the furniture business
I dream of running or the novel I hope to write, and geeking out
over the comics and movies I love.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
alternately hanging out with friends, or sitting in bed mucking
about on the internet
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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I've never been particularly comfortable with my eye color, and
because of this I tend to prefer black and white photos of myself.
You should message me if
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* you have a question about something in my profile
* you have more to say than simply "hey how ya doing" (I tend to
get these long after they are sent, so it feels awkward to
* you have values and principles in alignment with mine
* you love comic books
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