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38 Southampton, UK Man


I’m looking for

  • Women
  • Ages 18–40
  • Near me
  • Who are single
  • For new friends, short-term dating, casual sex

My details

Last online
Apr 13
5′ 7″ (1.70m)
Body type
Other, and laughing about it
Sagittarius, but it doesn’t matter
Dropped out of space camp
Likes dogs and likes cats
English, Japanese (Poorly), French (Poorly)

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My self-summary
Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
I'm really wondering what it is about my profile that prompts so many straight men to visit my profile. I'm pretty sure I've not stated I'm female (double checks) and I don't think my profile pic looks THAT effeminate (for me at least). Can anyone enlighten me?

I am cynical, naive, and easily confused
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
I really don't know.
I'd grade myself as being smarter than the average bear, but somehow lacking almost any ambition or goals. Not a good thing to admit, but probably necessary.
I've kind of bounced from job to occasional job, thoroughly enjoying myself, but somehow avoiding complications such as career, relationships, or responsibility of almost any kind (I did have a cat, who very unfortunately died a couple of years ago).
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
I've gotten quite good with computers, and arty things. I draw pretty well, have been told I write well, though I'm not sure I'd ever have the confidence to sit down and write anything like a novel (What if everyone thought it was trash?!). Uhm, I have a fairly mechanical mind and can take apart, if not always reassemble, things ranging from plugs to engines and gearboxes. However I'd be hesitant to describe myself as 'really' good at anything.
The first things people usually notice about me
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I'm not sure, you'd need to ask them.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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Uhm, does everyone else write these lists then feel terribly pretentious and start again?
I think I've just managed to psych myself out, I'll just list things I liked recently.
Films: Tropic Thunder, No country for old men, Arahan, District 13, The Hurt Locker.
Music: 2 many DJs, Soulwax, The Alabama three, Creedence Clearwater Revival.
Books: I've not read much new recently, having been living in a country where I am a virtual illiterate, but I can recommend Learning Maya 8.0, very good if you need to know more about Non-Uniform Rational B-Splines.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
Cigarettes, caffeine, cigarettes, caffeine, cigarettes, caffeine.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
"WTF was I thinking about earlier?"
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
I once broke my willy, long story, painful experience, more amusing these days. Suffice to say that I am no longer as interested in experimenting in anal sex with any partners.
You should message me if
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You can tell me why so many straight men visit my profile.