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41 M Berkeley, CA

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5′ 10″ (1.78m)
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Graduated from university
Relationship Status
Relationship Type
Doesn’t have kids
Likes dogs and likes cats

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My self-summary
Do you ever get the feeling we're just a couple of human needles looking for each other in a ginormous haystack of online dating profiles?

If we like each other, we don't act elusive or play 'hard to get'. We believe in calmly discussing, not arguing. We're apologetic & forgiving. We love closeness, intimacy, & cuddling (yes, I'm a hetero swm who really does like cuddling :-)

Friends, acquaintances, & clients say beautiful things about my personality, intellect, insights, & sense of humor - I just try to be the best me that I can be.

I'm looking for the 'real thing', not just hookups. And the 'real thing' is much more difficult to find, which is why I'm here - I hope you're here for the same reason.

I enjoy my job & make more than enough to comfortably support myself. I love playing tennis. I also love romance, passion, and spoiling (& being spoiled by) you. I like subtle, cerebral, sarcastic, quick-witted, observational humor. I'm a good listener & enjoy easy, open communication.

I'm an INFP personality type (click the link - it's nice having something so special in common with someone as cool as Johnny Depp). Unconventional, talented, kind, confident, & humble.

I'm a simple (in a nicely complex sort of way), monogamous good guy who's not intimidated by anyone, and who always stands up for myself, for you, & for others (including animals). Brainy, fit, & strong - and if you appreciate my sense of humor, I love making you laugh!

And you? Cute, communicative, sweet, sincere, & monogamous, with a good sense of humor & some emotional maturity - you know how to be silly & serious. Your personality is more important than your physical appearance - you're not arrogant, loud, angry, critical, or a 'princess'.

Ideally we'd meet by accidentally bumping into each other at a grocery store, spilling our items, helping each other pick them up, & feeling a mutual connection with chemistry - maybe we can do something similar here - got groceries?

I don't mind if you have baggage (I think everyone has enough to fill an airport luggage carousel) - just be totally open to sharing your feelings & emotions. Chemistry & patience are essential for both of us, and we're always positive, appreciative, supportive, & encouraging with each other. ♥
What I’m doing with my life
I'm an independent computer consultant, training hundreds of clients all around the Bay Area in personal computers (Mac & PC), mobile devices (iOS & Android phones & tablets), Wi-Fi, the Internet & cloud computing, search engine optimization & search engine marketing (SEO / SEM), and more. I enjoy being able to help so many people, and our interactions are more personal than typical business relationships. (Here and here are links to my business websites, and here's a link to my Yelp business listing if you'd like to know more about me and what I do (be sure to read Yelp's 'filtered' reviews too).

For outdoor exercise & fitness, my favorites are tennis & running - perhaps we can introduce each other to some fun things we can enjoy together.

And - like most of us - I'm usually trying to make the world a better place in whatever ways I can.
I’m really good at
- being a loyal, supportive, encouraging, reliable friend
- listening and helping
- teaching gently with patience
- making people laugh without causing spontaneous combustion
The first things people usually notice about me
that i like to compliment things i notice about them
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
- books: i'm not exactly a 'typical' reader - i research things i want/need to know for myself and others, identifying the substance, skipping the filler, and extrapolating - my interests include medicine, nutrition, fitness, law, technology, and more

- movies: i tend to prefer well-written, well-produced, & well-acted drama and suspense - i especially appreciate a really good premise - faves include 'three days of the condor', 'the fugitive', & 'secret window'

- shows: not a big tv watcher - mostly reruns of seinfeld & columbo (the two best tv shows ever!), some sports, and an occasional movie

- music: most anything reasonably contemporary that's easy on the ears - yes to a nice melody combined with good lyrics and a beautiful performance, totally no to rap & hip hop - fave singers include gloria estefan, celine dion, & josh groban

- food: high protein, low carbs - wild red salmon, fruits (esp. bananas & berries), veggies (esp. dark leafy greens & tomatoes), milk, eggs, & other dairy, cinnamon, spicy foods, and most things that are nutritious, delicious, & lightweight
The six things I could never do without
(i don't believe in 'never do without' - i believe in 'forever do with')
- health
- love
- miracles
- kindness
- friendship
- communication
- intimacy
- patience
- forgiveness
- humor
- exercise
- happiness
- and infinitely more
I spend a lot of time thinking about
seemingly everything (possibly even more)
On a typical Friday night I am
usually working with clients, having dinner with friends, listenig to live music, or working/relaxing/other at home
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
just between me, you, & the seven billion other people on the internet?
I’m looking for
  • Straight girls only
  • Ages 30–45
  • Near me
  • Who are single
  • For long-term dating, short-term dating
You should message me if
you think we're a good match...

...and... want to talk on the phone & meet for something simple where we can relax & get to know each other a bit...

...and... desire a lasting, passionate, monogamous relationship with a good guy ♥