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28 Santa Cruz, CA Man


I’m looking for

  • Women
  • Ages 23–33
  • Near me
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating

My Details

Last Online
Dec 15
6′ 0″ (1.83m)
Body Type
Mostly anything
Aquarius, and it’s fun to think about
Graduated from university
Relationship Status
Open relationship
Relationship Type
Mostly non-monogamous
Doesn’t have kids
Likes dogs and likes cats

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My self-summary
Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
Update 10/31: Please look at my "Should Message me if"

Perception is a funny thing...

On the surface: I appear to be logical and straight laced.
Underneath: I am someone who plays with chaos gleefully.

I lead a life with few rules, but several understood guidelines. I love spontaneous, and yes, even reckless abandonment.

I'm a nice guy, but don't let that fool you. My aggressive, confident and competitive side is always with me. Life should be a balance between structure and chaos. I'm just here to try walking that line.

I'm silly and playful with an extra helping of sarcastic snark. Want to trade movie/show quotes? I'm your guy. Want to have a tickle wrestling match? I'm so game. Want to talk about ridiculous things until our brains hurt from the sheer absurdity of it, or we laugh so hard we cry? I'll be there comatose or crying. Want to go to an electronic/metal/punk concert? Fuck yeah!

There are times in life that call for serious respect, and there are times in life that call for absurd goofiness. We should live all of these moments to the fullest.

Looking for people I can be active with: Sparring (kick boxing, jiu jitsu), hiking, kayaking and more. ;)

Looking for people I can be intellectually stimulated: Talking theory behind movies or music. Playing a game of chess, scrabble, or whatever.

If you made it this far... Know this. I'm here to have fun and if that fun includes you, that would be awesome.

Just so we are clear. I am Polymorous. This does not mean that I am cheating on my girlfriend. I am looking for friends, casual dates and hopefully more. It would be awesome to find the mythical Unicorn but I am also here for dating independent of my other partner.
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
The majority of my time goes to being an engaged leader at my work and my home - roles that I didn't really ask for, but that
have been handed to me. I do my best to improve the way things are done and make sure we meet as many needs as we can.

I'm also working on an independent film with some friends, and trying to get back into a good fitness routine.
My long-term goal is to be connected with the right people to be
involved in editing work for movie trailers.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Listening and helping people process their thoughts and experiences. Being generally comfy :) Being down to go on adventures. Video games, board games, (wholesome) people games - I like puzzles and things requiring critical thought, it feels good to stretch and exercise those parts of me.
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
If you're in front of me: My unruly, wants-to-be-touched hair.
If you're behind me: My shapely ass and determined stride.

...or my sheer ability to make all situations a dirty sex joke or my dorky sene of humor.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Help your potential matches find common interests.
How can one really pick their favorite of anything? There are way too many good books, movies, or songs/artists to isolate the best from. I will try my best to comply for "You" the viewer, the stalker, the interested party that may have a surface level appreciation of the profile I am presenting to an online meeting/dating/hookup site.

Books: Raymond E. Feist, Eric Nylund, Tolkien, Laura K. Hamilton, and KA Applegate (Props if you know what books). Also, Scary Stories To Tell in the Dark Series. If its horror, sci-fi, or fantasy than that is something I'm more likely to read.

Music: I can quite literally listen to music for an entire day. I Grew up listening to classic rock and oldies. Everything from AC/DC & Led Zepplin to The Beatles and The Rolling Stones. But to summerize, I have an eclectic mix of music that I listen to daily. I am in love with Industrial and anything that can catch me with rhythmic beat and a strong base/drum line to it. I can pretty much listen to all forms of rock (alternative, hard, punk, psychobilly & etc.), metal (too many to subcategorize), and Classical. About the only genre of music I prefer not to listen to is Country. Trust me, I can talk music for days.

Some bands: Combichrist, Assemblage 23, NIN, ACDC, ORGY, AFI, Thrice, Avenged Sevenfold, Beethoven, Red Hot Chili Peppers, Thrice, Three Days Grace, Rob Zombie, Beats Antique, Linkin Park, Anti-Flag, Queens of the Stone Age, Rise Against, Queen and many more. I think that shows a little bit of the style I fall into, but this is only a snippet of the music I listen to. I am really getting into industrial/EBM lately.

Movies: Cabin in the Woods, Dark City, The Truman Show, The Underworld series, The Matrix, Hot Fuzz, Dodgeball, Beetlejuice, Ink, An American Werewolf in London. But I love all genres. I have more of a tolerance for movies than most I would say. Comedy, horror, sci-fi, action, drama, suspense, foreign, or whatever... lets watch, im down. Movies are my passion.

Shows: It is far easier for me to just put on a movie than to watch a series. There are several shows I like, but I am not commited to watching them all that often. Walking Dead, Robot Chicken, Are You Afraid of the Dark (back in the day), American Horror Story and of course Firefly. Dislike reality tv shows, with the only exception being certain performance artists shows that occasionally pop up.

Food: Too many choices. How about some random ones. I love milkshakes but dislike sushi. Prefer sweet things to sour things. I do not prefer spicy but I am not outright against eating it. I eat meat, but I don't have to eat it for every meal. I am allergic to beans (random I know, I'm sure you have questions).
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
Love, milk, friendship, blankets, music, and fun.

Side Note: For each of these categories, where it says "fill me out, all I can think is "Oh I'll fill you in."

And just so you know... Sex can either fit in the "Love" category or the "fun" category. Just depends. Actually, I'm sure it fits in all the categories.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
-Plans for going to burning man this year. (FIRST TIME BURNER HERE)
EDIT: Burning Man was amazing. Principles I wish the world took more seriously. Not sure if I can make it back next year, but If I can, I will. Either way, I'm going to be back.
-Ways to get healthier and improve my overall well being.
-How every song I listen to can be used to create a movie trailer for something.
-How I wish I was creating movie trailers or editing movies.
-Whether or not the messages I sent ever get read or are just dismissed because the majority of cis-gendered males are completely inept, misogynistic and/or dicks to most female or gender-fluid creatures on here. And have harassed or bombarded individuals to a point of feeling hopeless and angry.
-How Fucked up America is
-Why I haven't been to a concert/gig in a long ass time. *Note to self, GO TO A SHOW
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Gaming, parties, dancing (salsa) or hell just staying home and watching movies while having a few drinks with friends works just fine with me. I like to change it up as frequently as I can. You might see me at the bars or at some random event. The way I see it, Friday night you can just let loose and run wild. Anything from new to old, I'm game.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
I can go in so many directions with this one. I'm embarressed about my teeth, im super aggressive in the bedroom, the ocean is one of several places I go to find peace and I still play Magic The Gathering.
You should message me if
Offer a few tips to help matches win you over.
Updated: 10/31/2014

An obligatory list... YAY:
1) You hear a voice calling... "Come to the dark side."
2) You Want to go to a EBM/EDM/industrial show.
3) You want to go on a hike.
4) You want a funny response.
5) You want to hangout and talk about why Prometheus was a terrible movie. ...Or talk about movies in general.
6) You want to indulge in watching Horror movies til the crack of dawn.
7) You want to know how Polyamory works.
8) You know what Polyamory is and don't mind casually pursuing a creature (me) with said interests.
9) You are interested in a casual, yet non-stop action movie relationship. Minus the sexist remarks...
10) You viewed my partner's profile and would like to co-date the two of us. :D.
11) You want to play video games with me *Bats eyes
12) You have a stray thought that wants to wonder onto a message to me.

Okay, serious time. I am on here to look at meeting new people to connect with. Friends, partners, & lovers, oh my.

Be aware that I have a live in partner inimitablemumbl who is very much a part of my life. Please take a look at their profile :D.