Reasonably self-aware, thoughtful, unassuming, often shy, quiet,
devoted to those around me. I believe in the concept that "less is
more." However, I also like to experience the wide range of
emotions of which humans are capable. I enjoy my work but am not
obsessed by it. I try to live both small, by not being a big
consumer (whether of stuff or people) and large, by squeezing as
much out of life as I can. I try to give back to the world as much
as I take from it and do no harm.
I can be reclusive at times, and generally enjoy calm over stormy,
soft over loud, harmony over noise. I don't mind solitude but would
like to expand my circle of friends and acquaintances and if more
serious relationships should develop that would be fine.
I do think that when it is time it is important to love big, with
maximum abandon and intensity, or not bother to love at all.
I like to see equally the profundities and absurdities in
I am loyal, private, and irreverent
What I’m doing with my life
Working in my chosen profession which I enjoy as much as when I
began some 37 years ago. I'm past the career ladder-climbing point
and am at peace with my present position and
I like to read, watch movies, play bocce ball (I built a court in
my backyard), walk, and do yoga but not to excess. I enjoy having
people for dinner and being in small groups. Something always seems
to need work around my house but I have learned some skills over
the years and am fairly competent doing that type of work.
I don't ski, chase younger women, or ride a Harley and am
comfortably past the temptations of a mid-life crisis. Those will
have to wait until the next mid-life, I suppose.
I’m really good at
....seeing many sides of an issue and was, for several years, on
the union side of a joint Labor/Management committee whose sole
purpose was to resolve conflicts when they arose.
The first things people usually notice about me
My hair, I'm afraid (as if I had something to do with it). Good
genes for which I'm not at all responsible.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Of movies from the last twenty years or so I enjoy small movies
that tell a big story like "Cinema Paradiso" or "Big Night" I also
love movies of the classic Film noir era (if Gloria Grahame were to
come back to life, all bets are off). Favorite actors and
actresses: Grace Kelly, Richard Widmark, Lee Remick....also, a huge
fan of the classic character actors: Elisha Cook, Jr., Lyle Talbot,
and especially the one and only, Timothy Carey.
I watch the Colbert Report, the Daily Show and think PBS' Judy
Woodruff is the sexiest woman on television.
I am a classical musician by profession so, of course, enjoy all
its different forms, symphony, opera and chamber music, etc. I grew
up on 60/70's rock and roll, however, and still have a soft spot
for that era (Beatles, Stones, Kinks). I enjoy some jazz and oddly
enough, old standards, especially if they are sung in a quiet piano
The six things I could never do without
knowledge that my children are safe and happy
ability to play music
potential for romance to flourish
ability to laugh
On a typical Friday night I am
I am in the performing arts so I usually have a concert to play on
Fridays until about 10:00 after which I enjoy a quiet drink and
people watching at a favorite establishment. I may meet friends
after a concert but lately have have preferred solitude. If I go
straight home after a performance I will usually watch an old 50's
film noir movie to unwind.