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46 M Portland, OR

My Details

Last Online
Jul 24
5′ 7″ (1.70m)
Body Type
Strictly vegan
Graduated from university
Relationship Status
Relationship Type
Has kids, but doesn’t want more

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My self-summary
I love living in Portland. Getting out in nature is a priority for me, and I am looking to create more opportunity for it. I bicycle pretty much everywhere, year round. I'm a positive, optimistic person. My kids are grown, but I really enjoy other people's children. It's important to me to be compassionate, vulnerable, joyful, and authentic. Yoga is key to my body and heart feeling good, and a main filter through which I interpret the world. I adore books, hiking, ecstatic dancing, and home-cooked food. I like to sing along with punk rock when nobody's listening. I am curious about the world and the people I see in it.

Polyamorous: I am in a stable, long-term marriage which we are carefully and lovingly choosing to open after many years of monogamy. And it's going rather well -- my wife has a deep relationship with her awesome boyfriend and is wonderfully supportive of me dating. She's great. My new favorite word: compersion!

In discussing my hesitation about online dating with a friend, he looked at me and said, "Own your awesomeness!" Yeah!
I’m really good at
Words/language/writing/editing. Talking about and sharing music. Cooking awesome food. Thoughtful conversation. Being affectionate. Introspection. Enthusiasm! Dumb puns. Being optimistic and seeing the bright side of most situations. Open and honest communication. I used to be good at sewing and keep thinking of how I can reintegrate that hobby into my life.
The first things people usually notice about me
Really, I don't know what people might usually notice about me...I look like a friendly, bearded guy in my 40s with short hair and earrings and tattoos poking out of my shirt sleeve. And I show up on time, usually on a bicycle.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Books: In fiction, I prefer Sci-Fi (eg, Spinrad, Stephenson, Rucker, Baxter, Octavia Butler). Nonfiction, I typically stick to science-y stuff that helps me understand the world, or creative nonfiction (eg, the New Yorker). Fave nonfiction authors include Bill Bryson, Terence McKenna.

Movies/TV: I enjoy watching movies, but have a very low tolerance for violence. Only on rare occasion will I watch a TV show (online).

Music: I'm quite the enthusiast. Thousands and thousands of artists and recordings and genres continually percolate through my life. I am passionate about music and almost always have it playing: jam bands to space music to house music to bluegrass to metal to reggae (especially dub) to punk to pop to electronica to swing to "world" to post-rock to jazz to folk to funk to progressive rock to unclassifiable weird stuff. And on and on and on.

Food: I'm vegan and like to cook. Please note that I am generally fine with meeting omnivores. That said, if cow is your favorite food or you're on that paleo fad, we may not be a good match.
The six things I could never do without
My yoga practice
Inner journeying
Time in Nature
Time alone
My bicycle!
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Veganism/animal rights, polyamory and sex, music and how I can share it with people, Portland, oncology, compassion, my wife, the natural world, science, what I learn in yoga class, our 2 kids and their experiences as young adults, how I choose to show up in the world, moving beyond my previously accepted limitations, and being a positive/optimistic and grounded person. How to be the best me.
On a typical Friday night I am
Spending quality time with my wife and/or friends. Biking to an event or concert. Civilized socializing at a bar or restaurant or potluck/dinner party. Planning Saturday's hiking. Chilling with a good book or movie.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I've traveled around the US but have only been out of the country as an adult very briefly -- a week in Canada and 4 days in Singapore, both about 10 years ago. That's it. A 2015 trip to Spain and Croatia is in the works, though.
I’m looking for
  • Girls who like guys
  • Ages 42–55
  • Near me
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating
You should message me if
A) You like what you read on my profile, and B) you happen to be an interesting, self-confident, vegan or mostly vegetarian woman, early 40s to mid 50s, live in or near Portland, and are willing to consider polyamory.