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VanDellz

23 / F / Bisexual / Single

Chapel Hill, North Carolina

Her Details

Last Online
Apr 17
Ethnicity
Black, Hispanic / Latin
Height
4′ 11″ (1.50m).
Body Type
Fit
Diet
Mostly vegan
Smokes
Drinks
Rarely
Drugs
Never
Religion
Buddhism but not too serious about it
Sign
Virgo and it’s fun to think about
Education
Working on college/university
Job
Political / Government
Income
Offspring
Doesn’t have kids, and doesn’t want any
Pets
Likes dogs and has cats
Speaks
English (Fluently), Spanish (Okay)

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My self-summary
I love when people mention in their opening line that they are more than any of the words they can use to describe themselves. Somewhere in Tennessee Williams' collection of journals is a passage that I have interpreted to mean that the people who have substantial substance are those who acknowledge the various selves they have developed- whether past selves, the current self or the self we want to be- and accepts them as part of being.

Wow, that was a horrible way to summarize myself. Okay, starting over:

I was one of those people who studied English, History & Creative Writing as undergrad and enjoyed it too much. I went to UNC Chapel Hill and will currently be traveling until I find the grad school I am willing to spend too much time and money at.

For those who know the Chapel Thrill/Carrboro crowd, yes... I bike, host potlucks, attend writing collectives, go to really really freemarkets after the farmers market, am feminist, all about diy, complain about how veganism perpetuates the notion that social responsibility is solely on the consumer while I am practicing it, and so on. I think a lot of people get turned off by those things because they think it's pretentious. And now I can't include an aside saying that I am not pretentious because that would only mean that I am...

This is me starting the self summary over:

-It seems reasonable to say that I have a lot of random, diverse experiences and can be useful in many ways. Thankfully, that has translated into being a great friend (to strangers and comrades alike). What can I say...I like helping people.
-I like arguing that free will does and does not exist. My argument will almost definitely depend on what you believe.
-I write absurdist literature. I also work on plays, short stories, 4 a.m epiphanies, moleskin scribbles, zines and essaying.
-I am a romantic that often takes long sabbaticals from romance.
-I love talking about time, perception, existence, meaninglessness and nonsense. Even better with coffee or when staying up past our curfew. Almost all of my friend eventually get that "humans are fucking horribly weird" talk from me.
-I am non-monogamous and queer. Definitely ask me what this means if you do not know (often labeling hinders us from defining something because it is used in discourse without a fleshed out convo). I am primarily attracted to thinkers or remarkable, awkward people. Okc should have this as a sexuality option
-I have numerous controversial beliefs that I am terribly unashamed of.
-I can talk a lot if I'm around people who need someone to talk a lot. I can be silent and listen among the opposite. But no matter what, as you can see or assume, I write a lot. That's what the fuck I do. :)
What I’m doing with my life
-making vegan cheeses and yogurts that trick people
-reading several books at once and forgetting to read some all the way through. carrying around and using two moleskines (a journal and one for short stories)
-photography that isn't to prove I have fun
-dealing with trauma
-traveling once a month because I feel more insane/sane in that context
-wishing that more people participated in nonsexual naked dance parties. wishing more people had consent talks. wishing more people hated patriarchy.
-going on adventures in my RV. traveling to far places
-doing activist thangs. that takes up most of my schedule. also, hating humans and industrial civilization.
I’m really good at
writing.
experiments.
experimentally writing.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
This is in no particular order... just to punish that rare person that reads down this far:

The Beat Generation, Last Year at Marienbad, Lars Van Trier Melancholia, Eternal Sunshine of the Spotless Mind, Infinite Jest*, My So Called Life, Kerouac, Phantogram, Pierre-Joseph Proudhon, Sushi, Daria, Dinosaur Jr, Where the Red Fern Grows, Grateful Dead, Modest Mouse, all Chomsky, The Shock Doctrine, The Velvet Underground, Animal Collective, House of Leaves, Vortex, 3D Friends, Miniature Tigers, magic, The Squid and the Whale, Gramsci's Notebooks, intricate webbings of nature, the history of white people,pumpkin candles, Robyn, Cosmic Burritos, Beckett, James Blake, Aquadrop, Archer, Bright Eyes, Arcade Fire, Neutral Milk Hotel, Thai Dumplings, Mikhail Bakunin, Poe essays, Buffalo Tom, Taco Truck or Chirba chirba, Jean Vigo, Tennessee Williams Collected Journals, Strfkr, Pynchon, blah.

Oh, I also have about a hundred really rad zines.
The six things I could never do without
-writing materials (a laptop just can't beat a moleskin)
-my cat Sushi. Srsly...
-live music
-food trucks
-campfire rituals
-weird friends

I forgot to add ' total destroy'
I spend a lot of time thinking about
well, this is embarrassing...

global issues? yeah.

fml. i meant to say cats
On a typical Friday night I am
Ideally-
not dancing. not on a table. not having fun.

Worst case-
At a show where the first band is just as good as the rest, or at a bar that has both cheap and good beer, or discovering new places with people who can have endless conversations.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
im probably high on the neuroticism scale some days...meh
I’m looking for
  • Everybody
  • Ages 20–28
  • Near me
  • For new friends
You should message me if
If you read a lot. I've found that those are the people that I like the most.

Or if you like my unintentionally awkward humor.