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VanDellz

24 F Chapel Hill, NC

My Details

Last Online
Today – 5:50am
Orientation
Bisexual
Ethnicity
Black, Hispanic / Latin, Other
Height
4′ 11″ (1.50m)
Body Type
Fit
Diet
Mostly vegetarian
Smokes
No
Drinks
Socially
Drugs
Never
Religion
Buddhism, but not too serious about it
Sign
Virgo, and it’s fun to think about
Education
Graduated from university
Job
Medicine
Income
Relationship Status
Single
Relationship Type
Offspring
Doesn’t have kids, and doesn’t want any
Pets
Likes dogs and has cats
Speaks
English (Fluently), Spanish (Okay)

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My self-summary
I love when people mention in their opening line that they are more than any of the words they can use to describe themselves. Somewhere in Tennessee Williams' collection of journals is a passage that I have interpreted to mean that the people who have substantial substance are those who acknowledge the various selves they have developed- whether past selves, the current self or the self we want to be- and accepts them as part of being.

Wow, that was a horrible way to summarize myself. Okay, starting over:

I was one of those people who studied English, History & Creative Writing as undergrad and enjoyed it too much. I went to UNC Chapel Hill and will currently be traveling a lot until I find the grad school I am willing to spend too much time and money at.

For the most part, I have been sucked into Chapel Thrill/Carrboro life and, at times, lose touch of reality as I bike around, go to potlucks, attend writing collectives, go to really really freemarkets after the farmers market, share conversations with men about rape culture, do community things like beer-fests or music-fests or fest-fests...

this is the place where I complain about how veganism perpetuates the notion that social responsibility is solely on the consumer while enjoying how accessible my favorite treats are. or the place I can argue that intellectualization of our passions can destroy them (as I enjoy some completely theoretical, perhaps written with a monotone voice, text). its also the place where I can find my own little piece of denial about the reality of what is going on in the world. [hence why I travel a lot to not drink the cool-aid]

This is me starting the self summary over:

I'm sarcastic and funny. And I don't take myself too seriously. And, you know, I'm more than what I could put in a summary box.

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^
perhaps I proved my sarcasm there.
What I’m doing with my life
*rv adventures
*counseling folks with trauma
*writing or scribbling in a moleskine always
*reading a new book and being excited about it
*being a space cadet
*traveling once a month
*naked dance parties
*hating the fuck out of patriarchy and racism and ableism and heteronormativity
*thinking about free will existing and not existing and how terrible they both are for all the players (if i could footnote okc, I would add here Macbeth act 5 scene 5 lines 24-28)
*working on a play or short story or 4 a.m epiphany or essay
*taking sabbaticals from romance.
*thinking about non-monogamy theory, queerness, awkwardness, awkwardness as a sexuality option on okc...
*having controversial beliefs that I am terribly unashamed of.
*pretending I live in Canada
*pretending I live in NYC
*being with cats
I’m really good at
writing.
experiments.
experimentally writing.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
This is in no particular order... just to punish that rare person that reads down this far:

Escape to Gold Mountain by Wong, Joe Sacco, The Beat Generation, Last Year at Marienbad, Lars Van Trier Melancholia, Eternal Sunshine of the Spotless Mind, Infinite Jest*, My So Called Life, Kerouac, Phantogram, Pierre-Joseph Proudhon, Sushi, Daria, Dinosaur Jr, Where the Red Fern Grows, Grateful Dead, Modest Mouse, all Chomsky, The Shock Doctrine, The Velvet Underground, Animal Collective, House of Leaves, Vortex, 3D Friends, Miniature Tigers, magic, The Squid and the Whale, Gramsci's Notebooks, intricate webbings of nature, the history of white people,pumpkin candles, Robyn, Cosmic Burritos, Howard Zinn, Da Vinci, Beckett, James Blake, Aquadrop, Archer, Bright Eyes, Arcade Fire, Neutral Milk Hotel, Thai Dumplings, Mikhail Bakunin, Poe essays, Buffalo Tom, Taco Truck or Chirba chirba, Jean Vigo, Tennessee Williams Collected Journals, Strfkr, Pynchon, blah.

Oh, I also have about a hundred really rad zines.
The six things I could never do without
-writing materials (a laptop just can't beat a moleskin)
-my cat Sushi. Srsly...
-live music
-food trucks
-sitting by a fire
-weird friends

I forgot to add ' total destroy'
I spend a lot of time thinking about
well, this is embarrassing...

global issues? yeah.

fml. i meant to say cats
On a typical Friday night I am
Ideally-
not dancing. not on a table. not having fun.

Worst case-
At a show where the first band is just as good as the rest. or at a bar that has both cheap and good beer (start with one, end with the other). or discovering new places with people who can have endless conversations.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
im probably high on the neuroticism scale some days...meh
I’m looking for
  • Everybody
  • Ages 20–28
  • Near me
  • For new friends
You should message me if
you read a lot. I've found that those are the people that I like the most.

Or if you like my unintentionally awkward humor.