I'm an optimistic intelligent woman with a healthy dose of sass and passion. I'm young at heart, adventurous and love to have fun.
Ideally I'm looking for a non-smoker who is honest, intelligent, kind, and knows how to communicate. Someone who shares my passion for travel, healthy living, and doesn't mind that my 7 pound dog sleeps on my bed with me (he doesn't take up too much room). Emotional maturity is important but with a playful nature--knowing when to let that mischievous boy come out and play.
I'm self-employed and I can live anywhere, so I'm not opposed to moving for the right relationship but I do need sunshine on a regular basis. For the next few months I will be working in Riverside a couple of days a week.

Baggage: The good, the bad, the ugly:
The best thing about never having been married is that I've never been divorced, no crazy ex's, no children. The reasons remaining single have varied over my life--but basically I didn't want to marry the men who wanted to marry me and vice aversa. I would love to fall in love again for the rest of my life and a piece of paper would be nice, but not necessary.
My baggage is mostly physically, I've had over a dozen operations--six just on my eyes. My eyes are my best feature but have always given me trouble-- I have a lens implant, glaucoma, double vision and no depth perception, so I tend to trip over things or walk into walls because I don't see them. I like to hike but I need hiking poles even for flat surfaces. I need glasses for distance (and the glasses won't be replaced by either contacts or laser surgery--I'm not a candidate for either).
I've had cancer twice, my body has been through the war and I have scars to prove it. So if you want a body perfect, I'm not even close but my scars have faded so that in candlelight they are not even noticable.
I love children but I'm not too anxious to meet yours until a firm relationship has been established. I get very attached to children and if our relationship ends, I lose contact with the children too. I've stayed in relationships longer than I should have because of my attachment to the children.

I am a professional trainer. I teach health care professionals how to motivate their patients to stop smoking. I also have written a book and I'm working on another one. In my spare time I volunteer for the American Cancer Society as a Legislative Ambassador, for Gilda's Club-a cancer support community and for hospice. I'm a 25 year cancer thrivor and it's important to me to make life better for others--it adds meaning to my life.
I started on a bucket list early in life and I've had some amazing experiences. I've traveled all over the world, flown in bi-planes over the desert to see the Nazca Lines, helicoptered over Victoria Falls in Africa and Milford Sound in New Zealand. I've climbed temple IV at Tikal, Angkor Wat in Cambodia. I've white water river rafted down the Urabamba in Peru. I've been on several astromony trips to see the feathered serpent at Chichen Itza, and both total and annular eclipses. Spending a day at the ghats in Varansi was truely a slice of life I'll never forget but INDIA stands for I'm never doing it again.
I still have many more things I'd life to do but I would really like want a partner to share experiences with instead of doing things alone.

having fun no matter where I'm at or who I'm with. Life is an adventure. I'm good at seeing the positive and can spin almost anything into something good.

...my bright blue eyes and my smile.

Books-Illusions by Richard Bach is one of my all time favorites. I read too much for work, so I don't read much for pleasure anymore.
Shows-Wicked on stage, Person of Interest on TV (as well as The Daily show, Colbert Report).
Food-I'm really a picky eater but I will eat mystery fruit and veggies but no mystery meat for me. I love fruit, wish I could just live off of it. Have you ever tried durian? or mangosteen? I do like Thai, and mexican is my least favorite.
Music-all types including Peruvian flutes, Nepalese chanting and thai strings, classic rock n roll (80's) Not partial to country twang.

1. My dog-pure joy and unconditional love. I hope to be the person my dog thinks I am. I will always want to have a pet around. It just so unfair that they have so much shorter lives than we do.
2. My sleep number bed---so comfy. My home is my sanctuary. It's filled with things that bring me joy.
3. & 4. Passion and curiosity--makes life worth living. I have the passionate nature of Katy (from "The Way We Were") and the curiosity a child--if there is something that catches my interest, I want to know more. I could be a professional student and take endless classes because there is always something more to learn.
5. A purpose for being here--I want my life to have made a difference. When I was 32 years old with cancer--I realized that without a husband or children, there was really no one who would mourn my passing (some family and friends but no one depended on me). I decided to make a difference--which is why I volunteer so much of my time--I know that I have made the difference in the live of so many people, even if I don't know who they are.
6. Travel--I'm intensely curious about different cultures and the world. I've traveled extensively around the world but there is so much more to experience. But if I never made another international trip that would be OK too because there is so much to see and do in the states. International travel is just hard physically, I wanted to as much as possible while I'm still young.

....why there are only 6 things I can't live without and the reason why I didn't list --a relationship--because it's not something that I need, but something I want--I'm not a needy person, I do fine on my own. However, life would be much fuller if I found a true partner to enjoy and share life's adventures.

There is no "typical" in my life. Everyday is different, everyday can be a weekend or a workday for me.

Seems the men I meet are polar opposites--either they don't care much for sex (yes, there is such a thing as a 49 year old virgin, I had the misfortune of dating him for a while) to the opposite--only interested in sex. I'd like to meet a man who wants the total package, not just a part of me.

I will answer every message, so just stop by and say HI, I'm friendly and I don't bite (unless you ask me too ;-)

...If we score high in Match%--I have found that I usually get along well with a high Match%--doesn't mean we are suited for a relationship but certainly better than a "Y'all got issues" match--I've watched the TEDtalk about the algorithm OKCupid uses and it makes sense to me and I have found that when I look at the answers to a match of "Y'all got issues", I agree--we wouldn't be a good match at all because we don't agree on fundamental morals and ethics. This is one of the reasons why I've answered so many questions. I will first look at "unacceptable answers" and answer any question from there that I hadn't already. While I believe in the ability to agree to disagree, for a mate, I want someone with my same core values in politics, religion and social issues.