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VanDellz

24 F Chapel Hill, NC

My Details

Last Online
Aug 19
Orientation
Bisexual
Ethnicity
Black, Native American, Other
Height
4′ 11″ (1.50m)
Body Type
Fit
Diet
Mostly anything
Smokes
No
Drinks
Socially
Drugs
Never
Religion
Sign
Virgo, and it’s fun to think about
Education
Graduated from university
Job
Retired
Income
Relationship Status
Single
Relationship Type
Offspring
Doesn’t have kids, and doesn’t want any
Pets
Likes dogs and has cats
Speaks
English (Fluently), Spanish (Okay)

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My self-summary
Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
Im moving to oakland in sept & counting down the days. I'm mostly looking for cool people to hang out with! I haven't updated this profile in a while (cause I'm lazy, applying to grad schools, & rather watch my cats chase lasers). I should mention I don't tolerate anti-black, anti-native/colonialist, border/imperialist anti-immigrant/diaspora or anti-Asian/orientalism views/messages. There is more I could add, but that's a good start to feel out whether we'd get along.

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I love when people mention in their opening line that they are more than any of the words they can use to describe themselves. Somewhere in Tennessee Williams' collection of journals is a passage that I have interpreted to mean that the people who have substantial substance are those who acknowledge the various selves they have developed-- whether past selves, the current self or the self we want to be-- and mournfully/joyfully accepts this as a part of being.

Wow, that was a horrible way to summarize myself. Okay, starting over:

I studied English, History & Creative Writing as undergrad at UNC Chapel Hill. It was okay, if you're into that kind of thing. I love learning & studying, and I find myself STILL staying up late to work on essays and prose pieces for one thing or another. But the structure of schools/education is deeply deeply flawed (which is probably why I enjoy learning more outside of institutions). I'm dreadfully applying to graduate schools in the bay area (MFA Prose or Ph.D Ethnic Studies). Tbh, I just want their money so that I can get paid for doing the EXACT same thing I'm doing now…and unfortunately academia helps with networking blah blah blah blah...

I've been in Chapel Thrill/Carrboro for a while, and it's one of those places people go to lose touch with reality as a whole. I've drank the kool-aid here & there, (you know, bike culture, potlucks, writing collectives, free markets after farmers markets, liberals who think their radicals, white feminists, beer-fests or music-fests or fest-fests…), but hell… as nice as that can be, it seems like people forget what life can be like for those who do not have those privileges.

it's been a great place for me to argue that intellectualization of our passions can destroy our passions (as I enjoy some completely theoretical text, perhaps written with a monotone voice). I love the place, but I'm ready for more.

This is me starting the self summary over:

I'm sarcastic and funny. And I don't take myself too seriously. And, you know, I'm more than what I could put in a summary box.

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perhaps I proved my sarcasm there...
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
*applying to grad schools in the bay for prose and/or ethnic studies, & scheming ways to reallocate their $$
*having rv adventures
*tincturing herbs
*counseling folks with trauma
*writing or scribbling in a moleskine always, & working on short stories/plays
*reading a new book and being annoyingly excited about it
*traveling once a month as a lifestyle
*naked dance parties
*hating the fuck out of patriarchy and racism and ableism and heteronormativity
*thinking about free will existing and not existing and how terrible they both are for all the players (if i could footnote okc, I would add here Macbeth act 5 scene 5 lines 24-28)
*having 4 a.m epiphanies
*thinking about non-monogamy theory, queerness, awkwardness, awkwardness as a sexuality option on okc...
*having controversial beliefs that I am terribly unashamed of.
*pretending I live in Canada
*pretending I live in NYC (I'm actually legitimately am there for long periods of time)
*being with fat cats
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
writing.
experiments.
experimentally writing.
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
im fucking adorably small.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Help your potential matches find common interests.
This is in no particular order... just to punish that rare person that reads down this far:

Escape to Gold Mountain by Wong, Joe Sacco, The Beat Generation, Last Year at Marienbad, Lars Van Trier Melancholia, bell hooks, Eternal Sunshine of the Spotless Mind, Infinite Jest*, My So Called Life, Kerouac, Phantogram, Pierre-Joseph Proudhon, Sushi, Daria, Dinosaur Jr, Where the Red Fern Grows, maya Angelo, this bridge called my back, Grateful Dead, Modest Mouse, sometimes Chomsky, Andrea (Andy) smith, The Velvet Underground, Animal Collective, House of Leaves, Vortex, 3D Friends, Miniature Tigers, magic, The Squid and the Whale, Gramsci's Notebooks, intricate webbings of nature, the history of white people,pumpkin candles, Robyn, Cosmic Burritos, Howard Zinn, Da Vinci, Beckett, James Blake, Aquadrop, Archer, Bright Eyes, Arcade Fire, Neutral Milk Hotel, Thai Dumplings, Mikhail Bakunin, Poe essays, Buffalo Tom, Taco Truck or Chirba chirba, Jean Vigo, Tennessee Williams Collected Journals, Strfkr, Pynchon, blah.

Oh, I also have about a hundred really rad zines.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
-writing materials (a laptop just can't beat a moleskin)
-my cat Sushi. Srsly...
-live music
-food trucks
-sitting by a fire
-weird friends

I forgot to add ' total destroy'
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
well, this is embarrassing...

global issues? yeah.

fml. i meant to say cats
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
I travel a lot at the moment for work or organizing. So it depends on if I'm in the bay, down south, twin cities, NYC, or canada. Either way, I'm always out with good people.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
im probably high on the neuroticism scale some days...meh
I’m looking for
  • Everybody
  • Ages 20–28
  • Near me
  • For new friends
You should message me if
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if you like my unintentionally awkward humor.

or if you have this unfathomable feeling that I wouldn't want to kill you. somewhere in between the two is fine too.