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36 F Oakland, CA

I’m looking for

  • Guys who like girls
  • Ages 35–43
  • Near me
  • Who are single
  • For long-term dating, short-term dating

My Details

Last Online
Yesterday – 7:56pm
5′ 4″ (1.63m)
Body Type
Mostly anything
Scorpio, and it’s fun to think about
Graduated from university
Relationship Status
Relationship Type
Doesn’t have kids
Likes dogs and has cats

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My self-summary
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Hmmm, where to start? I'm generally a pretty balanced person, not given to extremes in my habits or beliefs. I have a hard time looking at the world in black and white, preferring instead to appreciate nuances. That's not to say I don't have strong opinions about things, but I'm also driven to see things from different perspectives. Understanding people and their motivations is very interesting to me.

I can be pretty sarcastic, but I know when to turn it off. I'm slightly more introverted than extroverted, but I'm friendly, warm and talkative too. I'm an INFJ, if that kind of thing is interesting to you (I majored in psychology).

Affection and humor are highly valuable to me. I'm very analytical. Sometimes that's a good thing and sometimes not.

I’m dependable, spontaneous, independent, versatile, resilient, restless, curious, sardonic, whimsical, creative, quirky, balanced, nostalgic, calm, adventurous and easily amused.

I'm grateful for all that I have in my life. I treasure my friends and family. I'm in a place where I feel very comfortable and truly like the person I am. As much as I enjoy my own company, I would love to meet someone who adds another layer to my life. There are certain things that don’t come in the form of being single, dating casually, or having close friendships and those are the things I’d love to share with the right person.
What I’m doing with my life
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Professionally, I work in Livermore and have a job I enjoy, however I work to live, not live to work. I will rarely talk about my job, because I don't want to watch your eyes roll back in your head from boredom. I like what I do though and I'm really good at it. As long as you don't consider my inability to get there on time to be a factor in assessing that.

Recreationally, I enjoy things like going for hikes at regional parks (Briones, Tilden, Redwood are favorites), riding my bike (for leisure, not for transport – it’s a $200 beach cruiser – flat, paved surfaces are pretty much required), checking out the Alameda antique fair and Treasure Island Flea, and other vintage/thrift shops in the area, road trips, short and long, live sporting events (but I don't really consider myself a sports fan), and I'm often down to go out for a few cocktails with fun people. I live near Lake Merritt and try to get over there at least a couple times a week for walks/running. It is really a beautiful area.

I have a variety of creative interests and inclinations and occasionally even have the motivation to pursue them. :)
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Cooking, listening, laughing. Finding the silver lining.
The first things people usually notice about me
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Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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Books - Animal Dreams, Shit My Dad Says, A Home at the End of the World, The Bloggess' book - Let's Pretend This Never Happened.
Movies - Bridesmaids, Almost Famous, Frances Ha, The Way Way Back, Ted, The Bourne Trilogy, Parenthood, I Love You Man
TV - New Girl, The Mindy Project, Modern Family, Burn Notice. I've developed an odd interest in spy related TV shows. Maybe I missed a calling? lol
Music - Lately I've been listening to The National, The Watson Twins, Pink, Caitlyn Rose, Alabama Shakes, Hayes Carll, Leonard Cohen, Lana Del Rey, Modest Mouse. I have incredibly eclectic tastes in music though.
Food - Thai, Indian, Mexican are favorites for dining out. I love to cook too.

Things/people that make me laugh: Pet Shaming, The Bloggess, buzzfeed posts of signs poorly translated from Chinese to English, Patton Oswalt, Louis CK, Patrice O'Neal, Janeane Garofalo, Aziz Ansari, David Cross, Margaret Cho, my dad, and when my cats fall off of things they shouldn't be on.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
Friends and Family
Irrepressible joy
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
The nature of ambivalence. The passage of time. The trajectory of my life. The world around me. The people I love.


"The whole problem with the world is that fools and fanatics are so certain of themselves, but wiser people so full of doubts." -- Bertrand Russell
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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I fear that my zumba class is ruining my taste in music. I have downloaded an embarrassing number of Pitbull songs.

I'm kidding. I'm actually not embarrassed by it at all.
You should message me if
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You have an awesome sense of humor. You appreciate a girl with curves. You're emotionally available, kind, fun-loving, sincere and would prefer to find a meaningful connection. I realize there are no guarantees when it comes to dating but intent does count for a lot, in my experience.

I don’t think good manners and basic social skills are too much to ask for. Please try to think of something more interesting to say than “hi,” “how are you,” or some variation of “nice ass.".

Also, I have cats, so if you're allergic or otherwise averse to them, that would probably be inconvenient for all of us.