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Vampire_Squid

46 Frederick, MD Man

Man

I’m looking for

  • Women
  • Ages 25–50
  • Near me
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating

My Details

Last Online
Today – 4:42am
Orientation
Straight
Ethnicity
White
Height
5′ 11″ (1.80m)
Body Type
Average
Diet
Anything
Smokes
No
Drinks
Rarely
Drugs
Religion
Other, but not too serious about it
Sign
Virgo, and it’s fun to think about
Education
University
Job
Other
Income
Rather not say
Relationship Status
Married
Relationship Type
Strictly non-monogamous
Offspring
Has a kid, but doesn’t want more
Pets
Has dogs and likes cats
Speaks
English (Fluently)

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My self-summary
Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
It's about time I updated this again ...I suppose so here we go.

First off if you're not kink and poly friendly you should probably stop reading here.

Okay still here?

So lets get the kink question out of the way first. It's a major part of my life and recreation. I identify as a dominant and sadist but have a compassionate daddy side as well. I tend to see my self as medium protocol in most of my relationships and tend towards contracted structured arrangements. I don't do much casual play as I feel a need to have a connection to my play partners that I can't easily achieve with an acquaintance.

As for my professional side, I'm a commission painter with a terrible sense of self worth. So I tend to undervalue my time and skill, but hey, I still enjoy it so no big deal. I'm not really money oriented and don't often get along with the career obsessed. Previous to my life as a prophet, I was a nightclub DJ for thirteen years. So, needless to say, I'm kind of a music fan.

Actually I am djing again. This time, however, it's as a volunteer. I love having the opportunity to do what I enjoy and the chance to serve the community.

Romantically speaking, I'm currently in an open relationship with my wife. I'm looking for another partner as I find myself most content when I am in two relationships.

My personality tends to be a strange dichotomy (in my opinion). I'm friendly and an avid conversationalist, yet I don't like new situations. I'm caring and compassionate, yet have a mischievous mind. I can be critical of the most pointless things (I'm looking at you brussel sprouts!) yet I'm extremely tolerant of most people. I think I often come off as being the stereotypical stoic guy, yet I have a queer streak that shines through. (Blame my mother for raising me on musicals I guess.)

A long time ago in a galaxy known as the late eighties/early nineties I was Goth as FUCK, but as I got older, I got lazy. I miss dancing and the clubs, but I don't drink or smoke any more, and thanks to a bum knee, dancing is right out. I still have the love of all things old school and spooky, but keep that sparkly vampire shit to yourself! As of late I have been drifting back towards a more rivethead persona.

Did I mention I have a potty mouth? No really! I don't believe that words are inherently good or bad, it's the context in which they used. Fuck silly notions of common decency.

I'm an unrepentant jack-of-all-trades when it comes to knowledge. I can carry on at least a passable conversation covering just about any subject. Though I will often play devil's advocate - and even argue against things I believe in - just to hear others' insights and opinions.

If you: are a high-percentage match or feel that you should be - no matter what OKC says, like gaming and horror movies, understand I'm poly and can't spend every waking moment with you, like having a good time without having to spend a ton of money on the wining and dining experience, like seduction and flirtation as opposed to an “instant on” experience, identify on the submissive and masochistic side of the spectrum, have a thick enough skin to enjoy sarcasm and a sense of humor that sometimes hits like a brick, and lastly are looking for a Gomez (or at least an Uncle Fester) to your Morticia, then by all means message me.
What I’m doing with my life
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by day I'm often found painting - at least an hour or two whether or not I'm working on a commission. When I can, I get out and play games at a local store.

On the weekends I can be found either playing music or socializing at the studio.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Painting tiny details
Making people laugh and smile
Overestimating my ability to not give a crap
Caring for - and about - the people I really love
Witty sarcasm
Being devious, devoted, and dependable
Filling my mind with useful and useless trivia
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
My eyes, my snarky commentary, or my shaved head... you decide!
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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Music: Voltaire; Tom Waits; The Smiths; Shriekback; Rob Zombie; Richard Cheese; Nitzer Ebb; Nick Cave & The Bad Seeds; New Order; My Life with the Thrill Kill Kult; Misfits; Me First and the Gimme Gimmes; Love and Rockets; Lords of Acid; Laurie Anderson; KMFDM; Front 242; Erasure; Eisenfunk; The Dickies; Diamanda Galas; Dead Milkmen; The Cure; Cubanate; Combichrist; Coil; Cocteau Twins; clan of xymox; Buzzcocks; Bronski Beat; The BossHoss; Boomtown Rats; Abney Park; Bauhaus; Joy Division; Christian Death, Ministry, RevCo; I could go on and on, but you, get the idea.

Books: Clive Barker (especially his early stuff before Imajica); Phillip K Dick; William Gibson; William S Burroughs; Hunter S Thompson

T.V. I don't watch a whole lot but I do follow True Blood; Game of Thrones; Walking Dead; Doctor Who; and I still go back and watch Twin Peaks from time to time.

Movies: That's tough - I like so many. Lets start by saying anything in the horror and gore genres; Star Wars (but that's a given); Just about anything by David Lynch or John Waters; Siesta, Wings of Desire (and not that crappy Hollywood knock off!); The Imaginarium of Doctor Parnassus.

Food: Pizza in all its myriad qualities; sushi; seafood in general; really sharp cheddar cheese; dutch apple pie; tex-mex; simple comfort food like mashed potatoes or mac and cheese.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
1. Music
2. Games
3. Close Friends
4. Pizza
5. A paint brush that can hold a decent point!
6. Fetlife
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
how to get music lyrics unstuck from my head, especially when it's a song I don't even like! I swear, I would stab them with a q-tip if I could!
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Spinning music for the local kink scene.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
I have some anxiety issues, and by some, I mean generalized anxiety disorder with a side of social anxiety disorder, but I'm medicated enough to be functional. =) It does mean I need a lot of downtime to decompress though.
You should message me if
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...you're okay with polyamorous relationships and understand that I can care about you while also caring about my family.
...you're kinky or at least kink friendly