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26 Oakland, CA Woman


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I’m looking for

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  • Ages 24-39
  • Near me
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating

My details

Last online
Nov 21
Black, Native American, Other
Relationship Type
Mostly monogamous
4' 11" (1.50m)
Body Type
Working on Post grad
Doesn’t have kids but might want them
Has cats
English (Fluently), Spanish (Somewhat)
My self-summary
Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
a list of words: queer, multi-ethnic, Afrikan, Coharie nDn, writer, radical (the kind that's about liberated land and peoples), herbalist, a family-guy.

i write mostly short stories & im doing my MFA to finish my first novel. i'll be putting on decolonial creative writing classes, too, oriented around revitalizing ancestral knowledges through storytelling.

i'm always working on a community/art/writing/ceremonial type project, so i would be down to have a sweetie who is into all of that <3
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
*community-wise, i'm working on healing clinics, transformative justice work, liberating land for Afrikans, plotting indigenous takeovers, queering up spaces...
*otherwise: i'm plotting to get another RV and have a few more adventures. tincturing herbs, writing a story, counseling, gardening, reading, doing ancestral work...
* having 4 a.m epiphanies because I stay up wait too late for my grandpa self.
* thinking about and living out non-monogamy, queerness, survival, abuse culture, anti-blackness and settler colonialism and borders, all the fun things really.
* having "controversial" beliefs that I am always terribly unashamed of
* being with fat cats that think their beds are my bed
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
experimentally writing.
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
im fucking adorably small.

sometimes I have the best afro on the block.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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This is in no particular order... just to punish that rare person that reads down this far:

Escape to Gold Mountain by Wong, Their Eyes Were Watching God by Zora Neale Hurston, Borderlands by Gloria Anzaldua, Ashanti Alston, Joe Sacco, The Beat Generation, Last Year at Marienbad, Lars Van Trier Melancholia, bell hooks, Eternal Sunshine of the Spotless Mind, Infinite Jest*, My So Called Life, Kerouac, Phantogram, Pierre-Joseph Proudhon, angela davis, andrea (andy) smith, Immortal Technique, Sushi, Daria, Dinosaur Jr, Where the Red Fern Grows, maya Angelo, this bridge called my back, Grateful Dead, Modest Mouse, sometimes Chomsky, Andrea (Andy) smith, The Velvet Underground, Animal Collective, House of Leaves, Vortex, 3D Friends, Miniature Tigers, magic, lauryn hill, The Squid and the Whale, Gramsci's Notebooks, intricate webbings of nature, the history of white people,pumpkin candles, Robyn, Cosmic Burritos, Howard Zinn, Da Vinci, Beckett, James Blake, Aquadrop, Archer, Bright Eyes, Arcade Fire, Neutral Milk Hotel, Thai Dumplings, Mikhail Bakunin, Poe essays, Buffalo Tom, Taco Truck or Chirba chirba, Jean Vigo, Tennessee Williams Collected Journals, Strfkr, Pynchon, blah.

Oh, I also have about a hundred really rad zines.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
-writing & storytelling by fires
-my cat Sushi. Srsly...
-live music
-food trucks
-weird friends who validate my weirdness

I forgot to add ' total destroy'
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
well, this is embarrassing...

global issues? yeah.

fml. i meant to say cats
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
back in the day I would be traveling around. nowdays I'm probably putting on an event or going to one. i'm in love with the communities i'm in, from the queer fam to the comrades to the homies.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
im probably high on the neuroticism scale some days...meh. i keep a lot of that to myself since i'm mindful.

the most unprivate thing: i've had some shit cards dealt to me in life, much of which have gotten better as i've gotten older, but i don't let things destroy my ability to love. if anything, i probably love harder because of it
You should message me if
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if you like my unintentionally awkward humor AND you have pigment, too. i especially have unparalleled love for my Afrikan and/or Indigenous and/or queer or gender-variant and/or trans ppl.