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32 Rutherford, NJ Man


I’m looking for

  • Women
  • Ages 22–44
  • Near me
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating

My details

Last online
Apr 9
6′ 1″ (1.85m)
Body type
Mostly anything
Atheism, and laughing about it
Virgo, but it doesn’t matter
Graduated from university
Doesn’t have kids, and doesn’t want any
Likes dogs and likes cats
English (Fluently)

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My self-summary
Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
Chill, easy-going, drama-free, sense of humor. A little nerdy? Sure. Cripplingly so? Lord no. If you're looking for someone with half a brain in his head that isn't an eternal virgin living in his mom's basement, let's talk.
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
I fix computers and registers for a bland mid-level department store. It pays for an independent life, so I'm not complaining.

I also just started going to the gym (12 weeks and counting as of the beginning of March) and that has been a good experience so far. I've been thin most of my life, now I'm trying to eat better and exercise more before a lifetime of consequence-free eating habits finally catches up with me.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Telling people "did you try rebooting it?"
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
Sense of humor. Somewhere between a realist and an optimist. Tall.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Help your potential matches find common interests.
Book: The Hitchhiker's Guide to the Galaxy
Movie: Lupin III: The Castle of Cagliostro
TV: Robot Chicken, but honestly there's only so much boob tube I can watch. No cable, and my Netflix account is inactive more often than not.
Music: 90's dance, classic hip-hop, Eurobeat/Eurodance/J-Euro, and six million other genres.
Food: Ramen, sushi, burritos that are way too big for their own good, Japanese-style curry, pizza, Korean BBQ, bagels, all-day breakfast, diner food, meatball subs, fried chicken (regular AND Korean!). I'm sure I'm missing a bunch. Bottom line, I'm not overly picky and I'm new food friendly.

Emeril I'm not, but sometimes I just like to experiment with cooking simple dishes. Tofu gets a bad rap because nobody will actually try to use it in interesting ways or with interesting spices.

Coffee and tea aren't "food" per se, but as an IT tech with a hectic schedule, they're a source of caffeine and my lifeblood on a bad work day, so close enough.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
- Animals. I love them, and the fact that my landlord won't let me have a cat (but is nice and responsive about everything else) is probably my biggest annoyance at the moment.

- Dining out, as if you didn't get the hint from the last section.

- Technology. (Not so much an obsession as "I wouldn't have a decent career otherwise...")

- Crisp fall days, the kind where you only just barely need a light jacket, or maybe a sweater.

- The freedom to not actually have to list six things in response to dumb questions on dating websites.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
- Systems (especially social/cultural ones) and how they work.

- How comedy clubs and mall calendar stands manage to stay open.

- Tacos.

- Why most human beings are so terrified of the concept that their brief lives mean diddly-squat in the grand scheme of the universe.

- What I'm going to do when robotics gets to the point that some guy out in a third world country will be repairing computers via some bizarro remote-control Johnny-5 like gizmo, and I'm out of a job.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Pick one:

- Out in NYC (Bars, coffee shops, museums, parks, etc...)

- Out at some diner (NJ stereotype status: true)

- Catching up on dumb movies or Netflix or something.

You know, the usual variety of ho-hum stuff that makes these lists. I'm looking for more/better excuses to go out, and people to do that with.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
Truthfully, I am no social butterfly.
You should message me if
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You're looking for someone low-key and chill, the kind of guy who's up for almost anything or absolutely nothing, depending on how energetic you're feeling on a given day.

Not being a psychotic axe murderer: A plus.

Please, keep the emotional baggage to a carry-on item at most. I'm a little sick of being mistaken for a therapist.