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50 M Oakland, CA

I’m looking for

  • Girls who like guys
  • Ages 40–50
  • Near me
  • Who are single
  • For long-term dating

My Details

Last Online
Sep 17
5′ 10″ (1.78m)
Body Type
Not at all
Judaism, but not too serious about it
Relationship Status
Relationship Type
Strictly monogamous
Doesn’t have kids
English (Fluently)

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My self-summary
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50 is the new 50.
What I’m doing with my life
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Working, biking, walking, driving, hiking, birding, beeing, treeing, barking, digging, singing, whistling, humming, changing, inciting, scooching, sidling, gossiping, sneezing, gazing, chortling, snoring, waking, dreaming, reading, picturing, drawing, blushing, startling, eating, meeting, washing, folding, listening, intuiting, guessing, shivering, eying, decrying, practicing my bum-ditty Basic Strum.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Stepping up; stepping back. Waiting for li’l birds in bushes. Laughing. Befriending strangers. Reading kids books aloud. Being wrong. Getting lost. Not minding being wrong and lost.
The first things people usually notice about me
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Ummm, I gesture and dramatize too much; people may notice I am a really a cartoon.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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Ugh, ‘favorites.’ Always with favorites. All right, all right.

The more time passes, the more I just love, cherish reading. Really enjoy reading many things at once and am quite happy reading longish books over a long period of time. These days I am reading The People's History of the United States, Pioneer Naturalists (a book about the white men who went about N. America naming things after each n other), an autobiography of Dorothy Day, and a book about IDing raptors in flight.

Recently finished "Where the Wild Things Were" about the effects on the ecosystem of the loss (this is a cumbersome sentence I've got myself into here...) of apex predators. In short: kill all the mountain lions and the community of native plants and other animals collapses (sexy, eh?). I just drink up books about evolution and natural history (and when it comes time to make compelling small talk I can't remember a darned thing I've read).

I count Jane Austen (well, more precisely, Anne Elliot) as a favorite.

Not a big movie goer. Going back, Black Is, Black Ain’t is one of my favorite movies. Fly Away Home. Amelie. Thunderheart. The Princess Bride. My Left Foot. Norma Shearer movies. The Man in the Gray Flannel Suit. Miracle on 34th Street. and yes yes ok Star Wars.

Shows? As in, “Go to a show, you hope she goes”? The first show I ever saw was Pearl Harbour and the Explosions at the Old Waldorf in SF (and if that don't date me...); the last show I saw was some oldtime banjo something er other at the Freight.

TV shows? I remember Bewitched was pretty good.

Music: Iron and Wine. Beth Orton. Stevie Wonder’s Innervisions is always near. The Beatles!! Apparently singing really loud to really old David Bowie songs will be fun forever (“is there life on MAAAAAAAAAAARRSSSSSSSS oh oo oh”) Nina Simone. Neil Young. I bumbled into a mild Portishead fixation recently. The Dicks, disco, Blackalicous, Mekons, Yeah Yeah Yeahs, Pablo Moses. Lots of 70s music absolutely no one but me could possibly enjoy anymore. Pete Seeger (“Don’t ask what a river is forrrrrrrrrrr…”)

Food? Um, do you really care – oh no, wait, I’m not a vegetarian. That matters. I’m sorry, farm animals, because I really do think you each should live with joy and dignity and, and plus you are all very cute. But I sometimes eat and wear you anyway. Thoroughly wrong and hypocritical.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
I won’t do without the people I love. Clear-headed, agendaless, caring, community-steeped non-racist, non-sexist, non-homophobic, not-mean people. Native, wild plants n animals. Pigeon guillemots, common murres - heck, all of the alcids are boss! Oakland. San Francisco, they’re keepers. How many's that?
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
"What's the next right thing?" as they say.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Staggering away from the work week happy n tired n dirty n hungry n wide-eyed. I ain't no party guy. I have a volunteer thing many Friday nights and some Saturday mornings.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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This here love machine doesn't list my pet in its menu. Pfffft.
You should message me if
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You are freakin' funny as heck. You think monogamy is important or at least really fun, you love being in love, or - OR! you should message me if you want to teach me how to play this darned banjo