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I’m looking for

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  • Ages 27–43
  • Located anywhere
  • Who are single
  • For new friends, long-term dating

My details

Last online
Today – 1:50am
Relationship Type
5' 9" (1.75m)
Body Type
Not at all
Might want kids
English (Fluently), German (Somewhat)
My self-summary
Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
I was always excited before the middle school dances. There was no reason to be, except that I was an exceptional dreamer. Imagining a night full of romance and rescuing girls with my imaginary karate skills, I was quietly amped in the back seat of my parent’s car.

After turning no heads at all in my Bill Cosby sweater, I would invariably walk over to the crowds of guys and find a spot somewhere in a conversation. A safe place where we could all look over our shoulders from time to time and resent and desire whomever was popular or free from insecurity. Weirdo’s.

This period of standing awkwardly would silently break and lead to a period of sitting awkwardly. Drinking cokes and joking around, it was nice to actually forget we were at a dance for a while and have some fun.

Some of our fear forgotten, would all go onto the dance floor together, and try to dance. I found I could make people laugh with my joke dancing, and would be sweating profusely in a matter of minutes. Barely able to see, I would venture out into the crowd away from the safety of the circle. The hero’s journey was in full effect: total surrender of self consciousness and tact. And I Danced!

The night would end in a glow. Slipping around in the back seat of my parents car, I would wave goodbye to all my friends. As the car turned the corner, I would begin a new fantasy about whichever girl I talked to or promised to say hi next Monday.

So here I am. Standing awkwardly on the bluff, looking out at the city lights, wearing my Bill Cosby sweater. I want to jump in, but don’t yet know where to start. I’ve had many fantasies about what sort of life I would live here, and who I would meet. And just in case you were wondering, my fake karate skills are still in effect.
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
Edit: I just moved to Ashland after accepting a full time position as a Alcohol and Drug Counselor at an inpatient facility for teens. The stress of the transition is wearing off now, and am feeling open to making friends through this site.

Old stuff:

I was working as an on call Milieu Counselor for an addiction treatment center in Portland and started a Men's development group with my friend since arriving in 2012. The group was a bit of a dream job since we are our own bosses and get to have fun creating an atmosphere of transformation. The other was humbling and hard and continued to ask me to grow, which is something I look for in a job. I left both in Jan 2014 to go traveling, but I will always feel proud of the group work we did.

I just passed my CADC I (Certified Alcohol and Drug Counselor 1) exam and am feeling pretty energized careerwise. This was my goal for 2013. Now that I have met it, I am looking inward until I come up with my next one.

I just finished a month long photo project where I made myself go out everyday and take, edit and post photos. The triple intention is to feel my deeper creative force, contact that small voice that knows what's up more often and make a practice of seeking beauty where I don't always see it. It was cool... and if you know anything about printing photo's in a semi-professional way, I'd love some tips.

I liked to throw Storytelling parties in Boulder. I am looking to start that up again here and seeing if I can grow it into anything.

In Nov of 2012 I got back from attending a 10 day silent Vipassana retreat. It was hard work but I am still feeling the benefits.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Noticing, listening, understanding, creating funny characters, seeing things in a new light, owning my stuff, needing a haircut and wishing I were cooler.

I should put in a "I'm really bad at" section... I think that list is a little longer.
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
Business socks. (FOTC)
White teeth.
Handsome in a weird way.
I'm interested.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Help your potential matches find common interests.
Podcasts: This American Life, Radio lab, The Moth, All Songs Considered.

Books currently in rotation: Autobiography of a Yogi

Music in rotation: Patrick Watson, The National, Radiohead, James Blake. I love variety and being introduced to new music!

Misc: Reggie Ray dharma talk podcasts.

Shops I like walking through: Cargo and West Elm are pretty cool. I like modern and eclectic aesthetics and I like looking at stuff. I dream about having an awesome looking pad once again.

Movies: I like riding my bike up to the theater, catching a late movie and riding home when almost no one is on the road.

Random: I like playing Indiana Jones Pinball.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
Great conversation
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
All of those times I walked into Target wearing a red shirt.

I'm actually pretty (maybe too?) self reflective and enjoy thinking and talking about the ways we can all improve our lives and feel happier.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Often out sipping kava or at home watching a movie.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
I like New Age bookstores and think like a hippie.
I sing Purprle Rain at Karaoke.
4 on the enneagram (see hippie comment above)
I'm confused why I am not better at breakdancing or busting rhymes.
I've created a pretty whimsical profile, but my career can take to some pretty serious states of mind.
It's hard for me to imagine what it would be like to be with someone for the rest of my life and what challenges would arrise from that choice... that said I have had enough of break ups and am looking for some thing longer term.
You should message me if
Offer a few tips to help matches win you over.
You have long term aspirations.
You are not freaked out by non-drinkers. (your drinking doesn't bother me, fyi)
You are funny!
You are fit.
You look like your pictures. (I know this sounds petty, but in my limited online endeavors, this is becoming a theme)
You want to.. or you want me to.
You do not have a one foot out the door persona or continue to feel trapped when someone shows sincere interest in ya. Just sayin.