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I’m looking for

  • Women
  • Ages 51–66
  • Located anywhere
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating

My details

Last online
Today – 6:45am
5′ 7″ (1.70m)
Body type
Mostly vegetarian
Agnosticism, and laughing about it
Sagittarius, but it doesn’t matter
Graduated from Ph.D program
Rather not say
Doesn’t have kids
Likes dogs and likes cats
English (Fluently), Spanish (Fluently)
My self-summary
Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
Also open to Marin , Berkeley, oaklandand San Francisco, EastBay, san rafael, even Grass Valley, since I am quite movable these days.

About me: (To the tune of "I got rhythm, I got Music:")

I got kindness; I got rhythm,
I got security, who could ask for anything more?

I'm empathic, can connect too,
fun andl passion; who could ask for anything more?

Lots of play too, and adventure;
vulnerable, teachable, and con-fi-dent.

Too good to be true? Just another narcissist?
Proof is what you need to see; proof is what you'll get.
[end of tune[

So, If you write me, I will tell you two very good ways you can verify me. My two photos, btw, are about one year old.

BONUS: I also enjoy matchmaking and promise to intro you to two guys who fit several of your criteria if we are not a fit after our first meeting, assuming you are willing to go dancing or business mixers once or twice

Some FAVORITE QUOTES that communicate my values:
"Life shrinks or expands in proportion to one's courage" (Anais Nin).
"Life is a daring adventure, or it's nothing at all." (Helen Keller)
"Love consists more in looking together in the same direction than looking each other in the eye" (St.Exupery, author of the Little Prince)
"The difference between a good marriage & a great one is that in the latter each mate gives the other the same as in a good marriage, but in addition, each helps the other bring more truth, justice, &/or courage into the world.” (Tolstoy /GK). This one is especially important to me and best explains why i'm single

I was married; divorced 12 years ago. I've raised other women's kids (they--the women and their kids are refs) and I like most kids.

What really makes me different, I think (and a big reason I suspect I am single, is my dedication to creating a Great, not just good marriage or committed relationship (see Tolstoy quote above).

I also love to dance (WCS, ECS, and salsa), sing (show tunes, acapella, etc), hike, and of course stay fit. So being intensely alive is probably another thing that scares away most American women.

I love cooking great meals too, am great with kids (that above mentioned book was hugely popular with single moms), offer a few other nice surprises women love. In fact, more than one of my ex gfs have said i'd make a great wife.

FYI, I am into NVC-- nonviolent communications, 5 languages of love, Gottman's 7 Principles, etc.

ECONOMICS: I am economically stable, own own home Grass Valley on year-round stream; but keep searching if you are looking for a guy to wine and dine you
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
I am founder/head psychologist chief content officer for a social venture Internet startup, and i will bet you a nice dinner that you will find it absolutely fascinating, since it is arguably about the most important need in life after food and water and good health.
Former lives: successful investigative doc filmmaker (many PBS credits and awards)/ journalist, fundraiser, psychologist, and published author. So I am happy to help you in any of those pursuits if you need the help.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
creativity, listening, loyalty, being a friend, cuddling, love making, being a cheerleader; being a playmate, massage giver; co-creator of a better world; step parent or grand parent; win win out of the box solutions. All my ex's would definitely agree that with me, you'l never be bored and that they grew in good ways
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
my eyes and smile or my intensity; good listener; my curiosity (one of the reasons i am still single in fact); I can, however, be very calm and turn off the intensity when not appropriate;
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Help your potential matches find common interests.
Fav films are Norma Rae, Erin Brockovich, Inherit the Wind, Apu Trilogy, King of Hearts, 1000 clowns; Casablanca, anything George Clooney does; The Jerk, Chaplin, Orson Wells, etc.
Like Ted talks, thisAmericanLife,, DemocracyNow, Rachel Maddow, Daily show and The Colbert Report, To the best of our knowledge, etc
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
my creativity and love of play
my friends
my energy
and dedication to leave the world better off by having been here
Health (duh)
sense i am making a difference or at least on a path that could make a huge difference
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
the fact that we have the incredible yet frightening UNIQUE privilege and challenge of being the only generation in the history of our species that can save the planet as we know it--our mother; how best to do that--smarter ways to organize and grow a movement; my own startup--smartest way to find investor(s) soon for my startup, finding more talent--other cofounders, couple therapy and the user experience, how to be more efficient
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
If not out dancing, then working to help other couples succeed. After all one thing better than achieving a long lasting happy marriage myself is being able to repair and save tens of thousands of others. Sometimes watching an inspiring or hilarious movie with a friend
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
I have about 5lbs around my tummy i am dying to get rid of, and i fudged my age, because the above age is closer to the truth than what pops into people's heads when i give the chronological age (68), because most people cannot believe my real age and insist i am at least 15yrs younger, plus almost all my relatives live vibrantly to late 90s, and 100s (without any alzeimers on either side or even cancer), and i've got way more energy than most 20-30 somethings. But i gots to be honest. Skype me first if you want to check me out ahead to see if i'm worth the risk.
You should message me if
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IF ANY of the following 4 categories apply:
1) you think we have enoughValues (not achievement or education) in common to be good friends; OR:
2) you like matchmaking (being a true friend to your single friends), since if we are not a fit, i will matchmake for you if you will matchmake for me, (I offer very generous reward, btw, if it works out); OR
3) if we might be able to help each other make the world better in some significant way, OR
4) you'd simply be interested in a dancing, singing (or songwriting) or silly play activity, or nature trip adventure partner.