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28 M Brooklyn, NY

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Last Online
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Black, Hispanic / Latin, Other
5′ 11″ (1.80m)
Body Type
Aries, and it’s fun to think about
Graduated from masters program
Sales / Marketing
Relationship Status
Relationship Type
Doesn’t have kids, but wants them
Likes dogs and likes cats
English (Fluently), Spanish (Fluently), Japanese (Poorly), Italian (Poorly), Latin (Okay)

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My self-summary
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Welcome to my little corner of the universe, I'm Dexter(yes I'm a scientist, no I don't have a sister named Dee-Dee and no I'm not a serial killer but I do occasionally help fight crime). Brooklyn-Born hybrid that's inquisitive, adventurous, open minded, unconventional & kindhearted. Basically just another 'old soul' in the body of a young adult with the heart of a child; taking each day as it comes and looking to make the most out of life & it's experiences.

I'm very easy to get along with as long as you are genuine, intelligent, adventurous, ambitious, at least a little bit silly/mischievous and like to have fun. Am I asking too much? Hopefully not!
What I’m doing with my life
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Doing my best to live life to the fullest and having a ball while doing it! Keeping busy volunteering at different events around the city, occasionally modeling for steampunk photo shoots, going dancing towards the weekends, planning game/movie/cooking nights with friends, random road trips with friends, planning what state/country I should visit next from my ever growing list and exploring; for starters. Care to come along?

Career wise, still working on getting a paid post in my passion that is Marine Biology/Environmental Science. Graduated with a Bachelors in Marine Environmental Science, attained my first masters in a specialized business degree with future plans in getting a second Masters/possibly PhD in Marine Biology. Currently working as an Assistant Manager at a company within JFK; helps pay the bills but looking to move on to bigger and better. (Also considering double majoring in Psychotherapy. I already have the knowledge, experience from helping a psychotherapist within the family for almost a decade, passion for helping others and other qualifications except for having the official degree.)
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Helping heal animals from their injuries/sicknesses (One of my most cherished abilities), making people laugh, listening, being woken up regularly at 2AMish by friends to get advice on things and still being perfectly social/not killing them for the sleep deprivation, karaoke, Scrabble/WordsByPost, Cards Against Humanity, writing stories/poetry, cooking addicting food/inventing new recipes, GGG, giving hugs, cuddles and awesome massages.

Some Interest include:
Swimming, scuba diving, meditation, fencing, psychology, traveling, photography, cosplay, Anime, paranormal/metaphysics, Celtic lore and Iaido.
The first things people usually notice about me
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Depends on where/when they see or hear me. Usually goes between:

• My smile and dimples.
• My eyes when they change color from time to time.
• Am told I exude a sense of balance & calmness; at least half of the time paired with the comment that I must be an old soul.
• Occasionally one of my accents if it is drawn out as I have several.
•If at Barnes & Nobles: "What the... is that guy really about to buy all those books!?" No, there's more than likely a second pile nearby that you aren't seeing at that moment.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Help your potential matches find common interests.
This list is truncated... But it's still a long list. =P There are many more to each category. Occasionally I try to shorten it but end up making it longer 3/4's of the time.

Favorite Books/Authors:
• Among others authors, all the books released by Sergei Lukyanenko, Tamora Pierce, K.A. Applegate, Keri Arthur, G.P. Taylor, Amelia Atwater-Rhodes, Faith Hunter, J.R. Rowling, Stephanie Meyer, P.C. Cast & Kristin Cast and Neal Shusterman
• "The Sight" & "Fell" by David Clement-Davies
• "The Ultimate Hitchhikers Guide To The Galaxy" by Douglass Adams
• "The Hunger Games" Trilogy by Suzzane Collins
• The "Divergent" Trilogy byVeronica Roth
• The "Independent Study" Trilogy byJoelle Charboneau
• "The Giver" & "Fahrenheit 451"
• "The War of Art" by Steven Pressfield

**Anyone have any recommendations as to what other amazing books might be worth reading?**

Favorite Movies:
Anything by Hayao Miyazaki or Pixar, Indiana Jones & The Raiders of The Lost Jedi Temple of Doom(No, I did not make this up, go google it or come over and watch it. Was awesome~), The Fifth Element, Guyver, The Lord Of The Rings, Rush Hour Trilogy, Bad Boyz I & II, Vampire Hunter D, The Fast & The Furious Collection, The Dark Knight, Wanted, The Pirates Of The Caribbean Saga, Spaceballs, Accepted, Last Samurai, Mr. & Mrs. Smith, Pitch Black, The Chronicles Of Riddick, XXX, Princess Mononoke, America Pie Series, Constantine, Equilibrium, 50 First Dates, Kick Ass & The Covenant to name "a few".

Favorite TV Shows:
In short, give me anime, sci-fi, crime/mystery, cooking, comedy, nature or supernatural/paranormal and I'm usually content, though there are other things I like as well. To name a few: NCIS (Gibbs & Abby ftw!), American Dad, Family Guy, Dead Like Me, Eureka, Sanctuary, The Secret Circle, The Walking Dead, Law & Order SVU, Ghost Hunters, Falling Skies, Futurama, Defiance, Naruto, Burn Notice, Full Metal Alchemist, Avatar: The Last Airbender, The Legend of Korra, Dexter, Doctor Who, Dark Angel, Firefly(It's STILL too soon!), Royal Pains, Bones & Castle among many others.

Favorite Music:
MANY. Lately I've especially been into a lot of Blues, Techno/Trance, Swiss/Celtic Folk Metal & instrumentals from various sources but any has the potential to move me. ANYTHING by the London Philharmonic Orchestra is an instant win with me. I don't just have one defined type I like.

** Random 13 From Playlist:**
Thrice - The Melting Point of Wax
Joe Bonamassa - Dust Bowl (Live Concert Version)
Utada Hikaru - Exodus '04 (Double J Radio Mix)
Eluveitie - Omnos
OceanLab - Sirens Of The Sea
DJ Encore - I See Right Through To You
Anthony David - Cold Turkey
Mack Wilds - Own It
Naughty Boy feat. Sam Smith - La La La (Running Trax 2014 Edit)
Lindsey Stirling - Beyond The Veil
Dash Berlin Ft. Cert & Mitiska & Jaren - Man On The Run
The Duhks - Death Came a Knockin'
Idina Menzel - Let It Go (From "Frozen" - Armin Van Buuren Remix) (Cover)

Favorite Foods:
Japanese, Italian, Hispanic, Thai, Soup Dumplings, Chinese and Indian; among other things. I'll try most types of foods once and then again to see if I like it. Then buy the ingredients to experiment on ways to make it even better and more addicting to those who try it after I'm through.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
In no particular order, I couldn't do without:

1. Nature - Especially Rain & Thunderstorms. (You would think having been attacked by a Black Bear in the middle of the night on a camping trip would make me change my thoughts here, but nope. Love the bear too!)
2. My friends & and those I call my true family be they blood related or not(I know they aren't 'things' but shush). Especially my five god children. :)
3. Stories/Books by my favorite authors
4. My heart (Tried to do without it once, didn't go to well!)
5. Music
6. And magic in its many forms.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
On The Surface:
Nature, friends, family, my writing, what books I need to pickup at Barnes & Nobles ASAP, places I'd like to travel to next, new cooking recipes, kink related topics, Zombie Apocalypse related debates with friends, The Way Station, miracles that have happened in my life & Steampunk events. And, I'm a living creature so I'll be real and say sex. (If you just thought something along the lines of "You're a guy, even if you were dead you'd still be thinking about sex" A. Shhh and B. You and I would probably getting along REALLY well; that's my favorite sense of humor.

Below The Surface:
• How to help people through their addictions
• Empathy and other forms of extrasensory perception/communication
• Recipe variants/new creations for my friends and family or are either vegetarian, vegan, diabetic or have special dietary needs.
• The past/present/future, and all realms in between.
• Planning next trip to visit my four god children and other friends/places I’d like to see worldwide.
• When my favorite authors are going to release their new novels. I go through good books VERY quickly!
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
My Friday nights usually include spending some time at Blues Dance NYC FNB (Friday Night Blues), as work allows, towards the later hours. Went there for the first time back in 2012 and was completely swept up by the atmosphere and music. Dancing late evening into the wee hours of the morning sounds like a great way to spend the night to me (Hey! I'm Hispanic, I'm allowed to like dancing!).

That aside, there isn't a set pattern to what I do aside from trying to go to the gym earlier in the day. Sometimes I'm out with friends, sometimes walking in the park with my mind worlds away. Could be going for a weekend roadtrip or I might be in my public home away from home with friends - Union Square. Having a board game night at a friends place, hosting some event at my place or even just be at home with a good book, game or movie with music playing on the computer and a glass of wine near by. Anything can happen and I'm always up for new suggestions. Maybe my Friday nights can start including you?
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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I already told you I survived a bear attack! What do you want from me?! Locations to my secret labora... -cough- ...I am not really a private person at all with maybe a handful of exceptions. Ask any questions & I usually will tell. But here, I'll toss you another 'secret' or three:

• After spending sufficient time with my godchildren and keeping late night vigils over the two youngest when they were sick, the lyrics to the chorus of Chris Browns 'Wall to Wall' got affectionately forever substituted to:
"Alex & Jordan having a brawl and
I don't hear nothing but babies calling
Ty Ty & Aey keep throwing that ball
And they keep screaming from wall to wall"
...when it comes on. Their mother cracks up at this and does the same now.

• One of my best friends whom had read some erotica pieces I had written several years ago recently read 50 Shades Of Grey. She confessed that when it came to the intimate scenes, all she could think was "Damn... Dex writes MUCH better than this..." On some level, I bemusedly wondered if that was more a compliment to my writing or a crack on the quality of the book :P, but it really was a touching compliment and made my day.

• Despite how social I am, I find myself preferring the company of animals to most people. I don't see a problem here; animals are awesomesauce!

• My friends mutually agree that my fingers should be registered as lethal weapons of mass destruction when it comes to my massages. People get so thoroughly relaxed from them that they'd probably be up for just about any suggestion in the afterglow, especially after a full-body massage. I couldn't help but grin when I was told this in consensus.
I’m looking for
  • Girls who like guys
  • Ages 18–43
  • Near me
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating
You should message me if
Offer a few tips to help matches win you over.
Because you want to...? As long as you have a sense of humor, are honest, kind & the concept of forming actual bonds aren't something that makes you want to flee in terror. If any of the following apply to you, by all means please do message me. These aren't the only reasons to do so though, so don't be shy! I like people who take initiative. And don't let percentages discourage/overly influence you if you think we'd get along.

• You have pets I can play with. I promise to pay attention to you as well! But, fyi, animals tend to adopt me so you might have to wrestle them off.

• You are the type of person who wouldn't be opposed to laying on the grass in the middle of a thunderstorm in companionable silence or chatting about any number of topics.

• You are someone who is open-minded, respectful and accepting of people for all of their unique identities.

• You want to go out for a drink/coffee/food/random hike and get to know one another face to face at some point as oppose to fifty emails (assuming we are both in the same relative area). Best way to get to know someone tends to be in person. Bonus if you'd like to do so while sharing/inventing recipes amidst a kitchen of delightful chaos.

Disclaimer: Despite what the "I'm Looking For" says, feel free to contact me no matter where you may be located or what my supposed preferences are listed as on OKC - I'm always up for meeting new people be they in another state or country(two of my current best friends I met through OKC live overseas; we hang out over the summers as we can). Gives me more potential places to travel to! =)