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VicBCPanPoly

39 M Victoria, British Columbia, CA

I’m looking for

  • Everybody
  • Ages 18–35
  • Near me
  • Who are single
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating

My Details

Last Online
Today – 5:01am
Orientation
Bisexual
Ethnicity
White
Height
5′ 10″ (1.78m)
Body Type
Overweight
Diet
Mostly anything
Smokes
No
Drinks
Socially
Drugs
Never
Religion
Atheism, and very serious about it
Sign
Virgo, but it doesn’t matter
Education
Dropped out of university
Job
Art / Music / Writing
Income
Less than $20,000
Relationship Status
Single
Relationship Type
Offspring
Doesn’t have kids, but might want them
Pets
Likes dogs and has cats
Speaks
English (Fluently), Japanese (Poorly), Other (Okay), C++ (Poorly)

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My self-summary
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I'm Jesse. I'm currently 38, physically disabled, and a musician and photographer. I know it's totally cliche, and everyone says this, but like many people on here (and probably the main reason they and I are on here), I'm super shy, and have a tough time introducing myself, but I open up more once I get to know a person. I'm, I dunno, a geek or a nerd or something--I'm into anime, video games, techno, building computers. I'm cisgender male, maybe very slightly fluid. I'm polygynosexual with pansexual tendencies (or if you prefer, polygynoromantic and pansexual). Sexually, I'm into anyone, regardless of sex, gender identity, gender expression, or parts, as long as I'm attracted to them (though I definitely have a preference for people on the feminine side of the gender spectrum; I'm rarely attracted to men). Romantically, at least based on my experience so far in life, I'm only interested in people predominantly on the feminine side of the gender spectrum, but again, regardless of physical/biological sex (our language kinda lacks a means of expressing this without getting into problematic/cissexist/binarist language), birth-assigned gender, gender identity, gender expression, or what parts they have. But this includes ciswomen, trans* women, predominantly feminine intersex, genderqueer and gender fluid people, and possibly also very passable femmes and trans femmes (meaning people who express as feminine, but don't necessarily identify as such).

My preference is for a polyamorous (closed group) relationship, specifically polyfidelity (a single committed relationship between more than 2 people, all equal), but I'm open to monogamous relationships as well, and may consider other types. Actually, ideally I'd like to have a core relationship with 2 or more people (preferably 5+), along with additional relationships with one or more committed couples, ideally who want kids but lack viable sperm.

Although I'm pretty open-minded about looks, I find short women extremely sexy. So I love that this site seems to be matching me with a lot of women around 5'0-5'3 (though I like 4'6"-5'2" best).

Professionally, I studied computer engineering in college, but wasn't able to finish due to a combination of health and financial issues which compounded each other, along with 2 failed attempts to pass C++. I've done a few programming contract jobs since then, but the only jobs I've been able to find in the field were government-sponsored programs, which dried up once I hit 30 and no longer qualified for those programs. There's been nothing since. I'm currently on disability, which sucks, but at least it pays almost twice as much as income assistance, no time limit, and lets me earn more per month without deductions. But I don't want to be stuck on that for the rest of my life, so I'm trying to build careers as a musician, photographer, and entrepreneur, still looking for IT jobs (though I can't do programming jobs any more due to my disability), and looking for other options.

BTW, if you're looking at my Personality section, I suggest swapping the "More Geeky" and "More Dominant" bars, as well as the "Less Spiritual" and "Less Into Exercise" bars.
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
Trying to sort out a computer problem that's pretty much got me stumped.

Just released an album of ambient music. http://neur0mancer.bandcamp.com/releases

Trying to crowdfund some music and photography gear.
http://gogetfunding.com/project/taking-this-show-on-the-road (music gear; goal: $15000)
http://gogetfunding.com/project/lens-fund-stage-i (photo gear; goal: $32400)
http://gogetfunding.com/project/lens-fund-stage-ii (more photo gear; goal: $731100)
http://gogetfunding.com/project/metacrowd-crowdfunding-the-crowd (promoting and supporting other crowdfunding projects; goal: $100 million (actually don't really have a specific goal for this one, just as much as possible)

Playing Overlord 2.

Not a whole lot else. Due to my disability, along with where I live, I don't have much opportunity to get out and do stuff, so mostly I just play games and make music. Having someone to do stuff with would probably help though. I made a test on this site, on electronic music knowledge. More general than a couple of excellent techno-specific tests already on the site.
Please take it here: http://www.helloquizzy.com/tests/electronic-dance-music-do-you-know-what-youre-listening-to If you do well on this, we would likely make an excellent couple.

I have a ton of projects on the go that are the current focus of my procrastination:
A Celtic/Asian fusion Christmas album. It's been in the works for about 4-5 years, and is about half done. Here's a sample:
http://soundcloud.com/dneproductions/cian-don-oiche-ud-i-mbeithil

A social networking/social media site. A competitor to Facebook etc. I've been working on it for about a year and a half, and so far have 2 potential logos and a tentative name, plus a basic plan for what it will look like and how it will work. I need more programming skills before I can actually code it though.

A bunch of websites.

A bunch of businesses, non-profit organizations, etc.

A possible anthology of short stories. I wrote one for a friend's anthology that ended up never happening, that I think is good enough for publication, and I'm debating whether to self-publish (which means writing a bunch more), or wait and see if his anthology comes together (he's doing some others, in particular a bimonthly sexpunk ezine called Full Metal Orgasm, and a fundraising one called Kizuna).

Several MMOGs. Started writing the base code that would govern the game mechanics, and creating entity classes and such, then lost all of it in a hard drive failure. Need to start again some time.

Live music performances in various genres. Here are a few samples:
http://soundcloud.com/dneproductions/dj-demonseed-hardstyle-june-17
http://soundcloud.com/dneproductions/da-1-like-damaja-multi-genre
http://soundcloud.com/dneproductions/neur0mancer-techno-live-pa
http://soundcloud.com/dneproductions/da-1-like-damaja-house-live-pa
http://soundcloud.com/dneproductions/da-1-like-damaja-breaks-jungle

A walkthrough for Neverwinter Nights. It's actually nearly done, apart from the expansions, and all the info sections, descriptions of spells etc, and organizing it and creating an index. But I lost momentum on it and haven't worked on it in months--I'm busy with other games at the moment.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Making music, photography (other than self-portraits), doing stuff with computers (fixing them, building them; not so good at programming, but I'm ok at it)
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
Elaborately (nested (parentheses)). Other than that, I really have no idea. I hope some of you will message me and tell me. I guess probably what people notice first is my disability (that I use a cane or a mobility scooter).
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Help your potential matches find common interests.
Food: Thai,Japanese, Chinese, Vietnamese, Malaysian, Ramyun, Jjamppong, Lefse, butter-fried Perogies I don't eat a lot of meat, but I do eat some, and as much seafood as possible. I'm generally not big on greens, and I hate most legumes, as well as nuts, eggs, avocados and radishes (regular cultivated ones, I'm fine with wild radishes as well as things like daikon). I'm not a big cheese fan, and particularly dislike swiss and cheddar (but I'm ok with them when they're in something, mixed with other flavours). I dislike the smell of Dijon mustard, but I'm ok with the taste in small quantities. I used to like French onion soup, but now the smell of it makes me nauseous, and the taste would likely have the same effect. I'm not much of a wine drinker.

Music: Underground house, techno (Richie Hawtin, Jeff Mills, Derrick May, Chris Liberator, Mauro Picotto), oldskool jungle and hardcore (Acen, Baby D, Hyper On Experience, Altern8), hard trance, psytrance (Infected Mushroom, Kindzadza, Oforia, Etnica, Cosmosis), gabber (Bass D & King Matthew, DJ Waxweazle, DJ Ruffneck), reggae, bhangra (Punjabi By Nature, Achanak), electrofunk (Man Parrish, Whodini, Hashim, Afrika Bambaata), Jimi Hendrix, Pink Floyd, old Metallica, Slayer, The Chieftains

http://last.fm/user/EbiTamago should give you an idea of some songs I especially love.

Movies: Chanbara eg. Lone Wolf and Cub, Zatoichi, Yojimbo; Anime eg. Akira, Ghost In The Shell; Wu xia such as Crouching Tiger, Hidden Dragon, Blood of the Dragon, One-Armed Swordsman; Wushu such as The Big Boss, Enter the Fat Dragon, Drunken Master

Books: (or rather, writers) William Gibson, Bruce Sterling, Neal Stephenson, Geoffrey Chaucer, Robert Ludlum, Douglas Adams, J.R.R. Tolkien

Some books I tend to read frequently (about every 18 months or less): The Hitch-Hiker's Guide To The Galaxy, The Long Dark Tea-Time of the Soul (both by Douglas Adams), Lord of the Rings, by J.R.R. Tolkien, Aku-Aku, by Thor Heyerdahl, Zodiac, by Neal Stephenson, The Bourne Identity, The Bourne Supremacy, The Bourne Ultimatum all by Robert Ludlum.

I'm currently reading The Matarese Circle, by Robert Ludlum, and a transition blog by @auntysarah on Twitter (a very interesting read; http://auntysarah.livejournal.com/2005/11/29/) (I haven't actually read any of it in a while, but just haven't gotten around to finishing it yet...but I'm past the point of her surgery). I recently read: The Icarus Agenda, by Robert Ludlum; The Aquitaine Progression, by Robert Ludlum; The Bourne Deception, by Eric van Lustbader; The Bourne Ultimatum, by Robert Ludlum; The Bourne Supremacy, by Robert Ludlum; The Bourne Identity, by Robert Ludlum; Holy Fire, by Bruce Sterling; Distraction, by Bruce Sterling; Heavy Weather, by Bruce Sterling; Zeitgeist, by Bruce Sterling; The Diamond Age, by Neal Stephenson; Snow Crash, by Neal Stephenson; Zodiac, by Neal Stephenson; Spook Country, by William Gibson; Pattern Recognition, by William Gibson; All Tomorrow's Parties, by William Gibson; Idoru, by William Gibson; Virtual Light, by William Gibson; Mona Lisa Overdrive, by William Gibson; Count Zero, by William Gibson; Neuromancer, by William Gibson; Learn To Program C++ in 21 Days; In Patagonia, by Bruce Chatwin; Aku Aku, by Thor Heyerdahl; Reamde, by Neal Stephenson; Matter, by Iain M. Banks; 2013 Nebula Awards Showcase; a photography magazine (Digital Camera World, the best photography mag I've found, but it's from England); The Salmon of Doubt, by Douglas Adams; The Long Dark Tea-Time Of The Soul, by Douglas Adams; Dirk Gently's Holistic Detective Agency, by Douglas Adams (for the third time since I started this list); Over Nine Waves: A Book of Irish Legends by Marie Heaney; The System of the World, by Neal Stephenson; The Confusion, by Neal Stephenson; Quicksilver, by Neal Stephenson; Cryptonomicon, by Neal Stephenson; The 1988 Annual World's Best SF, edited by Donald A. Wollheim; The 1984 Annual World's Best SF, edited by Donald A. Wollheim; Wisdom of the Elders by David Suzuki and Peter Knudtson; Dirk Gently's Holistic Detective Agency, By Douglas Adams; The Difference Engine, by William Gibson and Bruce Sterling; Do Androids Dream of Electric Sheep? by Philip K Dick; Faster: The Acceleration of Just About Everything , by James Gleick; Chaos: Making A New Science by James Gleick; Hyper Police Volume 1 by MEE (an anamorphic (furry) ecchi manga about a cute, sexy nekomimi bounty hunter; I only have the first volume though); The Hitch-Hiker's Guide To The Galaxy; The Silmarillion, by J.R.R. Tolkien; Lord of the Rings; The Hobbit (for the second time in about 3 months); Slaughterhouse Five, by Kurt Vonnegut (first time I've ever read that, though I've seen the movie a few times); The Wind-Up Bird Chronicle, by Haruki Murakami; Dangerous Visions, a speculative fiction anthology edited by Harlan Ellison; a photography magazine; The Long Dark Tea-Time of the Soul; Dirk Gently's Holistic Detective Agency; The Hobbit; The Valley of Fear; The Hound of the Baskervilles; bits and pieces from a dictionary of mythology.

TV: I don't really ever watch TV, but there are a few shows I love. Connections, Lexx, Black Adder, Red Dwarf, Zatoichi, Excel Saga, Ghost In The Shell - Stand-Alone Complex, InuYasha, Ranma 1/2, Tour de France, Giro d'Italia

Games: Far Cry, Far Cry 2, Ragnarok Online, Tabula Rasa, Baldur's Gate, Quake 2, Fantasy Quake: Rise of the Phoenix, Kodure Ookami, Legend of Kage, Road Blasters, Toki, Shinobi, Monkey Island, Grim Fandango, Quake, Quake 2, Half-Life

Currently playing: Overlord 2

Massively Multiplayer Online Games I've played: Ragnarok Online, Tabula Rasa, FlyFF, Dream of Mirror Online, Lime Odyssey (alpha), Shin Megami Tensei Online: Imagine, MU Online, Eden Eternal, Mabinogi, Fragoria (closed beta), Asda Story, Rappelz, Requiem (beta)(only played for one night), Second Life

Art: I'm not hugely into it, but some of my favourite artists include Emily Carr, M.C. Escher, H.R. Giger, the Group of Seven, Luna Milly (an incredibly talented (and extremely cute) local (Victoria, BC) young artist), Abraham Teniers, William Hogarth (an 18th century English political cartoonist)
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
Music (iPod and a good pair of headphones...Sennheisers)
I don't like being out and about without a cellphone, though I wouldn't call it a necessity
I hate going anywhere without a camera
Good food
Good ale (not all the time, but occasionally)
Taxonomy
still thinking about the rest.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
"Where the hell did the time go?" is a question that frequently crosses my mind. Like right now, at 7:09am.
House and techno music.
Trans* rights and issues; it's an issue that not nearly as many people are on side with as gay rights. Trans* people are at a point now where gay people were about 30 years ago, in terms of acceptance and protection of basic human rights. As a cisgender ally, it's something that occupies a fair bit of my attention.
Girls (and sometimes cute boys).
Photographs (or rather, potential ones) and gear.
Gender.
The lack of simple gender-neutral non-binary pronouns in common English lexicon. I hate calling a person "they/them"--to me, it's almost the same as calling a person "it". But even some of the gender-neutral pronouns we do have, eg. "hir", are just hybrids of existing binary gender pronouns, plus are difficult to pronounce in a distinctive way.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
relaxing at home. Friday night is pretty much the same as any other night for me. Of course I'd rather be out at a club, preferably playing. But that doesn't happen very often currently.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
I dunno. I'm pretty open. I guess it'd be that, although I prefer women, all my sexual experience so far has been with a guy. Not that I'm a total stranger to the female body though.
You should message me if
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You're artistic, a lover of electronic music, like clubbing and cuddling, and think we're a good match. I'm not really into doing activities just to spend time with someone, so I'm mainly looking for someone who likes doing a lot of the same things I like doing, so we can enjoy them together. I'm not very good at initiating conversations and such, so please take the initiative, don't wait for me to message you first.

I'm not sitting around waiting for a perfect match, because I figure I'm in for a long wait, but my ideal partner would have the following qualities (though none of these except maybe location are absolute requirements):
Cute
Lives in the Victoria, BC area (preferably downtown)
Loves at least one of: house, techno, jungle, oldskool hardcore (UK breakbeat), hard trance music
Loves at least one of: anime, chanbara, wushu, wu xia movies
Loves at least one of: Chinese, Japanese, Vietnamese, Thai food
Bisexual or pansexual, and LGBTIQ-friendly
Open to threesome+