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My self-summary
PLEASE READ THE ENTIRE PROFILE or AT LEAST SOME OF IT---AS FAR AS YOU WISH and you will notice that I'm not exactly the 'typical girl next door"...and, in fact, not a very typical girl at

ALERT: If you have something to say, please say it and not some lame generality. IF YOU SAY NOTHING BUT ONE WORD OR SO, your message will just be deleted ASAP.

DOUBLE ALERT: A one word spasm message is NOT a message....and indicates you probably didn't even read the did read it....but just have nothing interesting to say.

TRIPLE ALERT: If your profile has NOTHING in it but cliches that are normally seen on Hallmark greeting cards...about how sweet and sensitive you are.... also don't expect that they will be noticed among the hundreds of other emails. Why not be really sensitive and sweet and actually take the time to say something rather than "nothing"

And truthfully, no one (who has a life) really has time to spend chatting with someone they don't know, who lives hundreds and thousands of miles away. And who is too lame or dull to say anything worthwhile in a message Do they?

I'm actually very, very new., certainly new to being a woman..
As Anais Nin, my newfound kindred spirit said,

And then the day came,
when the risk
to remain tight
in a bud
was more painful
than the risk
it took
to Blossom.

Up till recently I spent my life as a male seeking the perfect woman, someone who shared my values and view of the world, and I was among the most surprised that the woman I was looking for was me. And now here I am, as what society calls " a transgender woman", still looking for someone. Even now that I've found myself. Some things never change. :)

To paraphrase Marilyn Monroe, I'll just say "I don't mind living in a man's world if I can be a woman it

I should also say that I am not so many of us are in this dating think that I'm just going to bump into the perfect date, lover, romance and live happily ever afterward. I might, too.

But really what I am looking for in this internet interlude is good cup of coffee or two (or...OK...maybe a glass of wine) and some good conversation. That's the most we can bet on in life....and after that, who knows.

What that means is that I consider myself a person of substance and I'm hoping to spend an hour or two with another person of substance. That in itself is a rare enough treat. And, most definitely, I am not looking for some poor ravaged male soul who believe that an email and a courteous "hello" back means that he is going to engaged in mad love making very soon.. :)

A cup of coffee and some conversation!!!! That's all that this is least right now..and the rest is up to fate.

My life, I believe, is an adventure . I do have moments every now and then when I am terrified.Will I be able to become the woman I wish to be? The woman a lover wishes for and desires? . But perhaps we all do have such moments.

After the extent of the journey I've embarked upon, beyond gender and beyond anything I ever imagined before, to relocate anywhere would be a very small step in comparison.. one even I could manage in my wobbly new (very high) heels.

OK, one more thing. I don't know how I took those photos. They look a lot better than I do in real life it, so don't be fooled by pixels. .pssst.. I've probably improved since the photos...and, as I progress in my journey this next year or so, I will soon have the estrogen of a twenty year old hottie coursing through my veins...

By the way, we don't have to be totally "date" driven here, do we? I've met some potential great friends--without the romantic strings attached

But a kiss and a hug from someone who shares the adventure makes all the difference, don't they. We all need not only to be truly held...but to be totally and truly beheld as who we are....Maybe I'll be lucky to find that. Maybe you will . I've told you where to find me. and get me and take me away from all this...LOL

“Love is not a hot-house flower, but a wild plant, born of a wet night, born of an hour of sunshine; sprung from wild seed, blown along the road by a wild wind. A wild plant that, when it blooms by chance within the hedge of our gardens, we call a flower; and when it blooms outside we call a weed; but, flower or weed, whose scent and colour are always, wild!”
― John Galsworthy, The Forsyte Saga

PS: for those guys (or girls) who really have nothing to say...why in the world do you want to "chat"..You're just going to bore me even faster than you might in real life....LOL So, please ,if you have nothing interesting or charming to us both the waste of time, OK?
What I’m doing with my life
I truly believe it's now a woman's world, a woman's age...and the future of our civilization is in the hands of brave and beautiful women...and men will follow their lead. I always was a great fan of Ayn Rand's Fountainhead, and now I find myself in her heroines footsteps and apsiring to the empowerment and beauty it gave them.

For those who smile at all this..rather than frown...and are curious as to a relationship with an exceedingly atypical gal like me, my other interests outside scientific research, include volunteer tutoring high IQ,, ADHD, and gifted children (I love kids..) and zealous nutritional and anti-aging supplementation well as movies of all kinds, even the very, very bad. Yes, I've been known to cry at sad endings. And happy endings, too. And I have a weakness for baseball, too. Don't ask me why, they don't even wear short pants.

So, yes, now that I've abandoned my male life, as femaie I am seeking a confident, assertive woman or man to be part of a new life and for me to be part of theirs, ready for an unusual adventure, who yearns to have a glass of wine and snggle and watch an old 40's movie with a girlfriend every once in a while (I've always been a chronic snuggler and really am a 40s black-and-white movie girl.

I cannot be sure what the reaction to me will be on this website. I'm almost certainly not the type of girl you expected to meet here o, so I feel reluctant to contact you first.--and hope you choose to live dangerousy and contact me.
I’m really good at
being bad....LOL..or should I say I'm really bad at being "good"?
The first things people usually notice about me
My then (perhaps I flatter myself?) they realize that I am "present', very much here and now, and that I occupy the space where I am intensely.... fully...and I don't shrink back into smallness or politically correct emptiness....if I'm with you in the same place, you'll know may not like it or you may love it...but you'll know it.....
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
I haven't watched a network TV show in about 25 years, no have I read a newspaper for about thirty years.....or seen the "news".....

I do have some favorite TV shows in recent years...that I get from iTunes or DVD and use them to exercise with...never on TV time.....Fringe, Dexter, Sara Conner, Battlestar Galactica, 24, Lost......don't watch sitcoms ...because they are full of cultural propaganda.....would rather watch I Love Lucy reruns from a 100 years ago....LOL

Reading that shaped my life includes Herman Hesse (Siddharta, Steppenwolf and The Glass Bead Game), Castaneda, Zen and the other Motorcycle Maintenance, Ayn Rand (especially the Fountainhead), and biographical inspiration from Einstein, Marilyn Monroe, Steve Jobs, Anais Nin, Wittgenstein, Turing, Simone de Beauvoir ...
The six things I could never do without
•Nutritional supplements and vitamins and herbs
•Reality (that's why they invented it, isn't it. so we're not all prisoners of 'chat"...right?
•Great movies of all types and eras (and mostly not anything in recent years)
•My elliptical trainer and treadmill
•Joy (and that's a lot different from boring dumb and dumber "fun")
•Intelligent forms of life as company --day and night, dressed and undressed

• I forget to mention shopping, shopping, and more shopping??? That's three more. No...and more that makes TEN..
I spend a lot of time thinking about I agree so completely with the wisdom of Marilyn Monroe and how it makes me smile.....and I hope you, too

These are more Nuggets from the golden girl

** "Women who seek to be equal with men lack ambition."

** "I used to think as I looked out on the Hollywood night — there must be thousands of girls sitting alone like me, dreaming.......... But I'm not going to worry about them. I'm dreaming the hardest."

** "We are all of us stars, and we deserve to twinkle."

** "Give a girl the right shoes, and she can conquer the world."

** "Imperfection is beauty, madness is genius and it's better to be absolutely ridiculous than absolutely boring."
On a typical Friday night I am
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
is that I'm still very much a "work in progress"....but then again aren't we all? Of course some of my progress depends on the hands of surgeons....LOL " As for anything "private" that's why it's called "private"....right?
You should message me if
and only if you're ready, eager and willing for us to be properly introduced first before chatting...and to get to know each other through an email or two or three....old-fashioned letters....before you want to chat or phone.

My momma done told me never to chat with, actually AFTER we get to know each other's background a bit...then chatting can be fun.....but, honestly, guys, if a girl just went on chat with every guy who contacted her...and spent a half hour of chat time just to find out that they had nothing in common or to talk about....but you know she wouldn't be very smart would she? Too many men and too little Really.