I spend most of my time these days with engineers, artists, and burning-man types. I'm solidly more square/wholesome than your average burner, but I still find them more interesting than most people. It's likely that my being more square/wholesome than most of the people I know is why I am still single and looking to OKC for a solution.
I am definitely a part of the poets and part of the geeks. I involve myself in theater, arts and technology. I am often wistful and full of ennui, but also often full of inappropriate humor and absurdity.
I'm in a place where I ideally want to fall in love forever, but I know that takes time and a lot of "passes" on either side.
I recently realized that I basically wear my heart on my sleeve in a lot of ways, and want someone who does the same. Happy go lucky types who keep everything inside and don't know how to express their feelings need not apply. I want someone who can tell me (with words) when I'm not giving them what they need, and lets me (verbally or not) know when I am getting it right, and who can take it when I tell them what I need, either way, too. People really need to be told what someone who isn't them needs to feel loved and cared about. You can't expect someone to always get it right, without some direction.
I sometimes open up fast socially, but I don't really believe in instant "sparks" as a good indicator of a sound romantic future. It takes TIME to feel romantically cozy. Persistence has paid off in the past, so it would seem I respond well the pressureless time to get to know someone.
I'm looking for a geeky*~ guy with a high emotional IQ (can easily and openly communicate their thoughts and feelings,understands how and when to dole out sympathy, and appreciates sympathy himself), who wants to engage in some projects and pursuits with me sometimes, who likes to give an receive a good amount of attention. Also one who enjoys all the fun things between kissing and sex.
The community I find myself in seems to be largely into open or polyamorous relationships. I'm pretty much monogamous, and it's been hard to find. I'm looking for someone who wants to focus on me, as much as I am focused on them, and ultimately who wants to create a life together. So if you're not looking for anything serious, I'm not the girl for you.
Right now I'm really enjoying the sound of rain that just picked up outside, and also I really like to bike in the rain when it's warm enough out. :-)
Mostly I want someone I feel inspired by, who feels inspired by me. Someone who is better because of things in me, and who has things in them that better me as well.
*~ smart, creative, into science, math, technology, making, maybe stuff like board games and probably into some media geeks tend to enjoy too, but I'm not a (video) gamer, and don't particularly want one. Playing video games SOMETIMES is ok though, and I could be up for joining in on some of that.