The basics are pretty much the same: I'm 56 years old, bisexual and polyamorous, living in southern Vermont, in an open relationship with my wife. We live in a two-family house on a quiet residential neighborhood, real salt-of-the-earth neighbors. Our tenants are quiet and generally pretty cool.
polyamory: This is the ability to be involved romantically and/or sexually with more than one person at a time. It goes on the belief that the human heart can handle more than one intimate, romantic relation at a time. Different friends fulfill different functions in your life; fulfill different needs. It's a philosophy of infinite love available in the world, as opposed to a philosophy of scarcity.
That sounds all hippie-dippie, doesn't it. In practical terms polyamory takes a lot of work, mainly because you often have more than one significant other calling you on your foibles / baggage / shit (can I use that word here?). It takes a lot of communication, honesty, integrity, and self-reflection. I can not see myself living any other way.
Polyamory is a subculture-y movement that has been going on for many decades. You could google it & find all kinds of info, including perhaps social/ support groups in your area. Please don't take my definition here as definitive: I'm writing on a Sunday morning before breakfast.
In the past couple years I've been a really sweet relationship with a woman I met on OKC (her name here is spikejem). We've each become friendly with our respective spouses; we never set up dates without checking with our spouses first. It has been one of the most challenging and fulfilling experiences I've ever had. And we seek other friends to share good times and adventures with as well, to add to the ever-growing tapestry that is our life.
(Hmph, not bad for Sunday morning before breakfast. Think I'll go toast a bagel...)
Other predilections: paganism, Tibetan Buddhism, Brushwood Folklore Center, the Church of the Subgenius, praise Bob!
Lately I've been toying with the label pansexual, as I've been educating myself about the genderqueer movement and the idea that there are more than two genders, thus making an idea like bisexuality, with its implied dichotomy, somewhat obsolete. I'm not much for labels but I'm having fun with "pansexual." After all, who's more sexual than Pan?
I am quiet, quirky, and wondering