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29 Portland, OR Genderfluid, Transfeminine

Genderfluid, Transfeminine

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I’m looking for

  • Everyone
  • Ages 22–35
  • Near me
  • For new friends, short-term dating, casual sex

My details

Last online
Oct 4
Open relationship
Relationship Type
Mostly non-monogamous
6' 1" (1.85m)
Body Type
Atheism and laughing about it
Dropped out of University
Doesn’t want kids
English (Fluently), Spanish (Somewhat), Esperanto (Somewhat), German (Somewhat)
My self-summary
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I'm a queer femme vegan anarchist interested in anti-oppression theory and praxis. I'm generally a pretty light-hearted "twee" person, but can enjoy indulging a gallows humor sometimes.

It should go without saying, but unfortunately doesn't, that bisexual is a really flawed shorthand for how I experience gender and sexuality. While I know these things are different for different people, I experience gender as something fluid and dynamic enough that my identity, as well as the identities I'm attracted to fluctuate rapidly, and simultaneously encapsulate masculinity, femininity, both and neither. As such I find it is rare (though not unheard of) that I'd be happy in a relationship with a straight female or a gay male, as such a person would necessarily have to ignore part of my gender experience.

I've spent the last year working in the woods at a hot springs resort. Using the relaxation and alone time to do some necessary self-growth work, and now I'm moving back to Portland. Not sure what I'm going to do there, but it feels like the right place to be right now.

I'm interested in hanging out with the kinds of people I can have stimulating, engaging conversations about opinions, feelings, and where those two meet. Preferably not people I agree with on absolutely everything, but absolutely not those with fucked up oppressive views. You know who you are.

I also want to be totally up-front about the fact that I'm not looking for anything monogamous or even primary-partnery right now. This isn't forever, but right now I'm having fun, meeting new people, and being chill about it, and I wouldn't feel alright being somebody's main squeeze until a few things are different in my life.
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
Spending my time thinking and reading. Using the solitude I currently inhabit to better get to know myself.

I've also been trying to teach myself things, for instance modern greek, vegan baking, and postmodernism. I've also been getting really into fitness, though I'm not a jock at all. If any of those sound interesting to you we should work on them together, or if you have projects which could use a project buddy, let's work on them together. Self-improvement forever!
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
I'm good at making people laugh. I'm one of those rare people who is good at baking and cooking.
The first things people usually notice about me
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Facial piercings, asymmetrical haircut, goofy smile.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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My Goodreads, for those nerdy enough to care
But basically, LOVE existential fiction (Kafka, Camus...), Critical Theory (esp gender theory but including others), love me some Vonnegut, definitely enjoy Palaniuk from time to time, and a smattering of young-adult fiction. I also enjoy just keeping an eye on what's trending and reading that. I thought the hunger games trilogy was fantastic.

-Movies (& tv)-
The Spook Who Sat By The Door | V for Vendetta | Super Troopers (I know it's dumb) | Cosmos (carl sagan is my old-man boyfriend)| Little Ashes | I (heart) Huckabees | Daria | The Simpsons | Plympton Films | Hard Candy | Almost any Ghibli Film | Twin Peaks

My Last.FM

I'll trust what it tells me I listen to and say I really like The Mountain Goats, Kanye West, Drake, Frank Ocean, Ani DiFranco (guilty pleasure from a youth as a second waver), Lil Wayne, Crass, Elliott Smith, RVIVR, 1905, Paul Baribeau, Poison Girls, Aaliyah, Spoonboy and Mirah.

I'm pretty open musically tho.

Vegan carb-crunch. I like pizza, pasta, sandwiches, sushi, and toast. I also love sweets. A vegan Tofurky frozen pizza brighten up even my worst day.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
1. Email

2. Vegan sweets! Delicious.

3. Good friends.

4. Books

5. Tofu

6. Political Theory
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
Anarchism. Seriously, I think about it more waking hours than not. Also I think about making the most of each day.

Also mental health and it's intersection with the former. How can we become more whole human beings, capable of loving each other and not trying to possess each other.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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Anything actually private I'm not going to put here, so I'm instead going to re-appropriate this box for a list of knuckle tattoos i've considered getting:

Love 2Eat
Eat2 Live
Fem- Punx
Luv2 Talk
Fuck Poop
Shit Fuck
Word Punx
More Tofu
Vege Thai
You should message me if
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You should message me if...

You wanna be activity buddies, of either the kissy or nonkissy type. I like learning new things. I'm currently super-psyched about knitting and learning modern greek for instance. If you're into those things or wanna find new neat projects, you should message me.

you like cute date-times with picnic baskets, awkward movies, and other such foolishness.

you are ok with the fact that I'm a pretty outgoing person, but can be really shy in 1-on-1 hangouts with strangers. It could take a few hangouts before I really come out of my shell.

Okcupid needs a "You should not message me if" question. So i'm adding it here, and here you go:

You should not message me if you know specifically what sexual act you want to to on/at/with/toward/in me. I'm just not that kind of faggot.