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56 M Bellows Falls, VT

My Details

Last Online
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5′ 10″ (1.78m)
Body Type
A little extra
Other, and somewhat serious about it
Sagittarius, and it’s fun to think about
Graduated from masters program
Rather not say
Relationship Status
Relationship Type
Has kids
Likes dogs and has cats
English (Fluently)

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My self-summary
Every now and then I look over this profile and see if there’s anything that needs to be updated, revised, downright deleted. Here it is January 2013 and it feels like one of those times again.

The basics are pretty much the same: I'm 56 years old, bisexual and polyamorous, living in southern Vermont, in an open relationship with my wife. We live in a two-family house on a quiet residential neighborhood, real salt-of-the-earth neighbors. Our tenants are quiet and generally pretty cool.

Our ideal household would be a kind of poly intentional community. That's what we hope to do with this house here. For now, we wouldn't mind a sweetie or two or three to share good times and adventures with.

In the past year I've begun a really sweet relationship with a woman I met on OKC (her name here is spikejem), and also a dear man that I met through a friend. We are having a wonderful time getting to know one another. Care to join us? My girlfriend and I are particularly looking for another woman to become friends with. This is all with the consent of our respective spouses of course.

Other predilections: paganism, Tibetan Buddhism, Jungian dreamwork, Brushwood Folklore Center, the Church of the Subgenius, praise Bob!

Lately I've been toying with the label pansexual, as I've been educating myself about the genderqueer movement and the idea that there are more than two genders, thus making an idea like bisexuality, with its implied dichotomy, somewhat obsolete. I'm not much for labels but I'm having fun with "pansexual." After all, who's more sexual than Pan?

I am quiet, quirky, and wondering
What I’m doing with my life
Life is pretty darn good. Even during difficult times, "interesting times," a foundation of life-is-good is present, has always been there even when I don't know it. The interesting times are there for me to learn something, usually about myself. Usually the interesting times are a result of my having made basic bonehead choices, particularly in the realm of relationships, so I get to learn what not to do next time. The really good times are there for me to learn something too, usually about not getting too attached, especially to an idea, even more especially to an emotion.

For a couple years now I've been working as a security guard at a big grocery warehouse. This after losing my job in publishing to lay-offs back in 2008, then when my unemployment was about to run out I was dropped in this job's lap. This'll sound hokey but... I've made the job somewhat of a spiritual practice, in terms of being gentle with myself in the face of a basic dumb job, and being gentle with others too... no one cares about my drama, and life without drama is so much healthier and kinder.

Other stuff: We help organize the annual Thanksgiving Community Dinner. Also been writing for and proofreading a little local newspaper printed out of someone's basement. Been a nice way to get to know neighbors.
I’m really good at
I'm a good writer. I'm good at swimming but I don't do it as much as I like. Also very good at hiking and messing about outdoors. Love skinny-dipping and other naturist activities.

Also like to go out dancing, or to concerts or movies. I'm reeeeally good at spending money, not always good at making money.
The first things people usually notice about me
My beard, my Hawaiian shirts, my ponytail
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
favorite authors (no particular order): Terry Pratchett, Eckhart Tolle, Byron Katie, Barbara Kingsolver, John Gardner, Italo Calvino, Kathryn Davis, Mark Doty, E. Annie Proulx, Milan Kundera, Neil Gaiman.

A few years back I read a book called "When Fear Falls Away," by Jan Frazier, a woman who lives near here and whose writing workshops I've attended in the past. Jan had a spontaneous enlightenment experience some time ago, and the book is about that experience and what it did to her life. Quite inspiring and hopeful, I recommend it to everyone reading this. You should also read Eckhart Tolle's books *The Power of Now.* and *A New Earth.* Then read Byron Katie's *Loving What Is.* The whole idea of attaining enlightenment / awakening is very much in the forefront of my mind.

favorite movies (npo): Stranger Than Fiction, Amelie, Dogma, Kenneth Branaugh's Much Ado About Nothing, Smoke Signals, What the Bleep Do We Know, I Heart Huckabees, True Stories, Oh Brother Where Art Thou, Eternal Sunshine of the Spotless Mind, Spirited Away, Bubba Hotep, Stardust, Buckaroo Banzai

music (npo): I've been on a big jazz kick lately---Miles Davis, Charles Mingus, Thelonius Monk, Keith Jarrett, Herbie Hancock, John Coltrane, Wayne Shorter. Also into a lot of reggae---Burning Spear, Steel Pulse, the Equalites, the Alchemystics, the Congos, Peter Tosh, of course Bob Marley. Finally been listening to blues---Pinetop Perkins, BB King. Heard an excellent bluesy British woman at the Roots on the River festival the other night, will have to find her name again...

food: just about anything that doesn't crawl off the table, leave the restaurant and grab a taxi....
The six things I could never do without
Really the only things I need are a skinny dipping hole in the summer and an electric blanket in the winter.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
living in the moment and not screwing up... realizing my Buddha nature and not screwing up... getting a job and not screwing up... walking across the room and ....
On a typical Friday night I am
relaxing after a long day at work, resting up for an early Saturday
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
Every year I get a lil more tired of winter
I’m looking for
  • Guys and girls who like bi guys
  • Ages 40–70
  • Near me
  • For new friends, short-term dating, casual sex
You should message me if
oh screebies I don't know, you tell me why you want to message me