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26 F Madison, WI

My Details

Last Online
Apr 18
5′ 6″ (1.68m)
Body Type
Judaism, but not too serious about it
Libra, but it doesn’t matter
Working on Ph.D program
Relationship Status
Relationship Type
Strictly monogamous
Doesn’t have kids, but wants them
Likes dogs and likes cats
English, Russian (Fluently), Spanish (Poorly)

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My self-summary
Okay, I can't write anything in this profile without overthinking and double-guessing it, but, such is life.

Some upfront basics:
- I like the term queer more than "gay," I guess, it seems like it's more open to possibilities, which I like.
- I'm looking for a relationship type deal mostly (ideally), though friends are always good too.
- My attractions are many and varied, so, shoot me a message, I'll probably like you :)

In general, the best way I can think to describe myself is to say that I am sort of an extroverted introvert. Meaning, I like people quite a lot, but I prefer small groups to large parties, quality conversation over quantity, and I do at some point need to go recharge somewhere after a lot of socializing. But I'm really sociable, which comes in handy when I'm teaching (as a TA). I don't know if my students are learning anything, but at least they're laughing.

Professionally (or "professionally), I'm currently writing my dissertation, or at least trying to. Basically this means that I spend a lot of time drinking iced chai in coffeeshops while checking facebook and freaking out. I know, I know. That sounds like everything you're looking for in a partner.

Let's see, what else can I say? I really value a sort of intellectual play, which is to say, I kind of enjoy taking on a devil's advocate position once in a while. Humor is very important to me. It's my top defense mechanism, sure, but it's also kind of a necessity; if you can make me laugh, I'm going to really like you probably! In general, it would be really great to meet more queer people in Madison (for friendship or more) (let's be honest, mostly for more), I don't seem to be very good at it and most of my friends are straight. I'm just not really into the club/bar scene. Plan B stresses me out most of the time. Though the occasional bar night or karaoke is a good time.

Hmm, otherwise, I'm trying to cook more and haven't managed to poison myself yet, so that's a good first step. I'm not a natural cook (yet!) but I follow directions well and usually end up with something good. I'm a bit neurotic, but in a good way, I think (if such a thing is possible). I worry a lot, but it's all part of the life process. Aside from those moments of crippling self doubt, I like to think of myself as a smart, driven cookie. I love movies and books, parenthetical asides, feminism, science fiction, good food, and better conversation. I'm somewhat of a geek, not terribly in shape (though I'm trying--I've just started doing yoga, because Madison), and am committed to living an interesting life.
What I’m doing with my life
Reading until my eyes fall out of my head. And that's only a slight exaggeration. Grad school, basically. Writing a dissertation (woeee) and teaching undergrads (yay!).
I’m really good at
Reading, listening, holding up my end of a conversation, making people laugh. I write an amusing limerick on occasion. I'm also pretty good at understanding things, and people, and being open-minded. And I'm truly excellent at having opinions and expressing them in occasionally awkward ways. Oy.
The first things people usually notice about me
People are always telling me how goddamn funny I am, so, that, I guess
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
It's so hard to pick favorites, but, in terms of books--well, authors--I love Dorothy Allison, Neil Gaiman, Virginia Woolf, Toni Morrison, Margaret Atwood, Joyce Carol Oates etc. I love poetry, but my first love is fiction. I'll admit that I'm kind of a snob when it comes to literature (and the question of what counts as literature), but I swear I'm not condescending or annoying about it, it's just hard not to develop some sort of opinion on books in my field.

This is damn near impossible, but okay, Movies & T.V: The Hours, Hedwig & the Angry Inch, A League of Their Own, The Royal Tenenbaums, any and all of Joss Whedon's works (Buffy, Firefly, Dollhouse), Battlestar Galactica, SG1/SGA, House, Freaks and Geeks, Veronica Mars and so on and on (and on). Also, I just watched Orange is the New Black (along with everyone else and their mother) and it is AWESOME.

In terms of music, I'm pretty much a walking, talking cliche. My favorite music reads like a Lilith Fair setlist. I like a lot of folksy type stuff, like the Indigo Girls, Chris Pureka, and Tracy Chapman, as well as other types: Melissa Etheridge, The Weepies, Regina Spector, The Goo Goo Dolls, the Waifs, Vienna Teng, etc.

And food? Well, I like most anything. Ethnic food is a particular favorite (Japanese, Indian, Thai). Italian is excellent as well, along with the occasional burger and whatever else. I'm not terribly picky. I had the most glorious ribs in some hole-in-the-wall in Memphis last summer and I'm still salivating over them. Otherwise, I tend to eat a largely veggie diet just because it's cheaper and easier to make, but, eh.
The six things I could never do without
My laptop, library access, sidewalks, running water, my friends, hugs.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
The future, the last thing I read/watched, gender (feminism, sexuality, misogyny, politics, etc), whatever is making me anxious at the moment (money, academics, family).
On a typical Friday night I am
Probably hanging out with friends, either out or at home. An occasional bar night is fun, but I generally prefer low-key kind of stuff.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I'm an immigrant (moved to America when I was 6). I'm actually not sure if I have an accent or not--some people tell me I do and other people tell me I don't, so I guess you'll have to decide.
I’m looking for
  • Girls who like girls
  • Ages 24–33
  • Near me
  • Who are single
  • For new friends, long-term dating
You should message me if
You're interesting, you think I'm interesting, you want to meet up for coffee, you want to teach me to knit, you want to have a good conversation, make a new friend, go on a date, etc, etc.

Also, one of the perils of online dating, I think, is that I'm often completely unsure if I am going on a date-date or a friend-date. Either one would be great, but it would be so wonderful if I was able to figure out which mindset to go in with. Perhaps I'll start being ridiculously upfront about it and asking should the opportunity arise.