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  • Ages 26-44
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Last online
Today – 8:02pm
5' 8" (1.72m)
Body Type
Atheism and it’s important
Dropped out of Post grad
Doesn’t have kids but might want them
English (Fluently), Japanese (Fluently), German (Fluently), French (Somewhat), Russian (Somewhat)
My self-summary
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I am a physician and humanist *. Japanese by birth, but left at age three. I'm your classical a INFP in the Jungian MBTI system: Healer, Dreamer and Idealist in a philosophical, and socio-political sense.

I am your dark outsider and eternal lone wolf. I fly in the face of mundane social norms and go against the grain. Your phony rebellion is to me a trite quasi-orthodoxy and pseudo-rebellion. You might find that the way I speak and dress may seem conservative, but I can guarantee that I'm probably the most left-wing person in the room. I might seem to ooze a certain professional and intellectual arrogance, but if you see past that you will be surprised how nice I am.
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
♤ Wishing I had the energy to finally write up my PhD thesis (immunothrombosis in cellular transplantation).
♧ Planning my book on C.G. Jung for the last 20 years without ever getting there
♡ Photography at a semi-professional level
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
♡ Spoiling Someone Special—I like to surprise.
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
♤ Always extremely well dressed. My style is more vintage (I collect fashion plates), but believe in ethical buying.
♧ Well spoken (I'm told I sound rather private school)—thoughtfully articulate.
☆ Seems aloof (shyness intermixed with intellectual arrogance), but warmly approachable if you talk to me (ie typical INFP)
☭ Seems conservative, but really a pinko commie type. OK, maybe not so pinko, nor the old fashioned Marxist either. I admit it: I'm a socialist who reads Marx-Engels-Feuerbach-Adorno in German. If I like Bakunin and Chomsky does that make me an Anarchist?
¥ People always ask if I am half Japanese (the answer to this bizarre question is a big no).
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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♥ "Classical" music (I hate this capitalist term and prefer to call it art music) nut: from pre-tonal Renaissance to modern post-tonal avant-garde. Either ways it's atonal music. E.g. Heinrich Isaac, Obrecht, Gesualdo, Monteverdi, Bach, Wagner, Berg, Schoenberg, Webern, Luigi Nono, Stockhausen, Henze, Xenakis, Pierre Boulez, Brett Dean, Birtwistle, and Salonen.
♡ The obligatory "cooler" stuff: Sex Pistols, Goldfinger, ilitch, Bump of Chicken, Garbage, Gojira.
☆ Occasional jazz buff e.g. Keith Jarrett, Miles Davis
♧ Occasional world music aficionado
♥Throw anything at me, from heavy metal to electronica and I'll sing it straight back at you. I find I often like the stuff models aged in their 20s select during shoots, but cringe at 1980's music (for which I feel not an iota of sentimentality).
♡ Art house movies
♧ Read extensively about history, philosophy, psychology, music, vintage fashion.
✰ Fascinated by Jungian psychological types (Keirsey), re-reading Jung's Gesamelte Werke in German.
☭ Want to study more Adorno (Frankfurt School). Alas, his Gesammelte Werke (Complete Works) just sit on my shelf.
☮ Subscribe to Nature Climate Change.
♥ Favourite book of all time? Possibly Spectres of Marx by Jacques Derrida. He grasps the haunting spectrality of the haunting digital images that flicker on our computers screens when we watch this.
♧ Finished Thomas Piketty's Capital in the 21st Century, next stop Das Kapital in German
✰ Literary: Heinrich Heine, Friedrich Hölderlin, Goethe, Hermann Hesse, Rainer Maria Rilke. After feeling like the only person on this site who hasn't read Haruki Murakami, I've brought a couple of his books—in the original Japanese, but struggle to stay awake...
♀ I've read more feminism than any woman I've ever dated. Love Naomi Wolf. If you go one up on me here, you double your brownie points. I've exchanged emails with Shere Hite.
☞ Oh gosh, I sound so bookish! I do love cycling, bushwalking, and I can ski. You'd better be fit enough to keep up with me!
☆ My macroeconomics phase is over. New blind obsession du jour = photography. Derrida's book on the subject Copy Archive Signature fascinates me. How do you feel about modelling for me? I'll teach you how ;)
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
𝄢 Music because it is like the profoundest inner vision for me
♥ A heartfelt yearning to seek the truth
✰ A willingness to learn and to be deeply humbled
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
ℑ Music, musicology e.g. why is pop-rock music still written in such a capitalist-orthodox diatonic-homophonic music language like it was still the Victorian era? Even Marilyn Manson sounds like pop music to my ears.
☯ History, political and social philosophy, art theory, existentialism, feminism, psychology, climate change.
♨ Why I keep reading Jacques Lacan when his ideas exasperate me so much...and why this idiot is so trendy in literary circles...gasp...
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
• at home reading, listening to music, blogging
• at a concert
• at a Jung Society talk
• planning/editing a photo shoot
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
Hopeless clotheshorse
You should message me if
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In case this profile freaks you out, I should mention that I don't routinely spout post-modernism, dodecaphonic composition, post-Marxist theory, or molecular medicine over breakfast (unless it turns you on). If you got the impression that I am trying to scare away anyone whose only idea of a "good read" is a trashy magazine, then you have understood me correctly.

It is truly a rare person whom I trust enough to ever share my deepest thoughts on such esoteric things, and I mostly speak where such things inspire, comfort and reassure us deeply and profoundly. Underneath my thin veneer of cool intellectuality, I am all starry-eyed idealist.

The two classic types based on Jungian MBTI personality typing as to who is an ideal match for an INFP type are:

1. ENFJ: possibly—but not necessarily—a Teacher. A warm Extrovert, with a born ability to draw the best out in people. Great at getting people to do things because of a iNtuitive ability to get under people’s skins, and into their hearts. Warm hearted and sensitive with people’s Feelings. An Idealist, with a heartfelt vision for a better world. An Idealist in Love and one who yearns for this idealistic Love to be reciprocated.

2. ENTJ: a born Leader, smart, and always right...dammit! Quick to Judge. Intimidating to some, but can be charming. Clicks with someone who appreciates an uncompromising authenticity and an uncanny meeting of minds. Values someone who is a sounding board for their innermost thoughts. Classic ENTJ: Paul Keating.

The idea is that there should be a balance of "similar" and "opposite" between two people for there to be "chemistry".

If you want to know what your MBTI personality type is then I suggest that you take this test.

For skeptics, I can only say that this is an infinitely better way of finding a match than a horoscope. After a lifetime of blundering from relationship to relationship with the wrong types, you might find it a revelation.

If you are deeply religious, a climate change science denier, or a medical science denier (i.e. so anti-mainstream medicine that you think that vaccinations and evidence-based medicine are some weird conspiracy) then we mightn't get on so well!

Finally addendum: after several years on this site, I've come to accept that I'm just too different (read weird) to everyone else to be compatible with anyone on this planet. I just give up. I am doomed to be the eternal dark outsider and lone wolf howling in the wilderness. However, if you think this means I seem like someone who would make an interesting (read weird) friend just drop in to say hello. I've never really dated anyone from OKCupid, but I've made a couple of friends.

*N.b. translation for humanist = Godless monster (God-zilla) :) Kindly take note before sending me your message saying "God bless you"