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39 Oakland, CA Transmasculine, Genderfluid, Non-binary, Androgynous

Transmasculine, Genderfluid, Non-binary, Androgynous

I’m looking for

  • Everyone
  • Ages 35–75
  • Near me
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating

My details

Last online
Yesterday – 8:19pm
5′ 3″ (1.60m)
Body type
Mostly anything
Not at all
Judaism, and laughing about it
Taurus, and it’s fun to think about
Graduated from masters program
Art / Music / Writing
Rather not say
Seeing Someone
Mostly non-monogamous
Has dogs and has cats
English (Fluently), Spanish (Okay), French (Poorly), Hebrew (Poorly)

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My self-summary
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Let's see, I think I can best describe myself as part pixie and part sensual intellectual. I am on the prowl for a little fun, adventure and romance.

I'm dating and should a primary lover or partner waltz, strut, saunter, or otherwise ambulate into my life, I'd be delighted.

I tend to be a bit of a wistful romantic, with a poet's sensibilities and a scientist's eye. Luckily my gentler tendencies are tempered by a fondness for pragmatism, a healthy amount of the cerebral and good sense. I am a boyish somewhat androgynous FTM who savors having a foot in both worlds and what the liminal makes possible. I prize empathy, honesty, a commitment to justice, the splendor of the natural world and the mystery of existence.
What I’m doing with my life
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By craft I am a poet and a playwright. I am currently working on a play. I really enjoy live music, theater, hiking, yoga, writing (of course), reading, eating good food, long sensual sessions and introspective discussions and ramblings. I have eclectic interests and have a pretty incurable zeal for knowledge. I have my Masters in Ecology and I am also a Reiki practitioner and Somatic therapist. Neuroscience is my geeky hobby, especially interpersonal neurobiology and eco-systemic change paradigms. Systems or game theory anyone? Yeah, I am a major geek, but a super foxy one! Of course, I also enjoy sci-fi and fantasy. Recently I've been really into going to the symphony and opera, I know it may make me seem old skool or worse snobby, but a gentleman likes what he likes!
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
* Experiencing & Expressing Empathy
*Deeply appreciating beauty, splendor & vulnerability
*Intuitively understanding others
*I'm a great tease & the most honey-tongued pillow talker you will ever have the pleasure to meet! (This is why you should all take a poet to bed)
*I am witty, funny & can hold my own in any conversation-I am a generalist specialist and know a little about many things
*Cerebral, yet emotionally intelligent
*On a good day, I am wise beyond my years & wise enough to know I still have much to learn
*Remembering details that everyone else forgets (like you Aunt Rosie had a broken leg when we last spent time together, how is she?)
The first things people usually notice about me
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My smile, my warm, open demeanor, my hands
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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A few of my favorite things, aye.... Well, I am an incurable enthusiast so I often find new(or new to me) music, authors or poets to get hung about. Here are some currents:
Music: Rachmaninoff, Tchaikovsky, Dresden Dolls, Chopin, Mozart, Daft Punk, Yeah Yeah Yeahs (oh, how I love Karen Oh), 80's new wave, Muse (yes, me & the Tweeners), Jack White, Broken Bells, Andrew Bird, Tom Waits, Jolie Holland, Stan Getz, oh I could go on & on....

Authors/ Poets: Neruda, Rilke, TS Elliot, Tennessee Williams, Emily Dickinson, Lorca, Junot Diaz, Mary Oliver, Elizabeth Bishop, Ursula Le Quinn, Octavia Butler, George RR Martin, Dostoevsky, George Saunders

Film/ TV: Lilies (John Greyson), Sammy & Rosie Get Laid (by same author as My Beautiful Laundrette which I also like but not as much), The Wire, Sopranos, Six Feet Under, True Blood (queer soft core vampire porn, I am All over it!), The Cook, The Thief, His Wife and His Lover, Almodovar (especially early), Woody Allen (especially early), Harold & Maude, The Baghdad Cafe, Serenity, Firefly, Monty Python, Kids in the Hall, 30 Rock, Nurse Jackie
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
Beauty (and appreciation of)
The lessons of my ancestors
My cultural identity as a Jew
Sensuality and the pleasures of life in a human body
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
My plays & creating in general. I have a reading of my newest play Chokehold on November 17th at Impact Theatre!! Check it out!
transformation on the micro/ macro levels--what catalyzes it & sustains it
the nature of love
the neurobiology of subjectification (points if you know what the hell I'm talking about :) )
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
sometimes seeing a performance or play or having dinner with friends. I just moved into a great new house and it is perfect for dinner parties. I love cooking, so I am looking forward to lots of these & becoming the best host since Martha Stewart (if Martha Stewart were trans, as nellie as the day is long & Jewish!)
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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There are few questions I won't answer, you've but to ask.
You should message me if
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You'd like a lover that won't drive you crazy (perchance a bit crazy, but in the best possible of ways)
You like a bit (or a lot) of kink
You value true connection & affection
You are an artist, writer or musician who likes to connect with other artists, writers, creative types for inspiration, creative support, or collaboration
You like long sensual sessions
You're interested in helping a novice plant some roses
You know how to run a hot tub chemical free (you'll get use of my hot tube in exchange should this interest you!)
I've intrigued you & you think we'd get along