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39 F Petaluma, CA

I’m looking for

  • Straight guys only
  • Ages 35–50
  • Near me
  • Who are single
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating

My Details

Last Online
Yesterday – 6:18pm
5′ 7″ (1.71m)
Body Type
Mostly vegetarian
Other, and laughing about it
Taurus, and it’s fun to think about
Graduated from university
Relationship Status
Relationship Type
Doesn’t have kids
Has cats
English (Fluently), French (Okay), Spanish (Poorly)

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My self-summary
Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
Loyal, funny, sometimes strange, sweet, love with a big heart. I don't fit into categories or boxes. I'm a good kind of trouble.

I've lived all over the map, been married and divorced, happy and unhappy, adventurous and stay-at-home. Complex history; with a a challenging, amazing family, my good friends have known me since high school; I make deep connections and keep them.

Looking for someone with integrity, passion, and laugh lines, who knows how to play and explore and when to be serious; who can take things apart and put them back together better (the kitchen sink, me) and gets stuff done on-time. I don't ask for perfection; I am not perfect , but I would like to find someone who fits like peanut butter to my jelly. Who feels like home wherever we are in the world. Someone who is a little bit kinky, and a whole lot grounded, and says what they mean. I am a sucker for a great, open smile and big hands, and someone I can look up to; both literally and figuratively.

Don't *need* to be in a relationship; or have someone complete me - I'm all here; but ultimately wanting friends turning into lovers, and lovers turning into something lasting. I want to fall asleep in your arms and wake up to tell you my crazy-ass vivid dreams.
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
Stumbling through learning about my new career. Laughing about my mistakes. Remembering what free-time feels like. Working out, playing, hiking, swimming, laughing, being silly; spending time with friends and family, catching up on books I've wanted to read for the last 4.5 years of study, and generally standing on two feet.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Waking up right before the alarm clock goes off. Knowing where things are in relation to each other; great internal mapping device. Daydreaming. Telling the real from the pretend, seeing the big picture. Knowing when to call it. Owning my shit; and laughing at myself. Telling the truth (lies are too complicated) Slow sweet kisses the curl your toes.
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
Eyes, curves, brains? Smile.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Help your potential matches find common interests.
Philosophy, psychology, love science-fiction (geek); Ian M Banks, Heinlen, Asimov, Philip K Dick. Others: Sedaris, Rumi, Coehlo, Klein, Diamond, Oliver Sacks, Pollan, Annie Dillard, Vonnegut, Salinger, Chomsky and Wolff, Roach, Joseph Campbell, Gaiman...wish I read more these days...becoming computer dependent.

Movies! Documentaries, NPR, great TV series with complex characters; Breaking Bad, Mad Men, Nova, Blue Planet; Netflix junkie with no cable. TED talks. Music? Wide variety: Bjork, DCD, NIN, J. Cash, Jollie Holland, U2, Devendra Banhart, Thievery Corporation, Zero 7, Beck, Moby, Mazzy Star, Stone Roses, The Budda Bar series (some), Gorecki, Mahler, Pablo Casals (the Bach Cello suites!!) ohh...just loads.

Food! Yes, and yes! Moderate foodie; know good stuff when I taste it, Coffee a must, sushi, thai, exploration of the palette and great wines. Sour beer. Watermelon/arugula/feta salad.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
*Prefer to not do without*
Friends and family
Water (clear and clean to drink and swim in)
Touch (hugs!)
Long, deep conversations with people I love
iPhone (ugh, yes!)

lists that exceed requirements.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
How to do my job without killing anyone.
How beautiful things are when I'm walking past them (moving meditation keeps me sane)
Will I find someone to keep that makes me laugh and dries my tears?
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
What's typical?

...going to bed early? Listening to live music? Hanging out with friends, cooking, drinking good wine, walking late into the night. Watching shooting stars.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
I have a birthmark that's very warm. No really. And then there's all the rest of the stuff that's really interesting.
You should message me if
Offer a few tips to help matches win you over.
You don't take yourself too seriously. You're equally comfortable sitting around a campfire and going out for a good meal. You're as responsible as you are playful, and you have a current passport. You can spell and write in complete sentences, and laugh out loud at the ridiculous and the sublime.

Amaze and astound me with your truth, your funny and sad, your profound. Your loves and depths. If nothing else, be real, take a risk and be yourself. I will.