Update 1/7/2016: At the moment, I am only interested in meeting women who are either vegan or who would consider veganism.
I love living in Portland. Getting out in nature is a priority for me, yet I don't do it often enough and I am looking to create more opportunity. I bicycle pretty much everywhere, year round. I'm a positive, optimistic person. My kids are grown, but I really enjoy other people's children. It's important to me to be compassionate, vulnerable, joyful, and authentic. I adore books, hiking, ecstatic dancing, karaoke, and home-cooked food. I am rather curious about the world and the people I see in it. I am an ethical vegan, and animal rights are important to me.
Polyamorous: I am in a stable, long-term marriage which we carefully and lovingly opened 3 years ago after many years of monogamy. And it's going rather well -- my wife has a lovely relationship with her boyfriend and is wonderfully supportive of me dating. She's great, and we have excellent communication around our extramarital connections. My new favorite word: compersion!
In discussing my hesitation about online dating with a friend, he looked at me and said, "Own your awesomeness!" Yeah!
What I’m doing with my life
I help oncologists kick cancer's ass.
I’m really good at
Words/language/writing/editing. Talking about and sharing music. Cooking. Thoughtful conversation. Affection. Introspection. Enthusiasm! Dumb puns. Being optimistic and seeing the bright side of most situations. Open and honest communication.
The first things people usually notice about me
Really, I don't know what people might usually notice about me...I
look like a friendly, bearded guy in my 40s with short hair and
earrings and tattoos poking out of my shirt sleeve. And I show up
on time, usually on a bicycle.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Books: In fiction, I prefer Sci-Fi (eg, Spinrad, Stephenson, Rucker, Baxter, Octavia Butler). Nonfiction, I typically stick to science-y stuff that helps me understand the world, or creative nonfiction (eg, the New Yorker). Fave nonfiction authors include Bill Bryson, Terence McKenna, Brene Brown.
Movies/TV: I enjoy watching movies, but am not a movie buff and have a very low tolerance for violence. Only on rare occasion will I watch a TV show (online). I do enjoy stand up comedy, both online and in person.
Music: I'm quite the enthusiast. Thousands and thousands of artists and recordings and genres continually percolate through my life. I am passionate about music and almost always have it playing: jam bands to space music to house music to bluegrass to metal to reggae (especially dub) to punk to pop to electronica to swing to "world" to post-rock to jazz to folk to funk to progressive rock to shoegaze to unclassifiable weird stuff. And on and on and on.
Food: Strictly vegan, but otherwise open to nearly anything. Love to cook.
The six things I could never do without
Time in Nature
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Animal rights, polyamory and sex, music and how I can share it with people, Portland, oncology, compassion, my amazing wife, the natural world, science, our 2 kids and their experiences as young adults, how to show up as my best, authentic self.
On a typical Friday night I am
Spending quality time with my wife and/or friends. Biking to an event or concert. Civilized socializing at a bar or restaurant or potluck/dinner party. Chilling with a good book or movie. Smoking pot. Thinking about Saturday's planned hike.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I enjoy karaoke so much I always practice for days beforehand.
You should message me if
A) You resonate with some of what you read on my profile, and B) you happen to be a vegan or vegetarian woman, early 40s to late 50s, live in or near Portland, and are willing to consider dating a married guy.