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46 Middletown, CT Man


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I’m looking for

  • Women
  • Ages 35–44
  • Near me
  • Who are single
  • For long-term dating

My details

Last online
Yesterday – 2:26am
5′ 9″ (1.75m)
Body Type
Mostly anything
Trying to quit
Taurus, and it’s fun to think about
Graduated from university
Art / Music / Writing
Doesn’t have kids, but might want them
English (Fluently), French (Poorly)
My self-summary
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Hey- A fairly simple, yet not-so simple-minded guy here - a bit of an onion, as in the further you get to know me, the more good things you'll discover. As much as I like to think I'm something of an 'open book', it might be true that I open up rather slowly from some peoples' perspectives. I dunno..

Out on the street, I see genuine smiles everywhere and bits of sadness in need of a smile, so I smile. A few things that've been mirrored back to me would be most open and honest here, so: Some can't quite figure me out, yet somehow know that what they perceive is good. Some think I'm some sort of teacher and appreciate my wide open mind while others think I'm complicated. Some find that intriguing while others just move on, sticking to their own traditions, and that's fine. Some see themselves in me and lend me their brilliantly unique and quirky books to read, while others try to make me think in a more mainstream-ey manner (fat chance). Some believe they have me pegged, but wiser ones wonder just what on earth I might be up to...

Like most people, I suspect, there exist a scant few aspects of how I think about the world and the people within it which I'd prefer to be different, so am actively working on them. That's a diplomatic way of admitting that I'm not perfect. I'm pretty good, but can always be and do betterer. That said, I do my best to dwell in and accept the present moment.

I once heard what I think is a pertinent little gem: "Getting together with someone doesn't mean you have to give anything up.. you do whatever you were going to do in life anyway, you just do it .. together". Nice, eh?
What I’m doing with my life
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Studying/contemplating the nature of the universe, writing about it, meditating, growing a little of my own food, hiking, flyfishing occasionally, finding the balance between letting the ole' mind ramble and shutting it up, and generally doing my best to be a good & kind person toward and for everyone. For work, I'm an architect; currently with a firm designing conversions of older urban buildings into mixed uses involving affordable housing. Also, music (6-string and bass guitar) and various events with friends.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
-Earning Trust. Ohh, if I had a nickel for every time someone has said "I can't believe I'm telling you this, but...", I'd feed the planet.
-listening / understanding
-Being Genuine
-Cooking delicious chicken wings
-Negotiating crowds
-Figuring stuff out
The first things people usually notice about me
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'He looks "normal", but there's something kinda special/different about him'. Then, there's 'nice guy' (True, but it's best to not let that translate into 'pushover'). Usually, people just smile back.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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I mostly read super-geeky universal non-fiction science and philosophy stuff: Various wisdom traditions, metaphysics, modern physics like relativity, quantum mechanics, string theory, dark matter/energy, etc.- you know, light reading. Online articles and especially vids get most of my viewing time. The complexities of our reptilian brain stems with their paleomammilian 'circuitry' and resultant behaviors also fascinate me, as does how the whole brain works. Neuroplasticity and epigenetics are so cool.

Movies: I mostly dig Zeitgeist and similar documentaries. The following had my interest for awhile: The Matrix, Waking Life, Idiocracy, War, Inc., Star Wars and Willow. Truth: A guy thing: When The Hunt For Red October is on, I have to drop what I'm doing and watch it until the last line, every time looking forward to where Alec Baldwin imitates Sean Connery, saying "Most things in here don't react too well to bullets". Similar reaction to Undercover Brother. Random indie foreign flics can be pretty cool too, especially if in French, in which I would like to finally become fluent.

Music: Genres of Folk (Trad. American, Celtic, '60's, contemporary), bluesy groove, funk, some rock still ...anything with depth, really. Not into rap, but it seems like modern-day folk music to me. Trad. Country like Johnny Cash and Bluegrass are fun to play, and I really like how Cash and Dylan collaborated on each others' tunes.

Food: Omnivorous, but now regard vegetables as the main course with starch & meat being sides. In addition to the kick-ass wings I cook (and scarf when I do!), I like non-fancy dishes with lots of leafy greens, Thai, Indian... Slowly getting more organic and natural with what I ingest.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
"Knowing that the universe is unfolding exactly as it should" used to be all I had written here, but I've discovered that "spiritual" acceptance of what is doesn't accomplish much, so in addition to that:
-work to do (sense of purpose)
-my pineal gland really does need sunshine
-time in nature
-time with people
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
How does the universe really work? Oh, and there's almost always some tune in my head.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Usually yoga early, then either at a folk-music gathering, other event or resting up for an active weekend.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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is that there might be private things which I'm not willing to admit here.
You should message me if
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Above, in 'I'm looking for', I would have preferred to click on 'Women who like Men' instead of 'Girls who like Guys'. Distinct difference- do message me if you usually think of yourself as a 'woman', rather than a 'girl', even if 'girl' or gurl' or 'girrrrl' is part of your profile name here. Also if:
..a good deal of I wrote resonates with you're a genuine person who does your best to live in peaceful accord with your own inner senses. can be intelligently light and subtle around the deepest of conversational topics.
..any agenda you might have for your life has room for me, meaning ME, not some ideal you have already conceived. are not in desperate NEED of a partner; instead, desirous of a good man.'ve somehow already discovered that I'm cuddly, and that appeals.