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25 Oakland, CA Woman


I’m looking for

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  • Ages 24–35
  • Near me
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating

My details

Last online
May 3
Black, Native American, Other
4′ 11″ (1.50m)
Body type
Mostly anything
Virgo, and it’s fun to think about
Graduated from university
Doesn’t have kids, and doesn’t want any
Likes dogs and has cats
English (Fluently), Spanish (Okay)

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My self-summary
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My life right now is a lot of writing (short stories, plays, novels, in that order). I'm about to be that awkward grad student who is getting an MFA for reasons really different than other students (I don't want to teach & I don't need to publish, I just want to revitalize more ancestral storytelling in Black/Indigenous communities).

I'm spending a lot of time imagining, writing, laughing, crying over ideas of decolonization as a real praxis (and not solely theorizing it). And recently I'm having a lot of thoughts and actions of liberating land for the people.
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
*working on healing clinics, transformative justice work, liberating land for Afrikans, plotting indigenous takeovers, queering up spaces...
*Missing my RV back in NC and the adventures I had
* tincturing herbs, writing, counseling, gardening, reading
* honoring my ancestors
* wondering where oakland's naked dance parties are at. then realizing that could be a terrible idea.
* thinking about free will existing and not existing and how terrible they both are for all the players (if i could footnote okc, I would add here Macbeth act 5 scene 5 lines 24-28)
* having 4 a.m epiphanies and writing at least 2/3rds of it down
* thinking about non-monogamy theory, queerness, awkwardness, awkwardness as a sexuality
* having "controversial" beliefs that I am always terribly unashamed of
* being with fat cats that think their beds are my bed
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
experimentally writing.
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
im fucking adorably small.

sometimes I have the best afro on the block.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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This is in no particular order... just to punish that rare person that reads down this far:

Escape to Gold Mountain by Wong, Their Eyes Were Watching God by Zora Neale Hurston, Borderlands by Gloria Anzaldua, Ashanti Alston, Joe Sacco, The Beat Generation, Last Year at Marienbad, Lars Van Trier Melancholia, bell hooks, Eternal Sunshine of the Spotless Mind, Infinite Jest*, My So Called Life, Kerouac, Phantogram, Pierre-Joseph Proudhon, angela davis, andrea (andy) smith, Immortal Technique, Sushi, Daria, Dinosaur Jr, Where the Red Fern Grows, maya Angelo, this bridge called my back, Grateful Dead, Modest Mouse, sometimes Chomsky, Andrea (Andy) smith, The Velvet Underground, Animal Collective, House of Leaves, Vortex, 3D Friends, Miniature Tigers, magic, lauryn hill, The Squid and the Whale, Gramsci's Notebooks, intricate webbings of nature, the history of white people,pumpkin candles, Robyn, Cosmic Burritos, Howard Zinn, Da Vinci, Beckett, James Blake, Aquadrop, Archer, Bright Eyes, Arcade Fire, Neutral Milk Hotel, Thai Dumplings, Mikhail Bakunin, Poe essays, Buffalo Tom, Taco Truck or Chirba chirba, Jean Vigo, Tennessee Williams Collected Journals, Strfkr, Pynchon, blah.

Oh, I also have about a hundred really rad zines.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
-writing & storytelling by fires
-my cat Sushi. Srsly...
-live music
-food trucks
-weird friends who validate my weirdness

I forgot to add ' total destroy'
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
well, this is embarrassing...

global issues? yeah.

fml. i meant to say cats
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
back in the day I would be traveling around. nowdays I'm probably putting on an event or going to one.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
im probably high on the neuroticism scale some days...meh

I'm always busy with personal or community projects, but somehow pull that off.
You should message me if
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if you like my unintentionally awkward humor.

or if you have this unfathomable feeling that I wouldn't want to kill you. somewhere in between the two is fine too.