Some upfront basics:
- I like the term queer more than "gay," I guess, it seems like it's more open to possibilities, which I like.
- I'm looking for a relationship type deal mostly (ideally), though friends are always good too.
- My attractions are many and varied, so, shoot me a message, I'll probably like you :)
In general, the best way I can think to describe myself is to say that I am sort of an extroverted introvert. Meaning, I like people quite a lot, but I prefer small groups to large parties, quality conversation over quantity, and I do at some point need to go recharge somewhere after a lot of socializing. But I'm really sociable, which comes in handy when I'm teaching (as a TA). I don't know if my students are learning anything, but at least they're laughing.
Professionally (or "professionally), I'm currently writing my first dissertation chapter, or at least trying to. Basically this means that I spend a lot of time drinking iced chai in coffeeshops while checking facebook and freaking out. I know, I know. That sounds like everything you're looking for in a partner.
Let's see, what else can I say? I really value a sort of intellectual play, which is to say, I kind of enjoy taking on a devil's advocate position once in a while. Humor is very important to me. It's my top defense mechanism, sure, but it's also a real marker of intelligence, I think, so if you can make me laugh, I'm going to really like you. In general, it would be really great to meet more queer people in Madison (for friendship or more) (let's be honest, mostly for more), I don't seem to be very good at it and most of my friends are straight. I'm just not really into the club/bar scene. Plan B stresses me out most of the time. Though the occasional bar night or karaoke is a good time.
Hmm, otherwise, I'm perpetually trying to cook more and haven't managed to poison myself yet, so that's a good first step. I'm not a natural cook (yet!) but I follow directions well and usually end up with something good. I'm a bit neurotic, but in a good way, I think (if such a thing is possible). I worry a lot, but it's all part of the life process. Aside from those moments of crippling self doubt, I like to think of myself as a smart, driven cookie. I love movies and books, parenthetical asides, feminism, science fiction, good food, and better conversation. I'm somewhat of a geek, not terribly in shape (though I'm trying--I've just started doing yoga, because Madison), and am committed to living an interesting life.