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VestaMorgan

24 F Genoa, IL

My Details

Last Online
Mar 11, 2013
Orientation
Straight
Ethnicity
White
Height
5′ 5″ (1.65m)
Body Type
Average
Diet
Anything
Smokes
No
Drinks
Socially
Drugs
Never
Religion
Christianity, and somewhat serious about it
Sign
Leo, and it’s fun to think about
Education
Working on university
Job
Medicine
Income
Less than $20,000
Relationship Status
Seeing Someone
Relationship Type
Offspring
Doesn’t have kids, but wants them
Pets
Likes dogs and likes cats
Speaks
English

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My self-summary
Hmmmm... these r always difficult to fill out, but ill do my best! :D

….I love to have fun. Always up for something new – but I'm shy and fairly timid; but more than happy to be pushed beyond my limits, with a little extra encouragement ;) , or a lot, lol.
....I love to just hang out, I enjoy being in the company of people I care about; as friends, as family, or someone special.
….I go for board games over video games any day but like both, and I like card games. I love going outdoors and doing whatever I can outside, just to enjoy the fresh air and the sunshine, or rain ^-^ .
I'm actually a very big fan of the rain, it's my favorite weather. I’m more inclined to suddenly desire to go outside for a walk in the rain than during a sunny day :P , but I love both!
I'm really wanting to go rock climbing (I haven't done it before, but I like this sort of stuff) and to make it a permanent activity in my life, as well as kayaking and other fun & (slightly?) risky but very active outdoor activities; so if your into those sort of things, please message me! :D We could have a lot of fun, and I could do with your expertise ;) .

….I love the night time, I’m a night owl. But I do love the morning sunshine and nothing makes me feel quite like how the beautiful orange-ish sunshine does at around 7:45am. :P I love sunrises & sunsets, and am happy to watch them over a meal or a romantic conversation or cuddling session ;) .
….I love hanging out with people, being a part of a group. But I'm suuuuper uuber shy, and I'm the kind of girl who clings to someone's arm and kinda hides in his arms in a social setting.
….I also am very into science, especially biology and animals; I’m a documentary watcher and read Science magazines! Whenever I get a chance :) . Love animals, prehistory, and ancient cultures like the Mayans, Aztecs, and Egyptians, as well as the older histories of Native Americans and other peoples, and the stories of their cultures.
.... As for TV, I love nature documentaries related to the stuff I listed above, and also anime (Bleach, Naruo, Spice & Wolf, Deamon King...), and love SciFi & Fantasy! LOTR, Transformers, & the Avengers were awsome! :D There's more listed elsewhere in my profile, under "Intetests" or something like that :p .
....I'm a reader, writer, and TV watcher, but I will take a walk over almost any of those things any day, if I have someone great to do it with! Could go to the 7-11 for smoothies and back ^-^ .
….I do have some disabilities, so if your going to say hi, be sure that you can handle that; gentleness, kindness, compassion, an an ability to be very very empathetic, and being able to be intuitive, are some things that go a VERY long way with me; and the converse is true, too – if you don't have those characteristics as a part of your nature, we won't get along, promise.
….Don't hate on the smileys! :D :p lol.
….Ohh! Im a hugger! You've been warned! :P Lol. But, if that's not your thing, fair enough ^-^ .

On some less happy notes;
….I should say that I do have memory problems, so please don't take offense if I ask a question I've already asked, and if i do it a lot or ask the same thing repeatedly. I promise it has no bearing on how interesting the conversation was, because it happens to all conversations and memories I have, its just a memory problem. - I've (temporarily) forgotten the names of people I knew for years, saw everyday... e_e , I promise, it's not you.
….If we have a good time and we share numbers, I'm really not very big on talking on the phone – I'm a heavy texter, but talking on the phone makes me kinda nervous and stressed. So don't be surprised if I turn down a phone call. But I'm usually up for meeting in person! If calling is imp. to you, I understand, just know that the conversation won't reflect my best.
….I spend a lot of my time de-stressing for my heath, which is nearly always taken for extreme laziness. I'm a person who loves to be active, and when I have more people to have more fun with and to share life and happiness with, my energy will increase quite a bit with the added positive energy; but I do and will still need my recuperation time, so, anyone getting to know me should be aware of this. It's important that this is understood and respected; if you can't do that, then don't bother messaging me, cause we really won't get along – I'll respect Ur health, so U respect mine, too.

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….As far as my interests go and what I'm doing with myself, well... I had to think about it a while and I came up with some of these these answers while talking with friends ^-^ :
….I started in a rough place. I've had a lot happen, but I've always been looking up and the glass has been half full for me for most of my life. I'm on the up, but there are things I still struggle with, socializing being one of those things, but I promise I won't bite, I'm just pretty shy and I've been told I'm pretty unique, though I'm not really sure how o_o , lol.
…. Currently, work tends to take up a significant amount of my time, I tenwork somewhere between 80 and 120 hours, usually around 88 to 92 or 96; most 2nd shifts, and I've put my hands-on activities on hold so I can make some extra money and still have some freetime ^-^ .
Before, with having been in college (horrible GPA English Major, here!), dealing with some life difficulties at the time, and not knowing anyone in the area, I didn't really get out too much. I just watched Netflix, did hw, and spent time doing something with my hands like knitting or some sort of construction of something (usually while watching tv) with paper... yesssthat's 3-D hollow per statues, or writing my books that I'm working on (I'm not published).
Now I get out more, but I still don't do nearly as much as I'd like to. Work and life keep me busy, but I'm always doing all I can to squeeze out some fun time! And I'm still working on those physical activities, like rock climbing!
.....I'm hoping to find some nice people to hang out with ^-^ - some people out for a good time who also know how to chill; I love cooky and “normal” people alike – so feel free to message me whichever U think U are! :P . I'm on here to change the few-friends and not get-out-much stuff, :) , and to find a great guy ^-^ .
….I was recently going to college, but have since left school for my health and also because of the damage to my grades that my health was causing. I'm going to go back later and finish what I started (since I'm maybe 1 year away from finishing, so I mind as well, though my GPA is absolutely horrid) and then start over again with something new – I'm thinking of following my love and going to a vocational school where I can learn how to work best with large zoo animals – my dream job is working with tigers in a zoo or similar place of living – no, not jumping through hoops at a circus; but I wouldn't mind doing that at a safari – there they've been rescued and might be bread to further the gene-pool, if their breeding “quality” can be verified and there are funds – either way, its a good life for them, when they can't be re-rehabilitated to be released in their natural habitat (too late to learn or not enough habitat available).
I just love working with animals, and I love the big wild ones - they too, need compassion and love, even if they don't exactly return it. This is a big world, and they are a part of it; we all have to live here, so we mind as well take care of what we have left, and try to make this world a better place. And, for me, these animals, I can do it and would love to help them out. One step at a time, right? ;)
….As for hanging out, I'd like to go to bars, but I'm more interested in hanging out/chilling in small groups at someone's house or somewhere relaxed, with or without beers/wine/whatever (won't do drugs though, sorry.), and just relax, doing beer pong, talking about life, playing cards, board games, I'll watch Karaoke [you'll fall over dead if i try to sing, trust me], you know - just something fun... it doesn't have to be these things or anything kiddish its just that I don't have enough experience to list anything else better :) . I'd love to play darts and pool... both take hand-eye coordination, something I like to work on as a skill, it has a certain thrill too it, but I am terrible at the games and with my aim – but I'm a very fast learner with the right teacher or a lot of practice ^-^ .
....Feel free to show me the ropes or to enlighten me to new games and stuff to do! I'm ALWAYS up for something new! Just ask! I love to have a good time, and I am always up for trying something new, life's boring if you don't. But, I love to just hang out and relax with people, too.
….I love the outdoors, especially at night - and I know tag and hide and seek tag at night are very fun... I don't care if they're kid games, they get the blood rushing, lol - and i still think night time foot ball would be good too ;) , if you've got decent natural night vision, especially in the rain! (picture a slow-mo. take as someone's foot hits some extra-slippery mud :P … and everyone will smell like wet-dog, so no worries about sweating up a storm! And there's more to it than all that, lol.). And if your playing hide and seek tag, there are some pretty interesting places to hide ;) when it's dark out. Its also sooo easy to get tangled up with someone or a tree/bush while your running or hiding and get all panicky as whoever's "it" comes after you and you can't get away :p , lol. We played that at my high school.. the Rangers group [military high school; Rangers are a very very VERY muted version of Raiders] did it once while I was in training with them (no, I didn't pass, I couldn't do the crunches), and then a lot of kids in the whole high school did it another time too ^-^ - the school had about 120 kids at any one time, grades 5-12, most (80ish) in high school – only those who were grounded (F-conduct) couldn't come out, we had 95% of the people out on freetime playing it, it was hilarious!
….Moving on from my high school...I love nature and being out in nature, especially at night, and I love animals too :) . I'm a hand's on person, so I'd take rock climbing over an intriguing mature debate of something, but I really enjoy debating stuff too - I'm kinda a natural at debating (no promises for accuracy, though, even though I have all intentions of being accurate).
....I love intellectual conversation, talking about our lives between my friends and I, and simple easy conversation too :) , and any news of the day. Way too much "intellectual" conversation makes for headaches ^-^ , but none at all kinda leaves me starved for something, if that makes sense? Same with the news :p .
….I just love to get out and have fun, lol ^-^ ......And, back to nature, I really like the woods (bug spray!!), at night or during the day, but a walk in the town or a hangout in someone's backyard is wonderful too, and I nearly always prefer nighttime to daytime, but I love both. Sunny days make me sleepy, so when I'm up for a good time I go for the nighttime funtime :) - to me, the best is to start around 2pm, watch the sun go down and wake up from our relaxed stupor for a night of fun after everyone spent the evening settling in – and then everyone goes to bed at 5am! :P Or not at all.
I'm big on camping out in the woods around a big campfire – I'd go for whiskey mixed with a coke and s'mores, if your into that kinda thing; but name something fun and new and I'll try it! No drugs, seriously. But anything else, name it ;) !
….I really want to find people to do physically active outdoors stuff with, namely, biking, rock climbing and proper hiking. No, I haven't done either of the last two before , but I've been itching to since I was 10 or younger - I love using my body and feeling all the muscles work! And working up a decent sweat is healthy :) and leaves you feeling goooood ^-^ . And I love being out in nature just as much.
….I just love to talk and be active with new people [adventure!], and I love it even more with really good friends [excitement!].
….I crave new experiences, anything, really anything. Even if I'm scared out of my mind I'll do them, if I trust who I'm with ^-^ , it's so thrilling that way. And if I won't do it but you KNOW I trust you, then just push me, lol; I'll respect you for it, and trust you more, afterall what are friends for ^-^ if not to be there and help one-another? And, if you know me that well then the experience was worth it, and all the more fun from that extra kick of the push ;) . If U're not sure if I trust you... well, I wouldn't be in that spot with you if I didn't, now would I?
….I'd love to go watch some horse and car races and demolition derbies with someone sometime, so if anyone's up for it, say hi! ;) And I've never seen a greyhound race, but I'd be interested!

On some less happy notes;
….I should say that I do have memory problems, so please don't take offense if I ask a question I've already asked, and if i do it a lot or ask the same thing repeatedly.
What happens is that my memories get broken into little pockets and at any given time I can only remember one or two pockets. So, if I ask you a question we've already had a (niiiceee looong wonderful) conversation about, just give a short sentence that says something about what we talked about to trigger the memory back to the surface, you don't have to repeat everything :) . And I promise it has no bearing on how interesting the conversation was because it happens to all conversations and memories I have, its just a memory problem. - I've (temporarily) forgotten the names of people I knew for years, saw everyday... e_e , I promise, it's not you.
….If we have a good time and we share numbers, I'm really not very big on talking on the phone – I'm a heavy texter, but talking on the phone makes me kinda nervous and stressed. So don't be surprised if I turn down a phone call. I'm just not a big fan. But I'm usually up for meeting in person! If hearing my voice before we meet will make you feel better I understand, just know that the conversation won't reflect my best.
….I spend a lot of my time de-stressing for my heath, which is nearly always taken for extreme laziness. I'm a person who loves to be active, and when I have more people to have more fun with and to share life and happiness with, my energy will increase quite a bit with the added positive energy; but I do and will still need my recuperation time, so, anyone getting to know me should be aware of this.
It's not alone time I need so much as quiet time in the company of kind people, where I can just think, and plan, and settle down about things causing me difficulty. That, and sometimes I need to ask someone else to do something for me because I'll collapse if I get up to do it; so someone might be up and doing stuff while I’m sitting, apparently “relaxing”, but am, in actuality, trying desperately to maintain a modicum of awareness and my health. - It's important that this is understood and respected; if you can't do that, then don't bother messaging me, cause we really won't get along – I'll respect Ur health, so U respect mine, too.
What I’m doing with my life
Heres the summary:
"I'm not in school, currently. Life got kinda hectic & I got dismissed. But Im going to go back, get my associates (just so i can say i have it), & then finish what I started (maybe 1 year left, general ENGL degree - I wuld have done the teaching version if I had gotten the GPA for it) soon, then start over again with something new - I know i can do a lot better :) .
Probably Pol. Sci. will be the new one - always wanted to be a lawyer if I didn't work with animals (hence the ENGL degree [if I'd gotten the GPA I would have decided when I went to grad school if I'd pursue law or teaching]).
I also intend to get some kinda certificate for child care (like daycare) & I currently have the equivalent to a CNA certificate, thanks to my job.
I also plan on going to a vocational school (2 years) for working with animals in zoos and safaris - its a part if my heart and I like having varied options, U never know what the job market is like.
Im the type of person who always thirsts for knowledge, so going to school all my life isn't something I dred, rather, it suits me :) . As long as my life isn't standing still for it - as a hobby, it will add fullness to my life! So, so long as i can afford it, Ill probably have some kinda schooling most years (maybe 1/3 if a decade, total - way to be a dork! Lol.)

Im employed full time as a DSP currently, its a type of caretaker; I work with mentally challenged people (said affectionatly), providing them with a clean home, showers in the evenings, whatever meal they have that shift, and programs and entertainment and emotional support to the best of my ability, which depends on the situation & their receptivness. I guess thats it? :)
I usually work evenings, form 4pm-12am (2nd shift) at least 5 days a week, but I often pick up more shift(s) at any time of day (the other shifts are 2nd from 4pm-8/9pm, 1st shift @ 8am-4pm or 12pm-8pm [weekends only except in rare situations], & 3rd shift @ 12am-8am or 7am-10am)."

I'm looking to make a better life for myself than what I had before. I was going to college to get an English degree, but had to stop for a while - I'll return to finish it as soon as my health and funds allow, and I have other priorities right now. And once I finish the degree I started (I'm almost done, mind as well finish it - 1 year left, about) I want to start over with a different degree if I can; there's more that I want to do with my life ^-^.

I would love to write for a science magazine since I read them anyway and also write my own books. I'm also thinking of following my love and going to a vocational school where I can learn how to work with large zoo animals – my dream job is working with tigers in a zoo – no, not jumping through hoops at a circus, but I wouldn't mind doing that at a safari – there they've been rescued and might be bread to further the gene-pool, if their breeding “quality” can be verified and there are funds – either way, its a good life for them, when they can't be re-rehabilitated to be released in their natural habitat (too late to learn or not enough habitat available).
I’m really good at
art, ingenuitive projects - throw it at me and theres a good chance i can do it if Im not pressured - , critiquing information [English major] (NOT spelling, which I'm HORRIBLE at), pulling out a lot of facts and getting to the bottom of a situation - including problems - very quickly, and, I'm a very slow reader, but I'm also very good at reading. And I'm pretty sure footed, which is good for hiking and the woods in general :) [or, I used to be, the medicine i took seems to have robbed me of that, but I'll get it back!].

Being respectful and bending the rules, at the same time, and as a matter of course.
You can't really do one without the other. Life is too non-black-&-white for it to work any other way.
Often times, 2 people need your help or time, and often in clashing ways... and if its urgent for both of them, they'll appreciate you doing what you can to get things done.
Here's another way of looking at it; I like rules, and barriers. I like to flow between them like water, and to use them to jump from one to the other. With out direction its hard to find your way or to maintain traction as you walk though life. But I'm not interested in bull-dosing through them (ruining people's lives), nor in following the norm; it's not my place. I like to have adventure, and fun, and having something to do is a part of that, and, without the rules, there'd be nothing to do -.- and nothing to provide bearings. Its a fun grand maze, just there for the taking, and I love to bring people along with me for the fun and the ride!

Not being Hasty. I take things in stride, and I take my time. Everything is always more complicated than it seems, no matter what anyone says about it, and things always go so much faster when you take your time; taking your time means you can consider more and therefore ensures that there's so much less mess in the aftermath to clean up, and I'm not one to waste my time, I've got to much to do in my life already, lots of plans, and so little time to get it all done. So I wont be persuaded to waste my time on hasty and therefore resource-wasteful decisions.

And, I always try to consider everyone involved; it's neigh-on impossible to not have someone(s) get the short end of the stick in any situation, but at least that short end can be a little less short if everyone tries their best to be good to everyone, and I certainly try my best to do that. If everyone's lucky, when they get to their turn to have the short stick, hopefully it'll be long enough to not bother worrying about.
The first things people usually notice about me
Todays strong oak tree was yesterdays nut. ^.^

I'm shy.
I'm weird.

I like to have fun.

People often tell me I'm very giving and kind, usually pretty soon after getting to know me. But, I'm not going to claim that about myself - I have no way of knowing if its true :P .

Also, people notice that I don't know geography, except where Michigan, Wisconsin, Illinois, Florida and California, and Chicago are. So, wherever you live, I promise I will have no idea where it is. Even if it's a well known town.

And I can't spell, like, at all, lol :p .
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Firstoff, I like annimation, Anime, and Real-Action; types are - Action combined with story and Sci-Fi/Fantacy, and others.

science magazines, switchers, Lord of the Rings, Harry Potter, Shelters of Stone, The Elevator (something), The Jade Horse, Storm Dragon series, The Immortal Instruments series, The books about the Grey Wolf line (Demon King, +), Eragon, - stuff on philosophy, psychology, science fiction, magic... :) .

Lord of the Rings series, Harry Potter Series, Thor and all the Avengers, X-men movies, Transformers movies (not the new gf though, lol), The Seeker, Dr. Who, Lie to Me, NCIS, Bones, Prehistoric Predators, Life After People, The Science of Dogs, Dr. Doolittle stuff, The Secret Garden, Benjamin Button, Big Fish, The Notebook...

Italian, French, Nepalese/Indian, Chinese and American are okay... Casseroles and stakes. Bacon but not much other pork. Chicken, venison, and veil. Would love to try other game like kangaroo, or ostrich.

Country, folk, pop, soft rock, jazz, classical, study music.

Favorite Songs -
~ Red High Heals
~ Somebody
~?Somebody to Lean On
~Lady & The Tramp Cell Song by Girl Dog.
(~ Mouse Song in Thumbelina)

Favorite Characters -
~ Stella - From Balto 3
- Runner ups Balto, Jenna and Borris
~ Sam - from Lord of the Rings
~ Lady & the Tramp , and the philosopher dog in the jail cage.
~Beast - Beauty & the Beast
~ Nevil & Luna - Harry Potter Series [movie and book]
~ Hiccup - How to Train Your Dragon [animation movie]
~ Bruce & Dorrie - Finding Nemo [digital animation? movie]
~ Jock & the Puffin - Swan Princess [animated movie]
(~ Cell Dogs ('specially the Philosopher and singer girl) - From)
~ Ebi, Yukenari & Miharu - Girls Bravo, S01 & S02-end [Anime]
~ Timcampi - D. Grey-man [Anime]
~ Kevin - Switchers [book]
~ All main characters from Damian Demon King [Anime [dub]]
~ All Main Bleach characters [Anime [sub
The six things I could never do without
imagination/ingenuity
Serenity, Contentment & Joy
life & living life
love/loved ones
food and resturaunts :D (I'm not fat [yet :'( ])
humor
I spend a lot of time thinking about
First and foremost, though not the most often; I'm looking for a friend to share my life with. I'm looking for a serious relationship, to win though, and last through the hardships and good times of life, equally. The person i end up being with, they will be my partner, and my best friend. We should be equal to one another, they should not expect to run things or expect me to run things; sometimes someone needs to take charge when times get complex, but in the end, that's a part of being there for one another and we should ultimately stand on even ground.
I'm looking for a person I can share more of myself with than anyone else, by a long shot. They will be someone I trust implicitly, and someone I also trust to have the brains to safely handle that trust.

Again... Todays big oak tree was yesterday's nut.
If your worried about something like... if the earth speeds up you'll gain weight - don't worry, if that happens you'll have bigger problems to deal with. The grass can always be greener, for better or worse :p .

I'm always contemplating something interesting. How numbers work, how matter works... how the concept of a line, infinity, and a sphere are all interrelated.... did that when i was 10 or something. Just think about the facts of life and how they interact with each other. There's some pretty wacky stuff that can come out of it, some humorous stuff too, and some stuff you could spend a week laughing at, really :p.

And... I love to organize... but can't remember where I put anything :p - can you imagine??
On a typical Friday night I am
Hoping to have fun at a party, a movie, a camp fire... something!
And if I'm really lucky I'll actually do one of those! lol. There's gotta be people there for those to be fun.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
Well, that depends on whose asking. :)

I looove the rain, and that bright orange morning sunshine ^-^ .

One thing though, I'm still a kid ^.^ . You wouldn't know it when you're first talking to me, but trust me, I am. It's a kid that loves to just get out and have fun. Lol.

I'm sooooo very shy, but I can be very outgoing with the right peope. I'm told I'm quirky; and if I really really trust someone, they'll get to see that! ;)

My place of living needs to be kept at 74 degrees or warmer, always. Even when I sleep.

(The hair isn't curly :'( - I worked hard for those curls in that one pic. )
I’m looking for
  • Straight guys only
  • Ages 18–29
  • Near me
  • For new friends
You should message me if
[Summary: As long as this is, there's plenty to talk about, promise. I'm fun-loving and shy, looking for more to do and more people to do it with. I'm just looking for fun, kind, sweet, people to hang out with, have a good time, and to especially find all that with a special someone whose all of those, but also gentle, perceptive, empithetic, and genuine. If you wanna know more, read below :P ; if you like what you see, say hi! I'm sure we could get along well ^-^ . ]

"….I really want to find people to do physically active outdoors stuff with, namely, biking, rock climbing and proper hiking. No, I haven't done either of the last two before , but I've been itching to since I was 10 or younger - I love using my body and feeling all the muscles work! And working up a decent sweat is healthy :) and leaves you feeling goooood ^-^ . And I love being out in nature just as much." So, of Ur up for that, please say hi!

….First of all, if you can handle someone who requires a special gentle touch; if you have kindness, compassion, gentleness, and boatloads of empathy and an ability to be intuitive, then please, send me a message! If not, it's probably best you look elsewhere, sorry. Looking for kind people who can treat me right; no more being looked down on for having a hard time in life. If you wanna say hi, be kind! :)
….Since I'm really wanting to make rock climbing, kayaking and other fun & slightly?) risky but very active outdoor activities a permanent fixture in my life, please feel free message me if your into that sort of thing! :D We could have a lot of fun, and I could do with your expertise ;) I'll have to build up to all the physical activity, but I promise it'll be worth the wait ^-^ . I'm up for anything! :D
With being someone who's quite shy, putting it mildly, hopefully your the kind of person who's okay with a girl clinging to your am and finding safety in your arms in social situations, of just about any kind.

….I'm on here to find a great guy AND to change the no-friends and get-out-and-do-nothing stuff, :) , as well as. I'm hoping to find some nice people to hang out with ^-^ - some people out for a good time who also know how to chill; I love cooky and “normal” people alike – so feel free to message me whichever U think U are! :P . If we end up dating, I won't say never be jealous 'cause I honestly really really like being fussed over, but don't be the type who will be against me keeping my profile – I'm here to make friends, too!
….I really want to find people to do physically active outdoors stuff with, namely, biking, rock climbing and proper hiking. No, I haven't done either of the last two before , but I've been itching to since I was 10 or younger - I love using my body and feeling all the muscles work! And working up a decent sweat is healthy :) and leaves you feeling goooood ^-^ . And I love being out in nature just as much.

….Even-though I really really love socializing, I'm awkward and soo shy in person [and on the phone!]; it's to the point that in-person conversation can be stiff with me at times, especially with someone new; so don't be surprised if it goes that way! Just be open, fun, and yourself, and I'll warm up and calm down ^-^, and then we can have a proper good time :) . Soo, if you can take that, then great, say hello!

Soo, message me, if...

If my profile looks interesting or for any other reason :) !

Say hi if you think we might be able to enjoy a good conversation :) .

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What I'm looking for in a guy, is this:

....“Sweetness & funnness, in equal and high measure, an ability to listen & care, an ability for profound understanding and a huge quota for empathy, gentleness, an ability and willingness to defend and look after me - and be willing and prepared to accept the same from me, and compassion. Someone to become my best friend as my boyfriend. Everyone has their hard times and emotions that flow like water, but I am looking for someone who is emotionally stable with moods that don't disturb easily (but willing, if not exactly exuberant, to share when he is upset, and [eventually] why), who's perceptive and not closed-off, with boatloads of love to share, in time. And, if your wondering, I do like bigger guys over buff or skinny.”

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That was the short version! Here's the longer one:

"….I really want to find people to do physically active outdoors stuff with, namely, biking, rock climbing and proper hiking. No, I haven't done either of the last two before , but I've been itching to since I was 10 or younger - I love using my body and feeling all the muscles work! And working up a decent sweat is healthy :) and leaves you feeling goooood ^-^ . And I love being out in nature just as much." So, of Ur up for that, please say hi!

….Please be willing to listen in the hard times as well as the fun, if Ur going to message me. If U cant stand someone crying on Ur shoulder or complaining when life gets thick, or U can't stand being confronted about an issue, we'll have a hard time getting along.
….I don't let problems get buried and thus let them fester until they eat-away or rot-out a relationship (of any kind, including friendships), & ill address issues regardless of the consequences of doing so - the consequences of NOT dealing with the problem(s) are ALWAYS FAR WORSE.
….If Ur gonna belly-up when there's something to be dealt with, its going to be hard to maintain a balanced friendship or relationship, so, please be respectful of this; I dont like carelessness, laziness, or cowardice being the cause of someone's pain, and ill work toward that end, always as hard as I can.

….If U live with any kind of curfew or bedtime, or are otherwise monitored or limited in similar ways by a landlord or family or whoever else that Ur living with (so that Ur not free to be Urself or to use Ur freetime freely as U desire) , and U can't change it/get it removed or ignore it/ or work around it, then pleease DON'T message me.
Sorry, just, I can't handle it.
….I need the person to whom I open up-to to , IN TIME, want to and be able to come at the drop of a hat, to stay if I ask (work/school/etc. permitting [ONLY]), and to place me above just about everything else (games, projects, whatever), if they care about me. If they can't, it won't work.
It's not about being a selfish brat, as much as it sounds that way. I promise its a way of living that I wuld return; nothing is above those that I care for, nothing.
….I ask for this because I have psychological disabilities that require a very gentle, tender, patient touch. And time, lots of time.
….I need someone willing to stand between others whom I'm not supposed to walk away from (like their family) & me, whoever they are, to shield me from them, to protect me. Because otherwise I get mauled over by people who care about the people I date because they always seriously misunderstand me & my conditions, and I'm tired of that. I need help & support to be understood by those who matter to the person I'm with.
….I don't expect immediate devotion; but if it ever goes that far, I don't want family & friends to be the reason it doesn't work, that's sad.
….And, the respect, tenderness, gentleness, and patience is needed right off the bat. But defending me, except for saying "shes different, be nice," that usually comes with time; just realize it will be needed some day, for as long as U know me & expect me to interact with other people important to U.
….Soo... If Ur heart doesn't work that way, or if Ur the kind that always just does as Ur parents/family/friends/significant-people-in-Ur-life desire, without talking about and working for what U feel U need or what matters to U, in a reasonable way, then, don't message me.
….I don't want to come between someone & their important people in their life; and it won't be like that if everything is done right.
….Understand that I'm not going to stick around if I'm getting mistreated & not stood up for; & I'd rather not get hurt, if U can't do this, if its not in Ur nature - really, please DON'T MESSAGE ME.
….And, don't worry about breaking me; when people mistreat me, I end up left in the dirt, ground up & spit back out. But I'm resilient; I just get up and walk away, none the worse for wear. But then its over.

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What I'm looking for in a guy, is this:
…."I'm looking for someone who can be there for me, understand and be able to help me and "protect" me, be kind to me, be fun and a best friend. Someone who can comfort me at the drop of a hat, and someone who will let me do the same for them in return.
I promise I'm not a dumb blond girl. It's just, Ive had kinda a rough life, and I need someone who can take that. Most guys cant. Beyond that... a guy who loves movies and outdoors, activities and relaxing, being tended to and fawned over and doing the same for his girl; not letting anyone one else interfere, including parents, and it sounds like a great time! I'm looking for someone who is emotionally stable with moods that tend to be as smooth as a lake without ripples; everyone has their hard times and emotions that flow like water, but I'm looking for someone who's generally peaceable and calm, willing to share about things in his heart and on his mind, perceptive, and not closed-off, with boatloads of love to share, in time; willing to just sit there and be happy to enjoy eachother's company, in both good and hard times.
Also, if you're wondering what looks I like, I like bigger guys as supposed to buff or skinny; I don't really care much about looks, but someone whose bony or has rock-hard muscles is kind of uncomfortable to cuddle. I also go crazy for longer hair! (.3-7 inches, not shoulder length) Like running my hand thru it ^-^ . And, beards are scratchy!
If that's something you can handle, then we can probably have a great time ^-^ , as friends, as dates, or whatever else.

Anyway, If your up for a good time, please say hello!