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25 Oakland, CA Woman


I’m looking for

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  • Ages 20–28
  • Near me
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My Details

Last Online
Feb 20
Black, Native American, Other
4′ 11″ (1.50m)
Body Type
Mostly anything
Virgo, and it’s fun to think about
Graduated from university
Doesn’t have kids, and doesn’t want any
Likes dogs and has cats
English (Fluently), Spanish (Okay)

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My self-summary
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Heyy. I haven't updated this profile in a while (cause I'm lazy, applying to grad schools, gardening & rather watch my cats chase lasers). But ever so often I get bored, curious and weird, and get on okc. It's almost never a good idea, but fuck it. :)

Just another transplant here. I've lived a few places over the past handful of years, but home is NC and Boston. I'd like to think I've taken the good things from those places (like the southern sweetness and soul food mixed with the boston straight-forwardness, street-smarts & actual understanding of diversity outside of binaries).

I just moved out here so I'm enjoying meeting other writers, radicals, artists and herbalists. But believe it or not, its hard to find folks who can laugh themselves to tears AND talk about serious shit like anti-blackness, settler/colonialism, border/imperialism, anti-immigrant/diaspora or anti-Asian/orientalism etc etc etc. It's even harder to find folks who have done the internal work on these issues and on how to just be a decent human being in comparison to all the external work they do (like organizing and socializing and being "down"). With that said, it would be cool to find more people who have their shit together on how to divest from oppressive/abusive behaviors AND drink a goddamn beer & talk about absolutely nothing for hours without it being awkward.

I can hang out with pretty much anyone (& unfortunately I seriously have) and still hold my ground on the types of respect/thoughtfulness I desire around race/gender/sex/culture/etc etc. I come from peoples of the African diaspora throughout Caribbean (from Puerto Rico to Bahamas) & the deep and dirty south. Also from indigenous nDns of NC (multi-ethnic Coharie folks).

I'm pretty transparent about who I am and what my lived experiences are, and can always let other people do the same. There's no need for folks to pretend to be a different person for me to like them–– to me the most substantial inner substance is from acknowledging all the many selves you are, from your past selves to your current self to the self you want to be. And I'm most drawn to folks who can mournfully/joyfully accept all that.

My biggest passion is writing. I write plays, short stories, poetry, and the works. I'm looking into MFA Prose programs but also looking into Ethnic Studies Ph.D programs (cause in both fields I would be able to write about transgenerational trauma in black and native women-identified communities/spaces). Not to mention, get money for doing the kind of work I do anyway and reallocate those funds away from institutions of privilege towards people who actually need it. If it weren't for those funds I would completely divest from academia altogether. Luckily writing is part of my sense of self and being, so I'll have it no matter where I go in life.

Other than writing, I do decolonial herbalism (the recovery and re-imagining of old ways and healing) and counseling work (for lots of identities/communities and peoples, but with a focus on blacks in the diaspora and nDn folks dealing with oppression-related trauma).
What I’m doing with my life
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* Missing my RV back in NC and the adventures I had
* tincturing herbs, writing, counseling, gardening, reading
* honoring my ancestors
* wondering where oakland's naked dance parties are at. then realizing that could be a terrible idea.
* thinking about free will existing and not existing and how terrible they both are for all the players (if i could footnote okc, I would add here Macbeth act 5 scene 5 lines 24-28)
* having 4 a.m epiphanies
* thinking about non-monogamy theory, queerness, awkwardness, awkwardness as a sexuality option on okc…
* having controversial beliefs that I am terribly unashamed of.
* pretending I live in Canada
* being with fat cats
I’m really good at
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experimentally writing.
The first things people usually notice about me
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im fucking adorably small.

sometimes I have the best afro on the block.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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This is in no particular order... just to punish that rare person that reads down this far:

Escape to Gold Mountain by Wong, Their Eyes Were Watching God by Zora Neale Hurston, Borderlands by Gloria Anzaldua, Ashanti Alston, Joe Sacco, The Beat Generation, Last Year at Marienbad, Lars Van Trier Melancholia, bell hooks, Eternal Sunshine of the Spotless Mind, Infinite Jest*, My So Called Life, Kerouac, Phantogram, Pierre-Joseph Proudhon, angela davis, andrea (andy) smith, Immortal Technique, Sushi, Daria, Dinosaur Jr, Where the Red Fern Grows, maya Angelo, this bridge called my back, Grateful Dead, Modest Mouse, sometimes Chomsky, Andrea (Andy) smith, The Velvet Underground, Animal Collective, House of Leaves, Vortex, 3D Friends, Miniature Tigers, magic, lauryn hill, The Squid and the Whale, Gramsci's Notebooks, intricate webbings of nature, the history of white people,pumpkin candles, Robyn, Cosmic Burritos, Howard Zinn, Da Vinci, Beckett, James Blake, Aquadrop, Archer, Bright Eyes, Arcade Fire, Neutral Milk Hotel, Thai Dumplings, Mikhail Bakunin, Poe essays, Buffalo Tom, Taco Truck or Chirba chirba, Jean Vigo, Tennessee Williams Collected Journals, Strfkr, Pynchon, blah.

Oh, I also have about a hundred really rad zines.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
-writing materials (a laptop just can't beat a moleskin)
-my cat Sushi. Srsly...
-live music
-food trucks
-sitting by a fire
-weird friends

I forgot to add ' total destroy'
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
well, this is embarrassing...

global issues? yeah.

fml. i meant to say cats
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
I travel a lot at the moment for work or organizing. So it depends on if I'm in the bay, down south, twin cities, NYC, or canada. Either way, I'm always out with good people.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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im probably high on the neuroticism scale some days...meh
You should message me if
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if you like my unintentionally awkward humor.

or if you have this unfathomable feeling that I wouldn't want to kill you. somewhere in between the two is fine too.