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  • Ages 18–43
  • Near me
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating

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Last online
Today – 3:04am
Black, Hispanic / Latin, Other
5′ 11″ (1.80m)
Body Type
Aries, and it’s fun to think about
Graduated from masters program
Sales / Marketing
Doesn’t have kids, but wants them
Likes dogs and likes cats
English (Fluently), Spanish (Fluently), Japanese (Poorly), Italian (Poorly), Latin (Okay)
My self-summary
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Welcome to my little corner of the universe, my name is Dexter. INFJ (for those of you who follow the MB Test), Brooklyn-Born ethnic hybrid that's inquisitive, nature-orientated, GGG, open minded, & compassionate. I'm an old soul who, as playfully corrupt as I may be with some things, still has a persisting purity at my core. I'm taking each day as it comes and looking to make the most out of life and it's experiences alongside amazing people. Maybe you can be one of them, dear reader.

A website says the secret meaning of my name is as follows: "You easily make friends because most of the time you inspire optimism and cheerfulness and you attract them like a magnet. You have a unique sensitivity when it comes to beautiful things and moments. You never run from responsibilities and you never avoid the obstacles that appear in your way. You are a trustworthy person, you love animals and you value peoples sincerity. You like to smile and make those around you feel good." Between that and the Myers Briggs reading, you get a pretty accurate surface reading as to what I'm about. If you'd like a glimpse at what lies beneath the surface, then let's start getting to know one another and maybe I'll unveil the door.
What I’m doing with my life
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Volunteering at different events around the city, occasionally modeling for steampunk photo shoots, practicing to DJ for my amazing dance organization, going dancing towards the weekends, planning game/movie/cooking nights with friends, random road trips with friends and planning what state/country I should visit next from my ever growing list and exploring; for starters. Care to come along?

Career wise, ask me in person. Gotta save something for later. ;) I will say that my passion is Marine Biology/Marine Environmental Science but I'm not established in the field yet. If you are a fellow Marine Biologist/Marine Environmental Scientist and have some advice or could potentially help change that, skip the rest of my profile and message me now please! I will pay back your kindness with massages and addicting cooking! :) And/or a random getaway if we vibe well.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Helping heal animals from their injuries/sicknesses (One of my most cherished abilities), making people laugh, listening, being woken up regularly at 2AMish by friends to get advice on things and still being perfectly social/not killing them for the sleep deprivation, karaoke, Scrabble/WordsByPost, Cards Against Humanity, writing stories/poetry, cooking addicting food/inventing new recipes, giving hugs, cuddles and massages.

Some Interest include:
Swimming, scuba diving, meditation, fencing, psychology, photography, cosplay, Anime, paranormal/metaphysics, Celtic lore and Iaido.
The first things people usually notice about me
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Depends on where/when they see or hear me. Usually goes between:

• My smile and dimples.
• My eyes when they change color from time to time.
• Am told I exude a sense of balance & calmness; at least half of the time paired with the comment that I must be an old soul.
• Occasionally one of my accents if it is drawn out as I have several.
•If at Barnes & Nobles: "What the... is that guy really about to buy all those books!?" No, there's more than likely a second pile nearby that you aren't seeing at that moment. A third pile?! Also, not out the realm of possibilities.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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This list is truncated... But it's still a long list. =P There are many more to each category. Occasionally I try to shorten it but end up making it longer 3/4's of the time.

Favorite Books/Authors:
ALL THE BOOKS!!! LOVE to read and go through them faster than cells multiply (okay, maybe not THAT fast but it seems like it at times!) I read a lot of Science Fiction and Paranormal mysteries; also unapologetically a fan of Dystopian novels. If someone I trust recommends a title, I'm willing to give it a try no matter what the genre. Some of my favorite authors include Sergei Lukyanenko, Tamora Pierce, David Clement-Davies, Suzzane Collins, Veronica Roth, Keri Arthur, G.P. Taylor, Amelia Atwater-Rhodes, Faith Hunter, J.R. Rowling, Stephanie Meyer, Douglass Adams and Neal Shusterman

Currently Reading: "The Wind-Up Bird Chronicles" by Haruki Murakami

**Anyone have any recommendations as to what other amazing books might be worth reading?**

Favorite Movies:
Anything by Hayao Miyazaki or Pixar, Indiana Jones & The Raiders of The Lost Jedi Temple of Doom(No, I did not make this up, go google it or come over and watch it. Was awesome~), The Fifth Element, Guyver, The Lord Of The Rings, Rush Hour Trilogy, Bad Boyz I & II, Vampire Hunter D, The Fast & The Furious Collection, The Dark Knight, Wanted, The Pirates Of The Caribbean Saga, Spaceballs, Accepted, Last Samurai, Mr. & Mrs. Smith, Pitch Black, The Chronicles Of Riddick, XXX, Princess Mononoke, America Pie Series, Constantine, Equilibrium, 50 First Dates, Kick Ass & The Covenant to name "a few". Believe me, there's a lot more.

Favorite TV Shows:
In short, give me anime, sci-fi, crime/mystery, cooking, comedy, nature or supernatural/paranormal and I'm usually content, though there are other things I like as well. To name a few: NCIS (Gibbs & Abby ftw!), American Dad, Family Guy, Dead Like Me, Eureka, Sanctuary, The Secret Circle, The Walking Dead, Law & Order SVU, Ghost Hunters, Falling Skies, Futurama, Defiance, Naruto, Burn Notice, Full Metal Alchemist, Avatar: The Last Airbender, The Legend of Korra, Dexter, Doctor Who, Dark Angel, Firefly(It's STILL too soon!), Bones & Castle among others.

Favorite Music:
Music - yes please! Lately I've especially been into a lot of Blues, Techno/Trance, Swiss/Celtic Folk Metal & instrumentals from various sources but any type has the potential to move me. ANYTHING by the London Philharmonic Orchestra is an instant win with me. I don't just have one defined type I like.

Favorite Games:
Final Fantasy Series, Dragon Age Series, Breath of Fire 3 & 4, The Tales Series, Mass Effect Series, The Legend Of Zelda, Kingdom Hearts Series, Skyrim, Diablo 3 (RPGs as a whole really), Agricola, Scrabble, Bang!, Cards Against Humanity and Apples To Apples among others.

Favorite Foods:
Japanese, Italian, Hispanic, Thai, Soup Dumplings(must learn to make these...), Chinese and Indian; they are all delicious. I'll try most types of foods once and then again to see if I like it. Then buy the ingredients to experiment on ways to make it even better and more addicting to those who try it after I'm through.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
In no particular order, I couldn't do without:

1. Nature - Especially Rain & Thunderstorms. (You would think having been attacked by a Black Bear in the middle of the night on a camping trip would make me change my thoughts here, but nope. Love the bear too!)
2. My friends & and those I call my true family be they blood related or not(I know they aren't 'things' but shush). Especially my five god children. :)
3. Stories/Books by my favorite authors
4. My heart (Literally/Metaphorically)
5. Music
6. And magic in its many forms.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
Definitely not the full list, but here's a few that's on my mind right now.
On The Surface:
• Nature
Zombie Apocalypse related debates with friends
• New recipes I'd like to re-create/invent when I'm cooking.
• When my favorite authors are going to release their new novels (I go through good books VERY quickly!)
• Empathy and other forms of extrasensory perception/communication
• Sex-positivity, consent/respect culture and the need for more education in these areas.
• Planning next trip to visit my four god children and other friends/places I’d like to see worldwide.
• The many guises under which racism exist today to the point where it's been semi-socially acceptable until recently. Being of a mixed background, you definitely see your fair share over the years. Doubly so having worked retail. -_-;
• Being the devils advocate as I think of random debates/topics that almost know one seems to want to address but have significance. I might occasionally piss someone off, but then they stop and think why are they really pissed off. And it's in that moment where true understanding and potential for change can occur(I put myself through the same thing).
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
My Friday nights usually include spending some time at Blues Dance NYC FNB (Friday Night Blues) towards the later hours. Went there for the first time back in 2012 and was completely swept up by the atmosphere and music. Dancing late evening into the wee hours of the morning with amazing people sounds like a great way to spend the night to me.

That aside, there isn't a set pattern to what I do. Sometimes I'm out with friends, sometimes walking in the park with my mind worlds away. I could be going for a weekend roadtrip or I might be in my public home away from home with friends - Union Square. Having a board game night at a friends place, hosting some event at my place or even just be at home with a good book, video game or movie with music playing on the computer and a glass of wine near by. Anything can happen and I'm always up for new suggestions. Maybe my Friday nights can start including you?
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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I already told you I survived a bear attack! What do you want from me?! Locations to my secret labora... -cough- I'm not really a private person at all with maybe a handful of exceptions. Ask any questions & I usually will tell. But for your curiosities, here's two secrets.

• Despite how social I am, I find myself preferring the company of animals to most people. I don't see a problem here; animals are awesomesauce! If you haven't taken a nap amidst a cuddle pile of animals at least once, you are missing out on a key life moment.

• Animals are magnetically attracted to me (children too), especially when they are injured. When I go camping, it isn't uncommon for me to wake up covered in my wild animal friends if I sleep outside a tent. A fact that is part of what lead up to the Black Bear (s) incident. My house is essentially an unofficial official emergency rescue shelter. Have had two patients for the year so far; both made full recoveries and have been placed in loving homes with good friends of mine. :)
You should message me if
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Umm... Because you want to...? As long as you have a sense of humor, are honest, kind & the concept of forming actual bonds aren't something that makes you want to flee in terror, I think we'll do just fine. Booty calls where the only conversations that occur literally only amount to calls happening at 1AM saying "What you up, I want some" have never been nor is of any interest to me. I'm looking for meaningful connections be it friendship or more. If any of the following apply to you, bonus points; by all means message me. These aren't the only reasons to do so though, so don't be shy! I like people who take initiative. And don't let percentages discourage/overly influence you if you think we'd get along.

• Walking Dead, Doctor Who and/or Avatar/Legend of Korra Marathons. Enough said! Firefly definitely works too~

• You have pets I can play with. I promise to pay attention to you as well! But, fyi, animals tend to adopt me so you might have to wrestle them off.

• You are someone who is open-minded, respectful and accepting of people for all of their unique identities. Have close friends of many different orientations and mentalities; if you can't respect that then it won't work out in any regard.

• You want to go out for a drink/coffee/food/random hike and get to know one another face to face at some point as oppose to fifty emails (assuming we are both in the same relative area). Best way to get to know someone tends to be in person. Bonus if you'd like to do so while sharing/inventing recipes amidst a kitchen of delightful chaos.

• You want to get to know me so you can get me to feed you and/or bum professional grade massages free. If so, just fess up. I'm not necessarily opposed, just be upfront about it. :-P

• Traveling/road/camping trips are up your alley and you'd be interested in tagging along. I have an ever growing list of places I'd like to visit aside from my normal camping trips with friends and getaways using my timeshare. Maybe I should start throwing themed retreats... Would happily welcome another traveling companion(s); the more the merrier!

Disclaimer: Despite what the "I'm Looking For" says, feel free to contact me no matter where you may be located or what my supposed preferences are listed as on OKC - I'm always up for meeting new people be they in another state or country(two of my current best friends I met through OKC live overseas; we hang out over the summers as we can). Gives me more potential places to travel to!