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31 M Mount Ephraim, NJ

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6′ 0″ (1.83m)
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A little extra
Other, and very serious about it
Sales / Marketing
Relationship Status
Open relationship
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My self-summary
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Hey everyone! I've moved back to the Philly area after an extended disappearing act, and I don't really know anyone anymore. Life is boring without friends! I like people who are rational about others and insane regarding themselves. People who would never intentionally hurt someone else, but would happily have an adventure at great personal risk. I'm also a huge fan of people who geek out about stuff - I love to hear people talk about their passions, regardless of what they are.

So I've noticed that the "percentage match" thing has some serious flaws. First off, how do I have five pages of unacceptable answers with someone it gives me a 96% match to? I've found some people in the 70-range that I thought were pretty cool, and people in the mid-90's that I'm sure I couldn't stand. Weird.

Also, there's some weird disconnects. Like, if someone thinks beards are ugly, that only compares to whether I THINK beards are cool or ugly, not whether I actually have a beard. Etc.

To be clear: I have a fiancee. She is awesome. We play well with others, so to speak. We also play independently, and date others, though we both remain each other's primary, and that isn't likely to change. So if any of that is bothersome to you, I'm still more than happy to chat in a friendly manner! And if that is a good thing in your eyes, then by all means, message away!

Also, something I've noticed: if you "identify as a Feminist" (capital F) we aren't likely to get along. If you actually ARE a feminist (lower-case F) instead of just "identifying" as one, then we'll get along great. In other words - if you think that feminism means equal rights for all and that women should be allowed to do as they please independent of the whims of anyone else, male or female, then you're awesome. If you say the word "patriarchy," though - ugh. There, that should eliminate about 80% of the people on here. :)

So, in conclusion, just everybody message everybody else and start conversations. Heck, even getting into an argument with someone is probably more fun than staring at percentages, right?
What I’m doing with my life
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Oh, this old thing?
I’m really good at
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Avoiding answering questions in a serious manner. Also, playing the harmonica!
The first things people usually notice about me
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Fantastic hair. Good posture. Catchy one-liners.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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In order: The Sirens of Titan, by Kurt Vonnegut. The Royal Tenenbaums. I don't watch TV. Song - Italian Leather Sofa, by Cake. Steak, bleeding and mooing.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
It's really hard to answer this in a way that actually says anything about you. Everyone is like "Books! Tea! Cats! Generic stuff everyone likes!" Or, sometimes, people answer in a smartass way like "Oxygen, water, proteins, simple sugars, lipids and vitamins." (That's what my answer used to be.) But that answer only tells people you're a smartass. :) So I'm going to try to actually answer this seriously and specifically.

1. A swiss-army knife. I have a really good one, and I use it about a bajillion times a day. One of my dad's lessons to me as a boy was that men always had a knife on them, and I've taken that to heart as an adult.

2. A bandana/hankerchief. This is another thing my dad taught me always to have on me. It also has a million uses - like a smaller version of a towel, Hitchhiker's Guide-style. So I've always got at least one on me.

3. Good boots. With a good pair of boots, you're unstoppable. Sneakers are for the gym only. Superheroes wear boots.

4. A city. I know that isn't really a "thing" that I can have, but what I'm saying here is, I'm an urban person. I like the concrete jungle. While I love nature and getting woodsy, and camping is a favorite past time of mine, I could just never live away from the city. I need it under my feet.

5. Games. I love mental games. Sudoku and crosswords, board games with complex rules, chess, anything. I love the mental challenge. I am always up to try a new game. It's irresistible to the point that a serial killer could pretty easily lure me to any location if he read this. My brain doesn't really ever shut off, and if I go too long without doing something mentally challenging, I get fidgety.

6. Rain. I wouldn't like to live anywhere that didn't get a lot of rain. I love the sound of it when I'm indoors, and the feel of it when I'm out. I love the way people react to it, and the way an entire city can change in a heartbeat because of it. I wouldn't like the desert.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
Politics and economics. Sex. Dinosaurs. So... like, a really smart, sexy T-Rex running for office would be AWESOME.

I also tend to think a lot about social issues, especially in terms of how I can improve them as one man. I'm an immigrant's rights activist, so I'm involved in that fairly often. I think a lot about the difference between "equality" and "factionalization" and how I can support one but avoid the other. I think about my work a lot, and I think about things I'd like to build.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Fighting The Man.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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There has literally never been a time in my life where I felt embarrassed. I'm not even sure what it would feel like. I am who I am.
I’m looking for
  • Girls who like guys
  • Ages 18–35
  • Near me
  • For new friends, short-term dating
You should message me if
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You like dates. I'm a big fan of just dates for the sake of themselves - flirting, charming, getting to know people in that context specifically. I'm not actually looking for anything - I'm happy where I am, but that doesn't mean I'm closed off to just enjoying life. So if you're just in the mood for a fun evening, start a conversation.