If you don't expect too much from me, you might not be let down. I tend to think in terms of movie quotes and song lyrics. I often quote either depending on the situation. All it takes is for someone to say the right word, and it can trigger such a response. The first line of this paragraph comes from a song. (Bonus points if you can tell me artist and title.)
I'm not even sure why I'm here. I don't translate well in print, I don't photograph well, and most women don't "get" me.
I am fiercely independent and self-reliant, and I have been since a very young age. Once, when I was three, I wanted scrambled eggs. My mom was sick, and my dad didn't know how to cook. I just did what I'd seen my mom do on many occasions as my dad watched me stand on a chair in front of the stove. I've been taking care of myself since a very young age.
I have a sense of humor that doesn't translate well in this medium. If you don't like Monty Python, Airplane!, facetiousness and sarcasm, you likely won't appreciate my sense of humor. I also have a great sense of the absurd. Were it not for my sense of humor, I likely would not have survived this long.
I'm generally not out to impress anyone. I'm myself, more or less, in every situation. I'm not rude or in your face, but I also don't put on airs. If you try to impress me, you'll fail miserably. I'm impressed by things that are hard to fake like kindness, politeness, intelligence and good spelling and grammar. If you think you can somehow trade on your looks with me, you'll fail. Looks fade with time. I'm attracted to the things that will still be there when your looks have faded.
I tend to observe a lot and not ask many questions. People can lie or at least tell you what they think you want to hear, but their actions speak volumes. I generally learn either by watching others or by experimentation and trying to do something until I figure it out. I believe everything should be intuitive and not require instructions.
I'm a little reluctant to get involved with women who have children because, having never been a child myself, I'm not really sure how to relate to children. Also, if the children don't like me, it can make the relationship a disaster, and, conversely, if I bond with the children, but the relationship fails, now there's the added pain of losing the children, too. I'm having enough trouble losing my ex's cat, and the cat often hissed at me and took swipes at me and doesn't allow anyone to pet her, including me, but I did appreciate the ornery critter and found her fascinating to observe. I know it will be worse with children.
Most people seem to be intimidated by the intelligence they perceive me as having because I appear to know a lot. In reality, I know a little bit about a lot of things and can usually find something I can converse about with almost anyone, and I'll generally talk to just about anyone who wants to talk to me. While I am intelligent, I think I'm also easy to talk to, and I accept people as they are. My friends come from all walks of life and various socio-economic backgrounds. Also, most of my friends tend to be women so if that is a problem for you, please move on.
I am not your typical guy. I almost never watch sports, couldn't care less about the big game, and can't even discuss the topic because I don't read about it. That said, I'm a life-long Cubs fan and would like to see them make it to the world series in my lifetime. I don't even care if they win.
To me, the most important thing I can do is spend time with those who matter. Life is composed of nothing but time. Time is the currency of life. Whether I am on the phone with someone, IMing, texting or just spending time visiting in person, that takes precedence over anything else I might do. But then, my primary love language is quality time with my partner followed by physical touch, though I don't need that much physical contact to be fulfilled.
I tend to treat everyone equally, and I am very fair. This has caused issues for me in the past when co-workers believed their computer problems took precedence over those of people at remote sites simply because they are located down the hall from me as opposed to being hundreds of miles away.
I'm generally a nice guy. I open doors for others. I'm polite to restaurant and retail staff. I try to treat others as I would like to be treated. I don't care how a person makes a living, as long as it is legal. What matters is that people like what they do for a living.
If I didn't make my living in IT, I'd probably be working in radio; after all, I have the face for it. Music is probably the closest thing I have to a passion.
I live and work in a world where the absence of criticism is considered praise. If you need someone who is going to constantly tell you how attractive you are or shower you with compliments because you did what you were expected to do, I'm probably not the guy for you. I do recognize when a person goes the extra mile which is usually more recognition than I get no matter how much I accomplish. In fact, I will never understand how it is I can break my back doing something amazing at work, and nobody seems to notice or care, but do something mundane and insignificant, and I get compliments. I can only assume I get compliments for the things they understand and no recognition for the things they don't understand. It mystifies me.