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54 F Valley Village, CA

I’m looking for

  • Guys who like girls
  • Ages 34–65
  • Near me
  • Who are single
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating

My Details

Last Online
Yesterday – 7:51pm
5′ 5″ (1.65m)
Body Type
Aries, and it’s fun to think about
Graduated from university
Entertainment / Media
Relationship Status
Relationship Type
Doesn’t have kids, and doesn’t want any
Likes dogs and has cats
English (Fluently), Spanish (Poorly)

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My self-summary
Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
After years of therapy, spiritual studies, workshops, the study of human behavior, reasonable third-party advice, and SNRIs, I've got fewer snakes in my head than most women you know.

I'm always on a quest of self improvement, personal growth, and challenging my own belief systems. With hope that will benefit us both. I think men over 50 simply desire a lot less drama.

I'm sincerely, authentically accepting, and non-judgemental, while simultaneously preternaturally, absurdly passionate about what I believe in. It sometimes results in surprising shifts in my personality (as well as me interrupting, which I'm trying very hard to stop). I loathe injustice. Vervain is my Bach Flower Remedy. You'll need to really dig this about me, or I'll probably drive you crazy.

I've been told I'm a little weird, but in a good way. You'll need to think so if this is going to work. Tiffany described ME, in "Silver Linings Playbook": "There will always be a part of me that is dirty and sloppy, but I like that, just like all the other parts of myself."

I'm a Sapiosexual. My interests include the study of Buddhist philosophy; the attraction to the body instead of the spirit; the ego versus the heart; the biochemical and anthropological relationships between men and women; the release of oxytocin that presents itself as "falling in love," then several months into a relationship, the release of dopamine (more supportive and authentic, yet less passionate love) and how to keep the passion alive. How shame -- the feeling that there is something wrong with us -- gets in the way of speaking freely to our partners. How our attachment to the outcome of a relationship creates a fear which changes the energy of a relationship.

I'm interested in the differences between men and women. Spoiler alert -- men and women ARE different, and it helps to honor those differences. As David Deida says, women are not liars; our words are expressions of our feelings and the nuances of the present moment. What we say is like a cloud passing in the sky: well formed, coherent, and unrecognizable moments later. The feminine essence is emotion and love.

Are you exhausted yet? Then please, with all due respect, move on, because I may very well be too much for you. But, if you find yourself intrigued by the challenge, excited by the passion without the drama (well, most of the drama, I'm still a woman), then I hope you contact me.

I want, desire, and require a man masculine enough to hold me down, shut me up, and kiss me passionately as I succumb to my feminine energy (not an easy place for me because I've always been in charge of my own life, a rather masculine trait). Get me out of my head, tell me what you want, to tell me what to do to make you happy. I want to be in my feminine and to submit; and for you to be in your masculine, to take charge. If you do, you, my friend, will be the power that turns me to pure love, and I will release completely in your arms.
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
Keeping the cats from chewing up my yoga mat. Hoping to leave the planet a better place than I found it (a Sisyphean task at best). Constantly in transition while attempting to stay present. (Busy is good, but cuddling is better.)
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Spell check, figuring 15% but leaving at least 20, swimming and staying in the lake for hours at a time, napping, getting someone else to do the dishes, knowing the natural remedy for what ails ya', communicating with anyone.
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
My eyes are up here boys...
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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Books: "Do Not Ask What Good We Do: Inside the U.S. House of Representatives" by Robert Draper, "Beyond Outrage" by Robert Reich, "The Orphan Master's Son," "In the Realm of Hungry Ghosts," "The Wisdom of Love: Toward a Shared Inner Search," "Parting The Waters, America in the King Years," "The War of Art," everything by David Deida (You automatically get 5 stars if you've read "The Way of the Superior Man"), and Harville Hendrix

Big Star, Ryan Adams, Nick Drake, The Dodos, Iron and Wine, Neko Case, Guster, Eddie Vedder, John Hyatt, The Tragically Hip, Kelly Hogan, Wheat Kings, The Shins, The Go-Betweens, Hank Williams (reminds me of my dad) and a good Polka (reminds me of my mom)

TV Shows: "Homeland," "The Newsroom," "The Wire," "Shameless," "Vice"

Food: Anything excellent. It does not have to be expensive as long as it's fresh, well prepared, and the help is paid a living wage (no fast food).
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
Champagne, love, life long learning and personal growth, international travel. (That's only five; I'm trying to demonstrate my lack of high maintenance.)
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
What's within my circle of influence to help reinstate a middle class in this country.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
I loathe typical, I shoot typical. Knock me off my axis, teach me something, turn me on to something new. Or let's stay home and make out.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
I shampoo and rinse but don't repeat.
You should message me if
Offer a few tips to help matches win you over.
You're extremely intelligent (it's my Kryptonite). You're effectual and exceptional. You're masculine enough to help me release and focus on my feminine, you big strong man-cake, you. You like to balance time with me with time by yourself, and you have your own friends. You've read my profile and haven't run screaming from your computer. You don't hate my cats.