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Unpersoni

30 / M / Straight / Single

Philadelphia, Pennsylvania

His Details

Last Online
May 16
Ethnicity
White
Height
5′ 9″ (1.75m).
Body Type
Thin
Diet
Strictly vegetarian
Smokes
No
Drinks
Not at all
Drugs
Religion
Sign
Leo and it’s fun to think about
Education
Graduated from college/university
Job
Education / Academia
Income
Offspring
Pets
Likes dogs
Speaks
English

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My self-summary
I'm real, and for the many who have meet me and said "you're too good to be true"... I think to myself, I'm just the consequence of being fearless and self aware. Apparently those are rare jewels to find nowadays.

In High School I didn't make a point of fitting in, this transferred into my real life and has been the greatest gift I've given myself. I meet so many sheep in life, I am more like a courageous lion, I follow my own path and not the flock. I take pride in being different and unique and don't care what other people think or say. There's too much judgment and too little understanding towards those of us who have a different perspective on life.

I've traveled around the world (10 - 15 countries) but the greatest journey I have ever taken has been within myself. In other words: I am introspective, thoughtful, spiritual, caring, imaginative ... the opposite of a jock, atleast on the inside. On the outside, I got a good package: (that too but I mean this...) I am fit enough to play basketball against young black teenagers and not lose...terribly, I do much of the handy work around my house, I've never lost a game of Mercy.

My sensibilities suggest I was born in the wrong time. I would have shined in a more socially conscious culture or period. I feel like a dull knife trying to cut through the bullshit of our times. I am open to feelings, I like to feel hurt and suffering, love and joy, madness and confusion, all feelings are meaningful. I'm a youthful old soul.

I have this chip on my shoulder about women and dating...I am searching for that sweetheart who can dust off my shoulder. I’m thick skinned, but it still bothers me how much women play games and snap to judgment, it has turned my thick skin to callous. The only games I play are for the fun of both parties. I’m playful but not a player. I could’ve been one of the best players in the game but I actually have a conscience and feel sick about myself if I pretend to be interested in a woman, when I just want sex. If I just wanted to bang you, you’d know it, I am honest to a fault. Alternately, if I am interested in you You...I have special ways of expressing that, you’ll just have to get to know me to find out.

I enjoy creating. The world/life is a canvas. It is said we create our own reality. I'm looking for a fellow painter. I have an adult's imagination but it is not mature themed. Music and films have inspired me to no end. If doctor's opened up my head, they'd find a media library of congress in there.

Anything else is open for discussion. I enjoy the verbal pre-dating foreplay. I call a deep and engaging conversation with a woman, a "talk-job". If you're good at the talk-job, we'll get along.
What I’m doing with my life
Truly finding fulfillment of my soul through the grace of eyes unclouded.
Working hard not to dance like a white guy.
Being grateful for everything good and bad.
Writing to unload the malaise of ideas that stock up in my head.
Exposing hypocrisy and ignorance with reckless abandon.

That's all during the night...during the day I work at a Community Center for a few After-School Programs. It is modest and fulfilling work. My group is the 7 to 9 year olds. I adore working with kids because it is invigorating and allows me to think of others (instead of myself) everyday!
I’m really good at
Naming things or experiences.
Forgiveness, Compassion, Understanding. Resolving Conflicts & Personal Differences.
Cooking dinner in 30 minutes or less.
Being brutally honest and doing it tastefully.
Psychoanalysis.
Being Dark and Optimistic.
Expanding others' perception
The first things people usually notice about me
The color of my eyes. "Something Special". My long, curly hair.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
The Clash, Bowie, Modest Mouse, Brian Eno, Broken Social Scene, The Weeknd, Kanye, Joanna Newsom, The Smiths/Morrissey, Tim Hecker, Outkast, Animal Collective, Beck, Neil Young, Radiohead, Godspeed YBE, Dylan, Elvis Costello, Talking Heads, Sigur Ros, Jens Lekman, Aphex Twin, Jeff Buckley, MF Doom, White Stripes, Stevie Wonder, Sunset Rubdown, Bill Callahan, Sade, Wolf Parade, Talk Talk...Frank Ocean
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Serpico, Life Is Beautiful, Last Temptation of Christ (Scorsese) , David Lynch, Howl's Moving Castle, Borat, Seven, Traffic, Superbad, District 9, The Godfather, Coen Brothers, Schindler's List, Napoleon Dynamite, The Insider, Shawshank Redemption, Into The Wild, The Dark Knight...
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Homicide, The Wire, Twin Peaks, Late Show w/ Letterman, Breaking Bad, Seinfeld, Simpsons, Family Guy, Mad Men, Arrested Development, Dexter, The Shield, Curb yr Enth...
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The Prophet, Eckhart Tolle, David Hawkins, Dylan's Chronicles, Vol. 1
The six things I could never do without
1. Meditation 2. My CDs and Vinyls 3. Sense of Community 4. Coffee 5. Waking up in the morning 6. Google Music and my Phiaton headphones.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
...How to be a better person. ...The music and musicians I listen to and admire. ...Philosophy and bigger questions about the nature of life/living. ...Nothing.
On a typical Friday night I am
Open Minded---
I'm not a drinker, or a bar scener, although I'll go to one with good company. I'll seek out social activities that are fun and engaging, like poetry readings at L'etage (yes, I know that's a bar), musicians playing at coffeehouses, art openings, and the likes.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I met and fell in love with someone on OKC. It's a complex love story.
I’m looking for
  • Girls who like guys
  • Ages 18–32
  • Near me
  • For new friends, short-term dating, activity partners, casual sex
You should message me if
If you have ever seen the movie Blue Valentine (or have not) ... when Gosling talks about how women are not romantic like men, how women settle for whoever is the best guy in their picture ... if Ryan Gosling is not talking about you, message me. If you are a romantic woman who is brave, confident, adventurous in spirit, dynamic, cultured and believes in putting your heart and feelings on the line if it could lead to love, message me.