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46 • Frederick, MD • Man
I’m looking for
- Ages 25–50
- Near me
- Who are single
- For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating
- Last online
- Apr 16
- 5′ 11″ (1.80m)
- Body type
- Other, but not too serious about it
- Virgo, and it’s fun to think about
- Rather not say
- Strictly non-monogamous
- Has a kid, but doesn’t want more
- Has dogs and likes cats
- English (Fluently)
First off if you're not kink and poly friendly you should probably stop reading here.
Okay still here?
So lets get the kink question out of the way first. It's a major part of my life and recreation. I identify as a dominant and sadist. I tend to see my self as medium protocol in most of my relationships and tend towards contracted structured arrangements. I don't do much casual play as I feel a need to have a connection to my play partners that I can't easily achieve with an acquaintance.
As for my professional side, I'm a commission painter with a terrible sense of self worth. So I tend to undervalue my time and skill, but hey, I still enjoy it so no big deal. I'm not really money oriented and don't often get along with the career obsessed. Previous to my life as a prophet, I was a nightclub DJ for thirteen years. So, needless to say, I'm kind of a music fan.
Romantically speaking, I'm currently in an open relationship with my wife. I'm looking for another partner as I find myself most content when I am in two relationships.
My personality tends to be a strange dichotomy (in my opinion). I'm friendly and an avid conversationalist, yet I don't like new situations. I'm caring and compassionate, yet have a mischievous mind. I can be critical of the most pointless things (I'm looking at you brussel sprouts!) yet I'm extremely tolerant of most people. I think I often come off as being the stereotypical stoic guy, yet I have a queer streak that shines through. (Blame my mother for raising me on musicals I guess.)
A long time ago in a galaxy known as the late eighties/early nineties I was Goth as FUCK, but as I got older, I got lazy. I miss dancing and the clubs, but I don't drink or smoke any more, and thanks to a bum knee, dancing is right out. I still have the love of all things old school and spooky, but keep that sparkly vampire shit to yourself! As of late I have been drifting back towards a more rivethead persona.
Did I mention I have a potty mouth? No really! I don't believe that words are inherently good or bad, it's the context in which they used. Fuck silly notions of common decency.
I'm an unrepentant jack-of-all-trades when it comes to knowledge. I can carry on at least a passable conversation covering just about any subject. Though I will often play devil's advocate - and even argue against things I believe in - just to hear others' insights and opinions.
If you: are a high-percentage match or feel that you should be - no matter what OKC says, like gaming and horror movies, understand I'm poly and can't spend every waking moment with you, like having a good time without having to spend a ton of money on the wining and dining experience, like seduction and flirtation as opposed to an “instant on” experience, identify on the submissive and masochistic side of the spectrum, have a thick enough skin to enjoy sarcasm and a sense of humor that sometimes hits like a brick, and lastly are looking for a Gomez (or at least an Uncle Fester) to your Morticia, then by all means message me.
Books: Clive Barker (especially his early stuff before Imajica); Phillip K Dick; William Gibson; William S Burroughs; Hunter S Thompson
T.V. I don't watch a whole lot but I do follow True Blood; Game of Thrones; Walking Dead; Doctor Who; and I still go back and watch Twin Peaks from time to time.
Movies: That's tough - I like so many. Lets start by saying anything in the horror and gore genres; Star Wars (but that's a given); Just about anything by David Lynch or John Waters; Siesta, Wings of Desire (and not that crappy Hollywood knock off!); The Imaginarium of Doctor Parnassus.
Food: Pizza in all its myriad qualities; sushi; seafood in general; really sharp cheddar cheese; dutch apple pie; tex-mex; simple comfort food like mashed potatoes or mac and cheese.
3. Close Friends
5. A paint brush that can hold a decent point!
...you're kinky or at least kink friendly
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