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43 Austin, TX Man


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I’m looking for

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  • Ages 29-46
  • Near me
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating

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Last online
Today – 6:35am
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Relationship Type
Mostly non-monogamous
6' 1" (1.85m)
Body Type
A little extra
Christianity and laughing about it
Doesn’t have kids
English (Fluently)
My self-summary
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Creative type loving Austin, fighting procrastination (how cliche is that!), and crawling out of his cave more often now to see the stars.

I'm currently exploring polyamory with some very dear people. I'm available, but not for anything exclusive.
What I’m doing with my life
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Writing, writing, writing! For work and play right now. I need more work (what freelancer doesn't) so that's eating up most of my life at the moment. That and pen-and-paper RPGs, reading, and keeping up with family.

In case it's not immediately clear to you, "writing for a living" is spelled: P-O-V-E-R-T-Y. I'm not working as hard as I could be on the stuff that pays today because Step 2 involves breaking into fiction, and that largely means putting in a lot of work that may or may not pay off eventually, but almost certainly won't pay off at the end of the week. It's not like I'm living on the street (I have a rather nice two-bedroom apartment, health insurance, take regular vacations across the country and occasionally outside it, etc.), but I'm not exactly rolling in dough and I am very careful about my money. Which is why I can write for a living and not end up on the street.

I'm also exploring kink. Yes, I'm poly & kinky. Not bi, though, so not the complete triple play. ;p
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
dreaming stuff up. No, really, it's actually a compulsion. I can't stop. I'm a decent writer and pretty good at discussing sensitive topics with people. And I'm an excellent listener.

And, apparently, answering okcupid questions. They're a bit like popcorn; I chat with a friend over Skype and pop-pop-pop another two or three dozen gone.
The first things people usually notice about me
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is that I'm male. (Seriously, I think they did a study on that or something...) The second thing is that I'm a nerd. I dress like an engineer and my voice has been described as "belonging on NPR." Make of that what you will.

My girlfriend says I have a gorgeous ass, and she is available for references.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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Books: Death in Venice, The Return of the King, The Swords of Lankhmar, The Flavor Bible, The War of Art, Stranger in a Strange Land, Count of Monte Cristo, Sexual Personae...

Movies: Casablanca, The Princess Bride, The Adventures of Baron Munchausen, Singing in the Rain, LotR trilogy, original Star Wars trilogy, Wrath of Khan, Zulu, Fifth Element, The Matrix, Romancing the Stone, Shawshank Redemption, John Carter.

TV: Star Trek (original series), Babylon 5, Rome, Remington Steele, Moonlighting, Buffy, Firefly, Band of Brothers.

Music: Rob Dougan, Abba, Handel, Vivaldi, Hans Zimmer, Madonna, Depeche Mode, Neil Diamond, Sting, Daft Punk, the KLF, Brad Paisley, George Winston, Dhol Foundation...

Food: raw veggies, fried chicken, rare beef, pasta and lots and lots of garlic!
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
Good conversation, pretty girls dancing in black dresses, long walks, excellent poetry, invigorating music, and a creative outlet.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
my writing, RPGs, the creative process, politics, and cultural trends.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
writing some more! Or reading, or playing games (board, card, or RPG) with friends.

Also, anticipating feedback on fiction I've submitted for publication. It's like Schrodinger's Santa Claus: every day might be Christmas, but I won't know until the presents arrive.

I've gotten involved in the local kink scene. Yes, there is one, and there's something going on every weekend. I'm on the capital-letter end of the spectrum.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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I sing along to the radio when I'm alone in the car. Especially to Laura Branigan tunes.
You should message me if
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you enjoy pen-and-paper RPGs, talking about nerd-tastic topics over coffee at Mozart's, watching action movies at the Alamo Drafthouse, sharing books, or partnering on creative projects. (Most especially if you can draw and are eager to create a web comic.)

Also if you're an s-type looking for a D/M-type.