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VestaMorgan

25 F Rockford, IL

I’m looking for

  • Straight guys only
  • Ages 18–29
  • Near me
  • For new friends, long-term dating

My Details

Last Online
Sep 13
Orientation
Straight
Ethnicity
White
Height
5′ 5″ (1.65m)
Body Type
Average
Diet
Anything
Smokes
No
Drinks
Socially
Drugs
Never
Religion
Christianity, and somewhat serious about it
Sign
Leo, and it’s fun to think about
Education
Working on university
Job
Medicine
Income
Less than $20,000
Relationship Status
Single
Relationship Type
Offspring
Doesn’t have kids, but wants them
Pets
Likes dogs and likes cats
Speaks
English

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My self-summary
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Okay, I wrote a general "what I'm looking for" essay. Its important to me, and also adds to this category, so here it is.

Before I say much, the first thing I should say is this: all these things that I'm am seeking, I am also offering. And, as we all know, love takes time; and the experience of finding that someone is involved and long, and also half the fun. So, for now I'm looking for someone who shares my views, finds my insites intriguing, is sweet, and with whom I can share a grand fun time! ;)

To help with all this, here's some other info. ...

I am looking for a man with a big heart. Someone who is responsible, and a gentle, patient, kind, intuitive, respectful, understanding, open-minded, and mature soul. Also a family minded person, and someone who can stand their ground, while listening to reason, and the adaptability to change their mind when new information changes their understanding on a situation, & someone who can be reasonable with and recognize compromises. And, if the opinions of family and friends are important, then he should be able to keep this from interfering with the relationship, irregardless of anything else.

I'm looking for a partner in my life.
Part of this means that I'm looking for someone to be my play partner! I always want to do new things - so someone with a good scoping ability for fun new things is someone I'd love to meet! I'm not so good at scoping, but I love to live any adventure- something new everyday would make my day everyday. There are some key things that I love: nature, being IN nature, board & card games, party games such as charades, general silliness, visiting people or volunteering at places such as nursing homes, reading writing and tv-watching my favorite ganras (nature/history/cultural stories & mythologies/intriguing biographies/fantacy/sci-fi/action/apocalypse), and anything that gets the blood pumping (including but not limited to: playing any sports game, action movies, haunted houses & hay rides, the wacky and weird, bungee jumping, a new project, practicing martial arts WITH FEELING :) , and so much more. I do love bonfires and camping/fishing). I am shy in groups and public places, but this does not mean that I don't enjoy them, in fact, I love these things! The more the merrier; groups tend to have crazy fun!
Being a partner also includes being a comforter. This means someone who will respect me, be kind to me, listen to what I have to say, care for what's in my heart - no matter what it may be, and be understanding and patient with me, and stand up for me and by my side. Someone with open arms and a shoulder to lean-on when the day turns sour, and a firm but malleable guiding hand when I'm at a loss; someone who won't give up or run when things turn tough or even confusing, but instead stands resolutely by my side, ready to take on whatever comes. Someone willing to help me through the hard things - through thick and thin - with those moments/times when life seems to explode, and even with those day-to-day irritations that sometimes aggravate life. This also means that both parties take care of their responsibilities, and don't forget to ask for help when it's needed.
Another aspect of partnership is the definition of the words partner & partnership: 'a person who takes part in an undertaking with another or others ... with shared risks and profits.' 'An association of two or more people as partners'. Both people should feel inclination toward doing their best to contribute their best to the relationship itself and all that it involves, and to full fill their own responsibilities. I don't expect the moon, but also I don't expect irresponsibility and ill-manners and poor attitude. Just looking for someone who is mature enough to have concern for taking care of the basics when it comes to both love and survival, the maturity to endeavor and appreciate the endeavors of both parties in meeting those needs, and the ability to understand that we all make mistakes and have bad days and that sometimes there is a need to have to "roll with the punches". Overall, I am looking for an appreciative, respectful, and openminded partner, with a penchant for happiness and fun!

I have seen a lot in life, and I'm looking for that person to call my home. I have a big heart, and I'm looking for someone to share all my heart with - the right someone, where we are right for each other. I'm someone who cares and will be loyal no matter what. I'm very understanding and patient, provided I'm not left anxious.
I am a unique person, with my own views and approach to life. I do love uniqueness and am always looking for that something or other that's different, odd, or otherwise stands out. It also means that my tastes on most things in life will probably be unusual. For the wrong person this will be off-putting. For the right person, this can be an experience, an entertaining adventure of discovery, and a source of various types of humor throughout time and probably at least on a daily basis; something I myself would find enjoyable in another.

Within a relationship, I am seeking someone who wants to be there for me, to back me up, and to stand by what matters to me, as well as the relationship, and decisions made as a couple, as well as his own cares. Someone who will be there no matter what, such as in hard times, and through such difficulties as loved ones of different mindsets and cares disputing a decision. I will stand by the side of anyone I love, through anything, and I have the savvy to resolve many complications in life that can't be walked-away from, albeit my solutions are often unexpected (but made with great care and as near total encompassment as I can gather!).

I understand that, to most people, family is their everything, and I will respect and adore this, but a word of caution; family members who cause a lot of interference is not something I will tolerate. Parents have their life, and their children have their own lives. Pressure from family to do what they want is something I will not tolerate. There are complicated reasons for this, and I will answer any questions regarding it if asked. Just know that I have no issues with family being a huge part of anyone's life, and in fact welcome this as a healthy part of life. I'd also accept with open arms being "welcomed into the fold", provided that I am listened to; this is in fact something I hope to find in my life-partner, in time. I have just seen the horrific affects of pushy family-members more than I care to remember. I do appreciate and understand that people will have a close-knit, loving, respectful family, filled with their own unique people and quirks ;) , and feel that getting to know all these people (maybe someday!) would be lots of fun! As long as we all respect one another. This is one of the joys of a relationship; and I will respect and have consideration for these facts-of-family, and expect respect and consideration for myself and my circumstances in return. And all of this should be reflected in any solid relationship, and always handled with.

If you find my profile compelling, I look forward to your message! I am often told I write to much, but, be assured, there is plenty more to talk about! ;D Truly, there is never enough time to do just about everything, but of course, take what you can. And have fun! Anyway, if you got this far, looking foreward to your message. :)
What I’m doing with my life
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In truth, I'm currently working most of the time. I'm a Direct Support Personnel, caring for the daily needs of developmentally disabled individuals. Something I do much love, as a profession.
When I am off and have time to do more than just sleep before returning, I try to devote some time to my projects/hobbies, including life-improvement efforts, writing books, and making time for quality-of-life things such as relaxation, reading a good book, and catching up with family. :)
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
art, ingenuitive projects - throw it at me and theres a good chance i can do it if Im not pressured - , critiquing information [English major] (NOT spelling, which I'm HORRIBLE at), pulling out a lot of facts and getting to the bottom of a situation - including problems - very quickly, and, I'm a very slow reader, but I'm also very good at reading. And I'm pretty sure footed, which is good for hiking and the woods in general :) [or, I used to be, the medicine i took seems to have robbed me of that, but I'll get it back!].

Being respectful and bending the rules, at the same time, and as a matter of course.
You can't really do one without the other. Life is too non-black-&-white for it to work any other way.
Often times, 2 people need your help or time, and often in clashing ways... and if its urgent for both of them, they'll appreciate you doing what you can to get things done.
Here's another way of looking at it; I like rules, and barriers. I like to flow between them like water, and to use them to jump from one to the other. Without direction its hard to find your way or to maintain traction as you walk though life. But I'm not interested in bull-dosing through them (ruining people's lives), nor in following the norm; it's not my place. I like to have adventure, and fun, and having something to do is a part of that, and, without the rules, there'd be nothing to do -.- and nothing to provide bearings. Its a fun grand maze, just there for the taking, and I love to bring people along with me for the fun and the ride! And, I'd love for someone to bring me along for their ride - it would be a whole new adventure!

Not being Hasty. I take things in stride, and I take my time. Everything is always more complicated than it seems, no matter what anyone says about it, and things always go so much faster when you take your time; taking your time means you can consider more and therefore ensures that there's so much less mess in the aftermath to clean up, and I'm not one to waste my time, I've got to much to do in my life already, lots of plans, and so little time to get it all done. So I wont be persuaded to waste my time on hasty and therefore resource-wasteful decisions.

And, I always try to consider everyone involved; it's neigh-on impossible to not have someone(s) get the short end of the stick in any situation, but at least that short end can be a little less short if everyone tries their best to be good to everyone, and I certainly try my best to do that. If everyone's lucky, when they get to their turn to have the short stick, hopefully it'll be long enough to not bother worrying about.
The first things people usually notice about me
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Todays strong oak tree was yesterdays nut. ^.^

I'm shy.
I'm weird.

I like to have fun.

People often tell me I'm very giving and kind, usually pretty soon after getting to know me. But, I'm not going to claim that about myself - I have no way of knowing if its true :P .

Also, people notice that I don't know geography, except where Michigan, Wisconsin, Illinois, Florida and California, and Chicago are. So, wherever you live, I promise I will have no idea where it is. Even if it's a well known town.

And I can't spell, like, at all, lol :p .
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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Firstoff, I like annimation, Anime, and Real-Action; types are - Action combined with story and Sci-Fi/Fantacy, and others.

science magazines, switchers, Lord of the Rings, Harry Potter, Shelters of Stone, The Elevator (something), The Jade Horse, Storm Dragon series, The Immortal Instruments series, The books about the Grey Wolf line (Demon King, +), Eragon, - stuff on philosophy, psychology, science fiction, magic... :) .

Lord of the Rings series, Harry Potter Series, Thor and all the Avengers, X-men movies, Transformers movies (not the new gf though, lol), The Seeker, Dr. Who, Lie to Me, NCIS, Bones, Prehistoric Predators, Life After People, The Science of Dogs, Dr. Doolittle stuff, The Secret Garden, Benjamin Button, Big Fish, The Notebook...

Italian, French, Nepalese/Indian, Chinese and American are okay... Casseroles and stakes. Bacon but not much other pork. Chicken, venison, and veil. Would love to try other game like kangaroo, or ostrich.

Country, folk, pop, soft rock, jazz, classical, study music.

Favorite Songs -
~ Red High Heals
~ Somebody
~?Somebody to Lean On
~Lady & The Tramp Cell Song by Girl Dog.
(~ Mouse Song in Thumbelina)

Favorite Characters -
~ Stella - From Balto 3
- Runner ups Balto, Jenna and Borris
~ Sam - from Lord of the Rings
~ Lady & the Tramp , and the philosopher dog in the jail cage.
~Beast - Beauty & the Beast
~ Nevil & Luna - Harry Potter Series [movie and book]
~ Hiccup - How to Train Your Dragon [animation movie]
~ Bruce & Dorrie - Finding Nemo [digital animation? movie]
~ Jock & the Puffin - Swan Princess [animated movie]
(~ Cell Dogs ('specially the Philosopher and singer girl) - From)
~ Ebi, Yukenari & Miharu - Girls Bravo, S01 & S02-end [Anime]
~ Timcampi - D. Grey-man [Anime]
~ Kevin - Switchers [book]
~ All main characters from Damian Demon King [Anime [dub]]
~ All Main Bleach characters [Anime [sub
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
imagination/ingenuity
Serenity, Contentment & Joy
life & living life
love/loved ones
food and resturaunts :D (I'm not fat [yet :'( ])
humor
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
First and foremost, though not the most often; I'm looking for a friend to share my life with. I'm looking for a serious relationship, to win though, and last through the hardships and good times of life, equally. The person i end up being with, they will be my partner, and my best friend. We should be equal to one another, they should not expect to run things or expect me to run things; sometimes someone needs to take charge when times get complex, but in the end, that's a part of being there for one another and we should ultimately stand on even ground.
I'm looking for a person I can share more of myself with than anyone else, by a long shot. They will be someone I trust implicitly, and someone I also trust to have the brains to safely handle that trust.

Again... Todays big oak tree was yesterday's nut.
If your worried about something like... if the earth speeds up you'll gain weight - don't worry, if that happens you'll have bigger problems to deal with. The grass can always be greener, for better or worse :p .

I'm always contemplating something interesting. How numbers work, how matter works... how the concept of a line, infinity, and a sphere are all interrelated.... did that when i was 10 or something. Just think about the facts of life and how they interact with each other. There's some pretty wacky stuff that can come out of it, some humorous stuff too, and some stuff you could spend a week laughing at, really :p.

And... I love to organize... but can't remember where I put anything :p - can you imagine??
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Hoping to have fun at a party, a movie, a camp fire... something!
And if I'm really lucky I'll actually do one of those! lol. There's gotta be people there for those to be fun.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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Well, that depends on whose asking. :)

I looove the rain, and that bright orange morning sunshine ^-^ .

One thing though, I'm still a kid ^.^ . You wouldn't know it when you're first talking to me, but trust me, I am. It's a kid that loves to just get out and have fun. Lol.

I'm sooooo very shy, but I can be very outgoing with the right peope. I'm told I'm quirky; and if I really really trust someone, they'll get to see that! ;)

My place of living needs to be kept at 74 degrees or warmer, always. Even when I sleep.

(The hair isn't curly :'( - I worked hard for those curls in that one pic. )
You should message me if
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[Summary: As long as this is, there's plenty to talk about, promise. I'm fun-loving and shy, looking for more to do and more people to do it with. I'm just looking for fun, kind, sweet, people to hang out with, have a good time, and to especially find all that with a special someone whose all of those, but also gentle, perceptive, empithetic, and genuine. If you wanna know more, read below :P ; if you like what you see, say hi! I'm sure we could get along well ^-^ . ]

"….I really want to find people to do physically active outdoors stuff with, namely, biking, rock climbing and proper hiking. No, I haven't done either of the last two before , but I've been itching to since I was 10 or younger - I love using my body and feeling all the muscles work! And working up a decent sweat is healthy :) and leaves you feeling goooood ^-^ . And I love being out in nature just as much." So, of Ur up for that, please say hi!

….First of all, if you can handle someone who requires a special gentle touch; if you have kindness, compassion, gentleness, and boatloads of empathy and an ability to be intuitive, then please, send me a message! If not, it's probably best you look elsewhere, sorry. Looking for kind people who can treat me right; no more being looked down on for having a hard time in life. If you wanna say hi, be kind! :)
….Since I'm really wanting to make rock climbing, kayaking and other fun & slightly?) risky but very active outdoor activities a permanent fixture in my life, please feel free message me if your into that sort of thing! :D We could have a lot of fun, and I could do with your expertise ;) I'll have to build up to all the physical activity, but I promise it'll be worth the wait ^-^ . I'm up for anything! :D
With being someone who's quite shy, putting it mildly, hopefully your the kind of person who's okay with a girl clinging to your am and finding safety in your arms in social situations, of just about any kind.

….I'm on here to find a great guy AND to change the no-friends and get-out-and-do-nothing stuff, :) , as well as. I'm hoping to find some nice people to hang out with ^-^ - some people out for a good time who also know how to chill; I love cooky and “normal” people alike – so feel free to message me whichever U think U are! :P . If we end up dating, I won't say never be jealous 'cause I honestly really really like being fussed over, but don't be the type who will be against me keeping my profile – I'm here to make friends, too!
….I really want to find people to do physically active outdoors stuff with, namely, biking, rock climbing and proper hiking. No, I haven't done either of the last two before , but I've been itching to since I was 10 or younger - I love using my body and feeling all the muscles work! And working up a decent sweat is healthy :) and leaves you feeling goooood ^-^ . And I love being out in nature just as much.

….Even-though I really really love socializing, I'm awkward and soo shy in person [and on the phone!]; it's to the point that in-person conversation can be stiff with me at times, especially with someone new; so don't be surprised if it goes that way! Just be open, fun, and yourself, and I'll warm up and calm down ^-^, and then we can have a proper good time :) . Soo, if you can take that, then great, say hello!

Soo, message me, if...

If my profile looks interesting or for any other reason :) !

Say hi if you think we might be able to enjoy a good conversation :) .

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What I'm looking for in a guy, is this:

....“Sweetness & funnness, in equal and high measure, an ability to listen & care, an ability for profound understanding and a huge quota for empathy, gentleness, an ability and willingness to defend and look after me - and be willing and prepared to accept the same from me, and compassion. Someone to become my best friend as my boyfriend. Everyone has their hard times and emotions that flow like water, but I am looking for someone who is emotionally stable with moods that don't disturb easily (but willing, if not exactly exuberant, to share when he is upset, and [eventually] why), who's perceptive and not closed-off, with boatloads of love to share, in time. And, if your wondering, I do like bigger guys over buff or skinny.”

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That was the short version! Here's the longer one:

"….I really want to find people to do physically active outdoors stuff with, namely, biking, rock climbing and proper hiking. No, I haven't done either of the last two before , but I've been itching to since I was 10 or younger - I love using my body and feeling all the muscles work! And working up a decent sweat is healthy :) and leaves you feeling goooood ^-^ . And I love being out in nature just as much." So, of Ur up for that, please say hi!

….Please be willing to listen in the hard times as well as the fun, if Ur going to message me. If U cant stand someone crying on Ur shoulder or complaining when life gets thick, or U can't stand being confronted about an issue, we'll have a hard time getting along.
….I don't let problems get buried and thus let them fester until they eat-away or rot-out a relationship (of any kind, including friendships), & ill address issues regardless of the consequences of doing so - the consequences of NOT dealing with the problem(s) are ALWAYS FAR WORSE.
….If Ur gonna belly-up when there's something to be dealt with, its going to be hard to maintain a balanced friendship or relationship, so, please be respectful of this; I dont like carelessness, laziness, or cowardice being the cause of someone's pain, and ill work toward that end, always as hard as I can.

….If U live with any kind of curfew or bedtime, or are otherwise monitored or limited in similar ways by a landlord or family or whoever else that Ur living with (so that Ur not free to be Urself or to use Ur freetime freely as U desire) , and U can't change it/get it removed or ignore it/ or work around it, then pleease DON'T message me.
Sorry, just, I can't handle it.
….I need the person to whom I open up-to to , IN TIME, want to and be able to come at the drop of a hat, to stay if I ask (work/school/etc. permitting [ONLY]), and to place me above just about everything else (games, projects, whatever), if they care about me. If they can't, it won't work.
It's not about being a selfish brat, as much as it sounds that way. I promise its a way of living that I wuld return; nothing is above those that I care for, nothing.
….I ask for this because I have psychological disabilities that require a very gentle, tender, patient touch. And time, lots of time.
….I need someone willing to stand between others whom I'm not supposed to walk away from (like their family) & me, whoever they are, to shield me from them, to protect me. Because otherwise I get mauled over by people who care about the people I date because they always seriously misunderstand me & my conditions, and I'm tired of that. I need help & support to be understood by those who matter to the person I'm with.
….I don't expect immediate devotion; but if it ever goes that far, I don't want family & friends to be the reason it doesn't work, that's sad.
….And, the respect, tenderness, gentleness, and patience is needed right off the bat. But defending me, except for saying "shes different, be nice," that usually comes with time; just realize it will be needed some day, for as long as U know me & expect me to interact with other people important to U.
….Soo... If Ur heart doesn't work that way, or if Ur the kind that always just does as Ur parents/family/friends/significant-people-in-Ur-life desire, without talking about and working for what U feel U need or what matters to U, in a reasonable way, then, don't message me.
….I don't want to come between someone & their important people in their life; and it won't be like that if everything is done right.
….Understand that I'm not going to stick around if I'm getting mistreated & not stood up for; & I'd rather not get hurt, if U can't do this, if its not in Ur nature - really, please DON'T MESSAGE ME.
….And, don't worry about breaking me; when people mistreat me, I end up left in the dirt, ground up & spit back out. But I'm resilient; I just get up and walk away, none the worse for wear. But then its over.

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What I'm looking for in a guy, is this:
…."I'm looking for someone who can be there for me, understand and be able to help me and "protect" me, be kind to me, be fun and a best friend. Someone who can comfort me at the drop of a hat, and someone who will let me do the same for them in return.
I promise I'm not a dumb blond girl. It's just, Ive had kinda a rough life, and I need someone who can take that. Most guys cant. Beyond that... a guy who loves movies and outdoors, activities and relaxing, being tended to and fawned over and doing the same for his girl; not letting anyone one else interfere, including parents, and it sounds like a great time! I'm looking for someone who is emotionally stable with moods that tend to be as smooth as a lake without ripples; everyone has their hard times and emotions that flow like water, but I'm looking for someone who's generally peaceable and calm, willing to share about things in his heart and on his mind, perceptive, and not closed-off, with boatloads of love to share, in time; willing to just sit there and be happy to enjoy eachother's company, in both good and hard times.
Also, if you're wondering what looks I like, I like bigger guys as supposed to buff or skinny; I don't really care much about looks, but someone whose bony or has rock-hard muscles is kind of uncomfortable to cuddle. I also go crazy for longer hair! (.3-7 inches, not shoulder length) Like running my hand thru it ^-^ . And, beards are scratchy!
If that's something you can handle, then we can probably have a great time ^-^ , as friends, as dates, or whatever else.

If U don't have the time to interact, communicate, and if your not open to being asked questions about confusing/questionable things, please don't message me; save everyone a lot of time. I'm very much about open communication.

Anyway, If your up for a good time, please say hello!