My name is Khulani(I'll make you say it once on your own before i correct you). I'm a massage therapist in training (gotta love my love language) however I need to find a job so I can get the money to finish. I always try to be true to myself. If you'll lie to yourself about who you are, can anyone else really trust you?

I prefer to see who people really are instead of basing my decisions on physical appearances. I believe I'm a pretty good guy. I have children, and I plan on having at least one more before I die..........later though.....much later. I'm one of the people my friends (and sometimes my enemies) come to when they need to talk, need someone to listen, or just need someone to be there. I try to listen with my heart, without judgement, and with the wish to understand and heal if i can.

I like working with computers; I'm decent. I plan on gong to school for something computer related after I'm done with massage training. Music is no longer the only thing in my life, but it is still a big part of my life. The drum restarted my heartbeat when I was ready for it to stop.

I'm fiercely loyal to those that have my trust and just as harsh with those that break it again and again. A little part of the space you hold within in it will die each time you do. My love never really dies, just transforms. So once I've said it it stands for life. You don't have to believe it but, you'll see it.

Right now, what I need is companionship. I'd prefer that to be in the form of friendship right now. Now to get this out of the way. I love sex, but that's not all that I'm about. I need more than that. I can't enjoy meaningless sex. My casual sex has meaning at it's worst. I form a connection before, during, and after. I'm looking for people that I can share with. Someone that I: can have deep conversations, intelligent debates, play games(if you play), cuddle and watch movies , laugh, cry, be silent, be random, share, and grow with. This person can still be a friend to me. That's a basic rundown of what I'm looking for right now.

This is all over the place because my mind is like that during the day. I'm a night owl, that's when I'm the most aware and focused. I do my best to say what I mean and mean what I say. Practice what I preach, and preach what I practice. I can take most things as long as you're completely honest with me. I'm always down with meeting and talking to new people despite my shyness. Feel free to say hi and start a conversation. i don't bite too hard so you'll live. I'm sure.

Living a day at a time while also thinking years into the future............Enjoying finally being back on my own and working on getting back into school. There's some short-term for you. I was going to school for Massage Therapy.

Listening, cuddling, hugging, sex, being myself(well kind of), not sleeping when I should, reading, understanding,learning, and getting people to smile from their hearts.

It varies, feel free to tell me when you make your mind up.

I love books that can take me across the universe and back within my own soul. Right now I'm reading a lot of fantasy.......I'm normally reading about 5 different books(at least) at any given time. I read whatever I find and I meditate while I read to connect.............soooo if I'm reading and you're talking and I'm acting like you don't exist, it's probably because I'm not there right then. Tap me and I should come back.

Music is in everything....can't you hear it? The journey it takes me on is what I look forward too. If it can't do that then odds are I wont listen to it. I give almost everything a try once though. Right now I'm listening to a lot of hip-hop/rap. My favorite artist with that genre has to Lupe Fiasco hands down.

I watch show's that have action or drama for the most part.So you'll catch me watching Drop Dead Diva one day, Spartacus the next day, and Leverage after that. Oh and...Once upon a time is awesome. I'm mainly watching anime right now though. I refuse to watch dubbed anime if I can help it. I'd rather go searching for some obscure site somewhere that has subbed episodes up then watch dubbed anime.

I kind of like to cook. It's fun to get in the kitchen and experiment......it's even better to watch the smiles on the faces of the people that cook with me or eat my food. I try most things within reason...........to me. I don't do seafood though. not at all.

If I'm not doing something that has to do with something listed above and I'm not actively spending time with my children............I'm either playing a video game until I get bored or can't keep my eyes open...........or I'm out biking around for some place to sit and "be" in nature.

1. music-the drum gave me my heartbeat back.
2. my children- wasn't ready at all, but I love them with all that i am.
3. people to enjoy life with-Life would be boring completely by myself.
4. Books-Me without books............not happy. I almost always have a book on me.
5. Physical contact (mainly hugs, cuddling, kissing, and sex)- I'm a very physical person. I have always have been.
6. love

My future.......what I'm doing with my life. where I want it be and how I'm going to get there.....sometimes I think that i think way too much and other times not enough. Sex, friends, sleep, books and what I would do if I were alive in that world, wondering when I'll lose my fear and actually do what's in my head......hmmmm well lose my fear isn't exactly right. The day that I overcome my fear and live despite it..........will be an amazing start to a beautiful section in my life despite the light or darkness of it as well as everything in between.

It really varies. Sometimes I'll curled up at home reading a book or playing a game. Others I'll be out with friends or working. I really don't like being bored so I'm generally always down to do something if I don't have anything to do.

I haven't really drummed in two years and it's broken my heart.
I have a lot of porn, and I make use of it.
Once I fall asleep holding you......you'll probably be stuck there all night(I hope you went to bathroom before haha)
I'm absolutely horrible when it comes to opening conversations..it's just an awkward hot mess. Have hope though. Once the conversation actually starts I make up for it.

These are all things you can ask me about or have been left half said So they can be talked about. Feel free to ask me anything.

You're interested in getting to know me in the smallest bit. You never know what could happen, and I'm always open to meet new people. :)
You're always willing to ask when you don't understand. I promise I'll at the very least try to do the same.
The thought of cuddle time by itself is awesome.
You'd like a legit massage(I don't do happy endings hahaha)
You'd like to talk; I'm always down for that.