I've seen and experienced many beautiful things in Polyamory-land. But I also feel there tends to be a lot of unacknowledged feelings and “avoidant” tendencies, to diffuse intimacy so as to avoid deep attachment and commitment that would actually be healing of old “attachment wounds” we all inevitably have, and deeply fulfilling, but are scary. I've seen some of that in myself, and I want to be done with it. I'm seeking a slow and delicious courtship dance leading into a dynamic companionship that will stick around.
The mono-affectionate conventional relationship norm doesn't make sense to me, though. I want revolution in everyday life (as well as on the institutional level). I'd like to be lovers with someone who matches my zest for co-creating very lively intentional community. This has a dimension of intellectual ferment, and it's also a matter of ecstatic communion.