I've gotten a few messages on here, congratulating me, and also saying how I've instilled some hope for those still searching. With that, I'm updating this so that maybe I can help some folks out there, rather than just sounding ranty.
A lot of profiles say "I hope this site works". Well, it works as well as you do, and it all stems from what you want. If you want the right thing, you'll end up finding it. If you want the wrong thing, you'll find that too, which will probably end up in you wondering why guys are jerks lol.
My experience in dating had, up until meeting my Fiance, been hit or miss, with 'miss' being the winner. Every time. I lost count of how many times I've heard "you're SUCH a great guy....but...I just want to be friends". Honestly, with that, I did come away with a few actual friends off of here, and I appreciate that, because they were the ones who weren't full of crap, simply brushing me off as politely as possible. (yayy run-on sentences)
The problem with dating is that everyone is so used to online shopping, that that's how this is seen. Clicking through countless profiles, looking for the perfect product, and dismissing anyone who doesn't meet said criteria.
I recommend, to the women, to browse other women's profiles sometime, and see what guys see. A loooot of women more or less demand the utmost respect and thoughtfulness, and entitlement and describe what they want and yada yada. Nowhere do most (that I'd seen) of them even hint at what they'll give in return. No I don't mean sex. I mean common courtesy and respect.
I promise you that a guy would rather hear that you're not interested, than nothing at all. Sure it might suck, but we get over it and move on. I did, many times, and for the better.
I'm a short guy. Aside of a handful of semi-successful dating partners, I got shot down, almost every time, for that reason, and nothing else. Thank god, too, or else I wouldn't have met the woman I'll be marrying. =)
I'm not sure what advice I could give guys, as guys....on a dating site....can vary in who they are, what they want, and how they approach it all. Also, I was so trial-and-error in my ways, that I still don't know what I could have done better or worse.
I guess I could tell guys to always be respectful, no matter what, because you never know when 'the one' will answer your message, and end up the one you're looking for. The shallow ones don't matter, and you don't want them anyway.
Women...don't be so damn picky that you end up never meeting that one guy who could be the answer to all your questions. Looks fade, but the soul is always there.
That all said, I wish you all the best. Now go find your soulmate!