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34 • Oakland, CA • Man
I’m looking for
- Ages 18–34
- Located anywhere
- Who are single
- For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating, casual sex
- Last online
- Today – 12:37pm
- 5′ 7″ (1.70m)
- Body type
- Mostly anything
- Sagittarius, but it doesn’t matter
- Open relationship
- Doesn’t have kids, but might want them
- Likes dogs and likes cats
- English (Fluently)
I am a loving, loyal, communicative, playful, kinky, cuddly,
bi-sexual, (1.8-ish on the kinsey scale) switch (almost exclusively dominant with women but still flexible and tend to be submissive with men) male. I was introduced to polyamory 13 years ago and have been more deeply exploring alternative sexuality in the Bay Area for the past 10 years. I more identify with creating "openly defined" relationships rather than polyamory. I am personally attracted to the model of having one deeply committed partner and then integrating our current lovers into the partnership ideally and creating relationships with new lovers together. All the while still having openness and fluidity within that ideal structure when we're not together. I'm just recently transitioned out of a partnership of the last 2.5 years and plan on openly dating for a long while until I find someone I really want to partner with.
I have a very high standard and commitment to the intention of always being able to return to a place of friendship if a romantic/sexual relationship isn't serving or working anymore. This fundamentally means staying committed to finding the most appropriate relationship which could also mean ending a partnership but still staying lovers. It is important that whomever I get deeply involved with is willing to live up to this commitment and work through whatever needs to get resolved to be able to get back to a place of friendship or find the most appropriate relationship. Because of this value and standard, I am close friends with a number of my past partners, been regular lovers with woodnympho for the past 6 years seeing each other about once a week and still very close to my most recent partner of 2.5 years.
With all of my lovers and partners of the past 7-8 years I've explored kink, D/s dynamics. My desire to delve deeper into those dynamics and exploration is getting stronger. As a Dom I'm both very loving, kind and patient but firm, direct, demanding and know what I want. I'm also open and flexible, enjoying meeting my sub where they're at while still getting what I want out of it. I enjoy introducing individuals to BDSM by making it more light and playful, as it doesn't have to be this serious and intense thing. As I often say, when I bring up BDSM and people say "oh, I'm not into that stuff!" I respond with "well, do you enjoy being nibbled on your neck, having your nipples pinched, hair pulled or being held down?" and they're normally like "oh yeah, I like most of those things" and I say "well to me that all falls under BDSM, there's just a wide spectrum". In addition, even though I lean towards rough play and BDSM it doesn't mean that I can't be adaptable and play with people in other ways as I enjoy a wide spectrum of sensuality and sexuality.
Some of favorite activities include any combination of the following; dance (especially contact improv), yoga, massage (giving and receiving), acrosage (massaging someone while lifting them off the ground with your feet), AquaProv (contact improv in water), soaking in hotsprings, hanging out on the beach (especially tropical), being in nature, intentional journeys through medicinal substances (ayahuasca, peyote, etc.), less intentional recreational drug induced adventures, self-improvement/exploration classes/workshops, cuddling, passionate kissing, wrestling (one of my fav!!), mind blowing sex (everything from the sacred (I actually dislike the overuse of this word) to the profane), playing with kink (BDSM, ropes, roleplays, fantasies, etc.), threesomes/foursomes, play parties and anything adventurous.
Really enjoying the beginning creations of monthly kink play parties. Creating a bridge between the BDSM scene and my sex positive communities that are interested in exploring kink more but wouldn't go to a BDSM play party in a dungeon. Very yummy groups of people we're attracting. Wanna join?
Long embracing hugs and/or cuddles.
Clear and responsible communication.
Inspiring trust and comfort in people.
Creating comfortable and enjoyable first time experiences.
Rope bondage, spanking, hair pulling, rough play, wrestling...
Energetically: My presence, calmness, and groundedness.
I also often get that I look like Edward Norton and even stranger I get that I sound like him, once from someone in a locker room that couldn't even see me just could hear me.
I'm not a huge movie buff either but some of my favorites are; Baraka, Samsara, Qatsi-Trilogy, Ashes and Snow, Waking Life, Avatar, Matrix, Inception, Borat, Bruno, Ali G, Short Bus, Secretary.
Regular education/entertainment include, Ted Talks, The Daily Show, Last Week Tonight and currently Game of Thrones. Past TV shows: Mad Men, Masters of Sex, Breaking Bad, Dexter, Girls, 30 Rock, Louie.
My favorite musicians are; Beats Antique, Wildlight, Lynx and Janover, Goddess Alchemy Project, Michael Franti, Brett Dennon, Bjork (my all time fav), Bassnectar, Glitch Mob, Portishead, Sig Ros, U2, Thievery Corporation, Telepop Musik, Regina Spektor, Imogen Heap, Sia, Frou Frou, and more...
I am committed to keeping my food local and organic whenever possible. I am an omnivore now but was either vegetarian, vegan or raw for over 10 years. Been eating out a lot lately not cooking at home as much as I used to. I normally go with a Red Curry at a Thai restaurant, next comes Sushi and then Mexican but a favorite is Venus in Berkeley. I do enjoy other ethnic foods on occasion and enjoy fine dining experiences often.
My iPhone and MacBook Air
Feel free to message me about anything!
You're already into or interested in open relationships.
You want to start a conversation on here to explore possibilities between us
You enjoy dancing and want to meet up at Ecstatic Dance.
You wanna meet up and do some AcroYoga/Acrosage
You wanna go rock climbing
You want to meet over coffee/tea or breakfast/lunch/dinner
You wanna play with ropes/bondage or kink play in general (these go to the top of my list)
You're interested in knowing about the events I hold out of my space.
Disclaimer: I don't tend to respond to one liners and especially from those that are out of state and have less than a 80% match with not much to say like "Hey".
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