Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
I'm a square, somewhat geeky, responsible person wondering if I'll
continue to sit here alone.
I have a good, secure desk job and can afford more toys than I have
time to play with. I get outside when I can.
I have a few good friends, but no one really close, and that's
getting lonely. I know I don't play the smooth-talk,
quick-impression game well, but most folks I'm around for a while
warm up to me pretty quickly.
I'm a decent person, but I know I have my flaws. Let's be clear...
these flaws NOT substance addictions, unemployability, arrests,
lunacy, negative impulse control, etc.- I'm definitely sane, sober,
sensible, and solvent. I can be oblivious at times, and am quickly
frustratrated by fools, foolishness, and bureaucracy. And I work at
a large government bureaucracy... go figure. My friends know I
respond well to a whack up aside the head when I need one... and I
usually quickly recognize that I deserved the whack. I'm fairly
intelligent and sensible, and like sensibility in others. And I've
observed that sense and schooling aren't neccessarily correlated.
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
I'm cruising along working and playing outside as I have time. I'm
making enough to pay the bills and then some, and have a few more
toys than I have time to play with. I'm making enough to pay the
bills and then some, and have a few more toys than I have time to
My recreational addiction is whitewater kayaking. It's the outdoors
that I like rather than the adrenaline rush. I occasionally do some
light hiking and want to get more serious and eventually do some
backpacking. I started to get my bikes out again and discovered
that I still know how to ride. The engine is quite a bit out of
tune, however. I like neat out-of-the way places, old places and
ruins, odd critters, and sometimes just sitting watching the
scenery. I stay local, because there are too many neat places
within a day's drive that I haven't seen.
Sometimes the playing is in or around the garage with tools. I
always have projects for vehicles or house, including a major
remodeling project. I'm a dilettante, rather than a serious
mechanic or carpenter; tools are just another class of toy. I'm
making enough to pay the bills and then some, and have more toys
than I have time to play with.
The cats (yes, confirmed cat guy... well-behaved dogs are OK, but
the twice-a-day-every-day minimum maintenance limits weekend trips)
and kayaking pals are good company, but there's a definite hole in
I'm not at all ambitious for career advancement; I'm pretty high up
already and making decent money. The next step up means major
hassles, less security, and not enough additional money to matter.
The next step also is too much "management" and not enough "doer"
for my tastes. I'm a good performer, but if I could afford to walk
away tomorrow and become a recreational bum, I would.
I don't know what the meaning of life is, but I'm pretty sure it's
not anything like work, job title, or making the most money. Seems
to me the purpose of work is to afford a satisfying life, and I'm
doing OK on the "affording" part. As for the "satisfying" part,
well, that explains why I'm on this site.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
I'm an analyst by trade and tendency. Throw me a problem, and I'm
likely to find a solution if one exists... or to show the futility.
I do drive spreadsheets pretty well. I like rigorous, logical (but
effective and practical) thought. Wow, that sounds dull and
I like fixing things... dabbling at auto mechanics and home
projects... but I also know when to not pick up a tool and let the
experts handle it. Pay someone else to cuss and bust their
knuckles, and to FINISH it. Ooops, did I just hint that one of my
skills is procrastination?
Sometimes I just like to plop and be mellow... preferably outside
and away from the crowds. Watching the sun set over the Potomac,
boating or walking an isolated little stream... small scale is fine
The first things people usually notice about me
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In a room of people, I'm usually not a "noticable" person. I'm
definitely not a smooth, flashy, conversation starter in the center
of a group. I'm told I come off initially as quiet and aloof before
folks get to know me, but I usually earn their friendship with
decency, sense, competence, and some occasional geeky humor.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Help your potential matches find common interests.
Oh, wow... these aren't how I usually choose to spend my
But if I'm stuck indoors... The last fiction I really read was the
"Master and Commander" series. I got addicted to Tom Clancy for a
while, and liked Isaac Asimov and Arthur C. Clarke way back. In
non-fiction, I go through water and outdoor safety topics, railroad
books (big boys' toys?), military history and reference, and
occasional odd stuff like a steel production text.
Movies... well, a day outdoors is better than any movie or TV show.
But Deliverance, Sweeney Todd, Red Dawn, Pale Rider, and Frozen
will do if I'm stuck inside. And is the Firefly series ever going
My music has classical (Beethoven opera on an open road in a zippy
convertible is an interesting- and potentially dangerous-
combination), and the not-ancient stuff ranges from Orbison (yeah,
still pretty old) maybe into the 90s. CCR is about the "country"
limit of my taste, with Metallica on the hard end. Boston for good
acoustic rock, and add Journey, Rush, Benatar, Joel, Beatles, Moody
Blues, AC/DC, and a bunch more. Oooo... that list is really dated.
Don't ask me about the artists, history, etc; music is something I
listen to cover silence rather than an end in itself. And it gets
turned off when I have people to talk to.
I'm not really adventurous on food; I've found things I like and
usually stick with them. Food is ancilliary to whatever else I'm
doing; it's the people I'm with that count. I like good, simple
thin-crust pizza, shrimp & scallops, Americanized Tex-Mex, and
basic decent Chinese. I'm not sure I know what "good" Mexican or
Chinese is. Add good sausages and occasional steak to the list.
I'll eat out with friends or on a road trip, but the friends are
the main attraction, not the food.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
--Water- got to be playing on or in it.
--Cats- great companions. Have to appreciate their independence and
individual personalities. Dogs have masters, cats have staff.
--Financial security- I have a secure, well-paying, if dull job.
The risks of self-employment or working for a start-up scare the
crap out of me. I like not stressing over affording moderate
creature comforts. But note that this is not "as much as I can
possibly make". "Enough" really is enough- the goal of work is to
afford a life.
--Reliable vehicle(s)- yeah, I would like a zero-polluting way of
getting around, but show me a way that gets me to work, then play,
then home, and will carry my kayaks or tow my boat.
--Time for Fun. I don't know the meaning of life, but I'm pretty
sure it is not work or conspicuous consumption. I have fun being
outdoors, hiking, kayaking, or sitting with a good view... just let
me do that. And it would be really great to share that fun with
Still thinking about #6...
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
Lots of different things. Some are practical and responsible- what
home projects should I work on this weekend- and some are really
geeky- why aren't water-injected-turbo-compound engines made. And
sometimes, I want to just stop thinking. After work, I try to find
the "brain-off" switch and have some mellow fun, or just vegetate.
But note that "brain-off" does not equate to "get smashed".
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Loading up the vehicle for tomorrow's outdoor adventure, starting
tomorrow's home project, or vegetating so I have the energy for
tomorow's activity. Friday night is preparation for the weekend.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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I'm far more insecure, anxious, and self-critical than I have any
rational reason to be.
You should message me if
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