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38 M Somerville, MA

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5′ 9″ (1.75m)
Body Type
A little extra
Mostly anything
Agnosticism, but not too serious about it
Capricorn, but it doesn’t matter
Graduated from university
Rather not say
Relationship Status
Relationship Type
Strictly monogamous
Doesn’t have kids
Likes dogs and likes cats
English (Fluently), LISP (Poorly), C++ (Poorly), Latin (Poorly)

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My self-summary
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I'm a good-natured geeky guy. I like good books, bad books, coffee, goth music, folk music, RPGs, computers, dead languages, good beer and cool weather. I'm part gamer, part goth, part folkie and part bibliophile. I can spend a pleasant few minutes explaining exactly what a balrog is or how Old English differs from Shakespeare's language, but I usually have the sense not to do so unless specifically asked; I can accept that many people don't share my obsessions, and I can shut up about the ones people aren't interested in.

I enjoy conversation and language. In conversation, I find the ideas more important than the expression; in written works the elegance or depth of the language complements the idea. I'm not a grammar snob, but I do appreciate memorable and thoughtful phrasing. I'm not often satisfied with my own efforts here, though, and of course there's a difference between serious writing and the everyday.

And I also enjoy sitting back with a good beer and watching Adult Swim, playing the latest absurd computer game, or hitting the clubs. I don't dance very well but it's fun to have an excuse to dress up, listen to loud music and drink with my friends.

One of my former coworkers once accurately identified me as the kind of person who might own a cloak. I don't actually own a cloak, but I'm willing to admit to being the kind of person who might.

I live just outside Davis Square. Homeownership is not without its hassles, especially in an elderly triple-decker, but it probably beats paying rent. I'm pleased that I'm still close enough to the subway to keep my car off the road most of the time; even aside from environmental considerations, riding the red line is usually more pleasant than driving across the BU bridge.
What I’m doing with my life
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I work as a programmer. This means I tend to move from job to job every few years, and that the actual business focus of my employers has a lot less to do with my choices than their technology. Currently, I work for the Joslin Diabetes Clinic. It's nice to be able to simultaneously support myself and indirectly work to improve the world while I do so. Even so, life outside of work matters a lot more to me than the job does.

I've recent gotten involved with my local community theater group. My enthusiasm outstrips my acting talent, but it's still fun. I like walking or biking around the city when the weather's nice. I read more or less constantly.

Sometimes I take evening classes at Harvard to keep my brain from atrophying, and to help remind myself to read new books outside the usual SF/fantasy literary ghetto. Most recently I took one on Law and Ethics. Before that, it was "The Madness of Crowds", which was disappointing but led to a number of entertainingly nutty rants against environmentalism from the professor. Which wasn't really a good thing on the whole, but provided some contrast to the straight-up warhawk neocon madness. Back in what's increasingly a long time ago, I studied Oscar Wilde and Icelandic sagas - consecutively, not in the same class.
I’m really good at
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Coming up with obscure trivia. Listening. Remembering things I read once two years previously. Mental arithmetic.
The first things people usually notice about me
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Shouldn't this question be saved for the testimonials or something? My best guess is the widow's peak and weird tee shirts. When people want to flatter me, they usually tell me I have nice eyes.

The TSA thinks I look like a terrorist. I've been stopped in airports because of this.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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I have far too many books to easily pick favorites, but some authors I keep coming back to are Terry Pratchett, Tim Powers, Patricia McKillip, Diana Wynne Jones, Gene Wolfe, Michael Chabon, R. A. MacAvoy and Barbara Hambly. Neal Stephensen's books are a lot of fun and occasionally approach seriousness. Neil Gaiman writes excellent comic books, but I don't think his novels are up to the same standard. Last Chance to See was Douglas Adams' best book.

Shakespeare, John Donne and T. S. Eliot are some of my favorite famous dead white men. Nabokov is my latest addition to that list. I've read a fair number of the recent popular interest books on economics (Freakonomics and so on) but I'm not sure I'd really call those favorites.

I'm less of a packrat about movies. Some of my favorites are Donnie Darko, Grosse Point Blank, Boondock Saints (although I suspect I want it to be more tongue-in-cheek than the director did), and the first two Aliens movies. Or at least those are some of the ones I own.

The Dark Knight was an excellent comic book movie. The Illusionist was well worth a rental, as were Sweeney Todd, Brick and Sideways. I liked Dr. Horrible's Sing-Along Blog as well as the next geek, but I thought the ending was too much of the usual Joss Whedon schtick.

I've never seen a Humphrey Bogart movie without at least some redeeming value.

My music's varied. A lot of it's mainstream within its genre, but I like many superficially incompatible genres. In other words, I might wear a Ministry tee shirt to a Dar Williams concert.

I have a lot of Leonard Cohen, Love and Rockets, Bob Dylan, Bauhaus, Sisters of Mercy, Suzanne Vega, Siouxsie and the Banshees, the Pixies and the Pogues. In the indie category, the big names are Neutral Milk Hotel, the Decemberists, the Mountain Goats, the National and the New Pornographers. Florence+The Machine is a recent discovery.

I have a weakness for singer/songwriters, especially women with guitars; Erin McKeown is my favorite local example. Aimee Mann's up there too. Back when they still toured, I saw the Dresden Dolls live more times than I can easily count, but I haven't gotten much into Amanda Palmer's solo career.

My favorite foods usually involve garlic, capers, olives or some combination of the three. I prefer red wine to white.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Most of the time I'm at home unwinding after the work week - watching Dr. Who or Futurama if they're in season. Exciting, isn't it? Saturday nights are usually more lively.

I used to go out to Man Ray sometimes, but since it closed I haven't found a Friday night event close enough to my tastes to make a habit out of. Ex Mortis at T. T. the Bear's is worth it sometimes.
You should message me if
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You'd like a friendly argument, company for a movie or play, or a new victim for a video game. Or if you like both Suzanne Vega and Bauhaus. Or just think I sound worth talking to.